Mean, nasty, vile comment!

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   habeeposted 13 years ago

   I love getting and reading the comments left on my hubs by readers. I get quite a few from other hubbers, as well as some posted by "unknown" readers from the internet. I have no problem with someone's disagreeing with any view I have expressed, as long as it's done in a civil manner. The other day, however, I got a downright MEAN comment from an "unknown."
   I don't even remember what the hub was about, but I had a pic of my niece on it - a sweet, beautiful Asian child. This person commented that that was the ugliest child she (or he) had ever seen! Why would someone say that about a child, even if the child was not attractive? (Believe me, this child is very pretty!)
   
   I feel kinda like Thomas Hardy - man's inhumanity to man never ceases to amaze me.

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Envy ,my friend! that's all. I've been coping with it all my life. for me it's a joke

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         lyricsingrayposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I have to agree with Tantrum on this one, it's a joke

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      livelongerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would change the setting on your comment capsule to "must be a registered user to leave a comment". That will deter most trolls like this, and gives the admins something to go on if a registered user decides to post something abusive like that.
      
      If it's any consolation, someone who has to attack people they don't know from behind the wall of anonymity is probably an absolutely miserable human being.

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      starme77posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You said it Habee Man's inhumanity never ceases to amaze me neither

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      getitriteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It is a fact that many among us are psychopaths.  I wonder how this person would react if the tables were turned.  What a brazen cowardly sociopath, just like the many prank phone callers encountered over the years.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      hi habee, hmmm ugly hah, I cant believe a person would comment like that to a child...in any race for that matter, rude really, Asian children are pretty lol and every child has prettiness in them,

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Hey Habee, there are some of my work, for which, I choose not to accept mean comments on and some I don't mind. Example: My poetry Hubs are by me, my own form of poetry and sometimes I get people who have told me that I don't write poetry, but just words on a topic and don't follow a line of thinking or verse as poetry does.
      
      I also receive some comments where people think that they have something to add, but in contrast to their comment, it holds no weight or even on the topic, then at which time I eliminate the comment from the Hub it was put on.
      
      But, I know how you feel and I can understand. Try to see past or for what it is? Most of the time it is subjective to a person's knowledge and understanding, for which they themselves really don't have a clue.
      
      Don't let it affect you. Have a great day!

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      people like this are cowards. and snakes in the grass. wait, snakes are cool. these people are scumbags.
      
      now that i know you can block these idiots, that's exactly whay i am going to do. p.s. she is gorgeous. they are either blind or insane.

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      shazwellynposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      internet bullies who have nothing better to do with their time x

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      wsp2469posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Honestly?  Either the person was being an asshole--a true one-- not the kind I sometimes play here on HubPages--OR--and you might not like hearing this--OR the commenter did not think your niece was that pretty and did not KNOW it was anyone related to you.  it's really easy to be both mean and honest with people on the internet if you don't know them.
      I have not seen the picture but I have only ever posted a picture of ONE of my kids online and he is 11 and in scouts so his picture is already out there.
      Mighty Mom made some good points, too.  People do all sorts of shit when they're drinking.  (You should have seen me in college when I was drunk! I danced on table tops, couches, wandered off to empty rooms with young girls--yeah, being stoned and drunk can change a person.

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       Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       if you ask me that guy/girl sounds like a real arse hole, if you know what i mean. i wouldn't pay him any attention.  he's probably some fat 50 year old loser living out of his mom's basement, that loves to talk trash to people online through the home and safety of his pc or laptop.  knowing full well if he did this in real life, he get beat up for it or get made fun of like he deserves.  so that's why he likes to talk trash.  that's why if i were you, i just delete that guy's comments, and if he's a hubpage user too to boot.  then i'd report him also, since we don't need guys like that here.

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   Uninvited Writerposted 13 years ago

   Some people are so ignorant when they can hide behind the Internet.

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      Janettaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      exactly! It's easy to say things to others when you're "anonymous"  I'm sure she is beautiful and I'm sorry you had to deal with a jerk!

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   NaomiRposted 13 years ago

   Some people just like to get a rise out of others because it makes them feel better to put down someone ... and it's easier to do it when you're anonymous online.

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   Poppa Bluesposted 13 years ago

   Why ask why? People are mean, who knows what motivates them. Perhpas they thought their comment was funny...Well, don't let it get to you, just delete.

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      Ghost32posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly.

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   habeeposted 13 years ago

   I hope it was a kid who left the nasty comment. Hopefully, no adult would be that mean and immature to verbally attack an innocent child.

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   rmcrayneposted 13 years ago

   That's really low habee.  Do you think it possibly could have been someone from the forums who disagreed with something you said and was just being petty?  I had some of my HubMob hubs rated down and wondered this.  One was my Thanksgiving hub, full of great feast recipes.  What could possibly be offensive about Tgiving to warrent a down arrow?!

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      tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      As I said before it's about envy
      Habee and yourself are 'cool' intelligent hubbers ,and the forums are loaded with nasty envious people. the child was pretty , so they had to say she wasn't to feel better.

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         rmcrayneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks t   Right back at ya.  Girl power!
         
         [added] habee looks like we were thinking alike and posting about the same time.

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            tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            thanks rmcrayne !  

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   Crazdwriterposted 13 years ago

   wow habee that was mean and truthfully pathetic because the writer obviously is blind! or just stupid. I can't believe that you got a message like that frmo someone. I'm so sorry habee that someone could be so cruel and dumb like that. *hugs*

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   habeeposted 13 years ago

   Thanks, guys. Honestly, it wouldn't bother me so much if the comment had been about me - but about a kid? Man, that's really low! I'm very protective of my loved ones - especially the kids.

