I love getting and reading the comments left on my hubs by readers. I get quite a few from other hubbers, as well as some posted by "unknown" readers from the internet. I have no problem with someone's disagreeing with any view I have expressed, as long as it's done in a civil manner. The other day, however, I got a downright MEAN comment from an "unknown." I don't even remember what the hub was about, but I had a pic of my niece on it - a sweet, beautiful Asian child. This person commented that that was the ugliest child she (or he) had ever seen! Why would someone say that about a child, even if the child was not attractive? (Believe me, this child is very pretty!)
I feel kinda like Thomas Hardy - man's inhumanity to man never ceases to amaze me.
I would change the setting on your comment capsule to "must be a registered user to leave a comment". That will deter most trolls like this, and gives the admins something to go on if a registered user decides to post something abusive like that.
If it's any consolation, someone who has to attack people they don't know from behind the wall of anonymity is probably an absolutely miserable human being.
It is a fact that many among us are psychopaths. I wonder how this person would react if the tables were turned. What a brazen cowardly sociopath, just like the many prank phone callers encountered over the years.
Hey Habee, there are some of my work, for which, I choose not to accept mean comments on and some I don't mind. Example: My poetry Hubs are by me, my own form of poetry and sometimes I get people who have told me that I don't write poetry, but just words on a topic and don't follow a line of thinking or verse as poetry does.
I also receive some comments where people think that they have something to add, but in contrast to their comment, it holds no weight or even on the topic, then at which time I eliminate the comment from the Hub it was put on.
But, I know how you feel and I can understand. Try to see past or for what it is? Most of the time it is subjective to a person's knowledge and understanding, for which they themselves really don't have a clue.
Honestly? Either the person was being an asshole--a true one-- not the kind I sometimes play here on HubPages--OR--and you might not like hearing this--OR the commenter did not think your niece was that pretty and did not KNOW it was anyone related to you. it's really easy to be both mean and honest with people on the internet if you don't know them. I have not seen the picture but I have only ever posted a picture of ONE of my kids online and he is 11 and in scouts so his picture is already out there. Mighty Mom made some good points, too. People do all sorts of shit when they're drinking. (You should have seen me in college when I was drunk! I danced on table tops, couches, wandered off to empty rooms with young girls--yeah, being stoned and drunk can change a person.
if you ask me that guy/girl sounds like a real arse hole, if you know what i mean. i wouldn't pay him any attention. he's probably some fat 50 year old loser living out of his mom's basement, that loves to talk trash to people online through the home and safety of his pc or laptop. knowing full well if he did this in real life, he get beat up for it or get made fun of like he deserves. so that's why he likes to talk trash. that's why if i were you, i just delete that guy's comments, and if he's a hubpage user too to boot. then i'd report him also, since we don't need guys like that here.
That's really low habee. Do you think it possibly could have been someone from the forums who disagreed with something you said and was just being petty? I had some of my HubMob hubs rated down and wondered this. One was my Thanksgiving hub, full of great feast recipes. What could possibly be offensive about Tgiving to warrent a down arrow?!
As I said before it's about envy Habee and yourself are 'cool' intelligent hubbers ,and the forums are loaded with nasty envious people. the child was pretty , so they had to say she wasn't to feel better.
wow habee that was mean and truthfully pathetic because the writer obviously is blind! or just stupid. I can't believe that you got a message like that frmo someone. I'm so sorry habee that someone could be so cruel and dumb like that. *hugs*
You can also select the option that no comments appear without the author's permission. That way no-one will ever see any comments before you do - and then that's when the delete button comes in handy.
After I started getting a lot of spammers posting links in my comments sections, I began to use that option, and now it is standard practice for me.
Hang in there, and take the comments for what they are worth - nothing!
Yea don't waste your energy fretting about it...The internet is full of what are called Trolls...people who just want to say something negative about anything because they themselves are so pathetic...Its everywhere in every message board and forum.
That is ridiculous and it was probably an arrogant White Supremist or Klan member they are ignorant anyway! I read it and I thought the child was absolutely beautiful! Ignore them they do not have any clue what is beautiful and what is not.
Habee, I'm sure you've already thought of this yourelf; but when someone pulls that kind of crap it's more a matter of their displaying their own ugly nature for all the world to see. It's always the anonymous ones. I actually had some moron make really, really, vulgar remarks; and when I didn't approve his obscene comments he came back and posted one about "freedom of speech". Either they post crap and never come back (so it's not worth thinking about); or else they come back to see if anyone posted their remark and/or responded to them. It has to punch a hole in their balloon if they don't see their comment or a response. A lot of the time it's some half-wit fourteen-year-old who'll grow up twenty or thirty years from now, if they're lucky.
As my very wise mother used to tell me when someone would say something outrageous that hurt me: "Consider the source." The person who left that comment is an anonymous troll with nothing better to do than make him/herself feel bigger but cutting down others. The commenter could also have been drunk or high at the time, thinking he/she was hilariously funny (possibly there posting with a similarly immature friend).
I know saying, "Don't take it to heart" and "Don't let it get under your skin" can't take the hurt back. But really, it's not worth allowing this troll the power....
I was quite stunned a week or more ago when someone made a statement on one of my hubs that she had commented twice and I had snubbed her by not replying. Her comment had been particularly flattering, and probably...