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   Mishaposted 13 years ago

   As a rule, I don't post pics of my kids and relatives on the net.

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    Wow, Tantrum, thanks! I def take that as a compliment from one of the coolest of all hubbers!

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       tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I think you are! just saying what I feel

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    Randy Godwinposted 13 years ago

    I know the child and she is very pretty!  Damn those trolls!

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    Thanks, Randy, and the rest of my HP pals who posted here. I deleted the comment because I didn't want Madison to ever see it, of course. I think she reads my hubs occasionally.

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       Crazdwriterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       oh that would break her heart if she read that. Definietly dlete it spam it and send it on it's way lol

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    Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years ago

    Are you sure she's pretty?  My Mom says I'm handsome, yet still I never go outside without my helmet on.
    
    Just sayin'.

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       lorlie6posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Gad, you crack me up!

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       A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       The helmet is for your own safety.

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          lorlie6posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          

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    lorlie6posted 13 years ago

    That is child abuse, pure and simple.

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    Dame Scribeposted 13 years ago

    That person probably abusive in real life too

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    <------- Here's a pic, Ron. Would you say she's ugly??

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       Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Please let me know when she turns 18.

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          A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Please let us know when you get out of prison..perv!

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             habeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             LMAO! We'll chip in and send you a cake with a file in it, Ron.

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                Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                To hell with that, just sign my conjugal visits petition.

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       lorlie6posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Even if Ron's not around to answer, she's absolutely gorgeous-by any standards.

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       tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       BEAUTIFUL !!
       
       
       
       5 stars smilies for
       
       GORGEOUS !

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    Ron, you'll have to wait 5 more years!

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       tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Keep that avatar and your traffic will go up !

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          habeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          What - you don't think my dog is beautiful? lol

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       Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Damn!  I'll be as old as Tex by then!

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          A Texanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Put your helmet back on Ron you seem to have fallen and bumped your head.

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    NaomiRposted 13 years ago

    She's gorgeous! I'm not just saying this ... I thought that was a photo from a pageant or something.

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    I don't know where this photo was taken - it could be a pageant pic. I'm thinking it might be from her school pageant.

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    RedElfposted 13 years ago

    You can also select the option that no comments appear without the author's permission. That way no-one will ever see any comments before you do - and then that's when the delete button comes in handy.
    
    After I started getting a lot of spammers posting links in my comments sections, I began to use that option, and now it is standard practice for me.
    
    Hang in there, and take the comments for what they are worth - nothing!
    
    

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    europewalkerposted 13 years ago

    She is very pretty. Some people are just hateful and jealous.

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    GL Bellposted 13 years ago

    Yea don't waste your energy fretting about it...The internet is full of what are called Trolls...people who just want to say something negative about anything because they themselves are so pathetic...Its everywhere in every message board and forum.

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    How do I activate the "no comments show until approved" button?

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    Never mind - I figured it out.

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    earnestshubposted 13 years ago

    Habee, the child is beautiful as others have said.
    What a piece of human excrement that commenter is to say something just to be offensive. Socio pathetic!

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       Madame Xposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I agree. That's terrible that someone did that to you. Just remember all of us who love you here

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          habeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Awww...Madame, thanks for the warm fuzzy!

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    AEvansposted 13 years ago

    That is ridiculous and it was probably an arrogant White Supremist or Klan member they are ignorant anyway! I read it and I thought the child was absolutely beautiful! Ignore them they do not have any clue what is beautiful and what is not.

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       habeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I wondered the same thing, Julianna - that it might be some sick racist.

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          AEvansposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          It probably was and I certainly not ashamed to put it out there, igorance is ridiculous !

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    Jane@CMposted 13 years ago

    That is horrible!

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    sneakorocksolidposted 13 years ago

    Habee she's beautiful! Theres no call for that crap! Don't give any mind at all it's a lie from a moron!

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 13 years ago

    always remember this : IGNORANCE is usually spawned from JEALOUSY

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       Star Witnessposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       This is absolutely true.  If the girl is pictured in your avatar, that's obvious.
       
       Nastiness still makes you feel bad though, I know, so I am empathetic.

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    Habee, I'm sure you've already thought of this yourelf; but when someone pulls that kind of crap it's more a matter of their displaying their own ugly nature for all the world to see.  It's always the anonymous ones.  I actually had some moron make really, really, vulgar remarks; and when I didn't approve his obscene comments he came back and posted one about "freedom of speech".        Either they post crap and never come back (so it's not worth thinking about); or else they come back to see if anyone posted their remark and/or responded to them.  It has to punch a hole in their balloon if they don't see their comment or a response.  A lot of the time it's some half-wit fourteen-year-old who'll grow up twenty or thirty years from now, if they're lucky.   

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    Mighty Momposted 13 years ago

    As my very wise mother used to tell me when someone would say something outrageous that hurt me: "Consider the source."
    The person who left that comment is an anonymous troll with nothing better to do than make him/herself feel bigger but cutting down others.
    The commenter could also have been drunk or high at the time, thinking he/she was hilariously funny (possibly there posting with a similarly immature friend).
    
    I know saying, "Don't take it to heart" and "Don't let it get under your skin" can't take the hurt back. But really, it's not worth allowing this troll the power.... 
    
    Hugs, MM

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    mel22posted 13 years ago

    Pretty Rude!

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    hublimposted 13 years ago

    There was no need for the comment, but I expect it was added to get a rise out of you.
    
    People will have their own opinions; you will find you do not agree with a lot of them.
    
    I'd focus on the constructive comments, whether they are good or bad.

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    baconmidgetposted 13 years ago

    this is the worst  forum i have ever read on hubpages lol (only joking)
    
    and that person who left the mean comment about the niece is an A**HOLE

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