Why am I such a failure?
Well, everything is a really BIG word and it's impossible for someone, especial a human, to fail at everything.
We are adaptable. We can conform, transform and create our own life. We have the ability to bestow faith in ourselves, so we can form strengthened beliefs about understanding life.
We have the capacity to learn. Thus, absorbing knowledge and wisdom, when the knowledge is truth.
Since, you are human. It's impossible for you to do as you say.
Maybe, it's the knowledge you have, that you don't grasp? It could be a number of reasons for failure, but failure is to be learned from in and of itself. So, as to not repeat.
I'm not exactly sure what your problem is but I'm sure it looks much better than you're making out to appear.
Just a thought.I am quite serious actually. You have no way of knowing that reality exists outside of your comprehension.
Do you live life like this? Are you always like this? Just curious.
I ask, because again, you make no sense. You asked such a ridiculous question. Baiting the knowledge of human existence, so as to what? What exactly is your intention?
Please do tell. 
reality as a subjective thing, as one experiences it at an individual level is, imo, different than the objective reality that exists outside of our minds. in fact all that we perceive are simple electrical impulses in our brains, our eyes do not see, our brains do. i'm sure you knew that.
in that way, i agree with misha, there is no way to define reality out there beyond our subjective perception, which is a reality in itself. in fact the only reality we can really ponder since its the only one we know.
so reality, or a reality outside of our perception may exist, but once one has mastered perception and thus the their subjective reality (the one they personally experience) the reality out there doesn't MATTER. it may exist, but perception of reality is all that matters.
i can never experience YOUR reality and you can never experience MINE, despite the objective reality we *may* share.
and hi cagsil. i am doing well, though i feel guilty i have yet to message you. many sorries. 
Glad to here you doing well. I guess I'll have to explain myself a little bit more clearly next time. However, when I do it will most likely be a hub. So, with that said, I'm going to leave this alone, because it's already too far off topic.
So, I agree to disagree.
A very wise friend once said this to me:
"Reality is for those who can't handle drugs."
I won't elaborate more than that.
Please just chuckle. It's better that way.
Perhaps you are setting unrealistic, unobtainable goals for yourself. Try setting smaller goals that are easier to reach. With small successes under your belt, you can then proceed to ones a bit larger... Maybe?
Also: Failures are only learning processes that help you to succeed at the "big ones" later on... At least you are trying! You can never succeed if you never try! You are doing better than you think!When I saw your question indicating you feel you fail at EVERYTHING, it became necessary to see what you've written before commenting. Since your hub on your fear of mice is written extremely well, it would appear that "EVERYTHING" is something of an exaggeration.
Curiously enough, this seems to be typical for folks who suffer from self image problems. My own wife is, intermittently, one of these. My late father was another. In Pam's case, the wording might be,
"Why do I do EVERYTHING wrong?"
This despite the fact that she was in high school an Olympics-qualified athlete, graduated at the head of her high school class, garnered a 5-year pharmacology degree at one point, worked as a licensed pharmacist, raised 3 kids to be functioning adults, and a whole host of other sometimes remarkable accomplishments.
My Dad was a World War II veteran, a cattle rancher, owner/operator of a mining corporation, and likewise (with Mom, of course) raised three of us who all eventually picked up college degrees and who have contributed to society in various ways without ever going to prison. Yet when his health began to fail and he couldn't cut his own steak one day, he commented to my sister (who was cutting his meat for him),
"I'm such a burden."
Harriet firmly disagreed, of course. But the point in all three cases (Dad's, Pam's, yours) would seem to be that a mindset is in operation that can take a single setback (or "failure", if you prefer) and magnify it a thousandfold until it seems overwhelmingly obvious NOTHING is working out.
Pam, on a really bad day, will even say something like, "EVERYBODY turns on me sooner or later." Yet she'll agree--when pressed--that EVERYBODY does NOT include me, her younger half brother, her son, my two sisters, the better of her two daughters (the other one's a real witch), our friend in Georgia, and/or a number of other people.
After saying all this, it pains me to admit I don't know a surefire cure for the problem. However, I DO know that the PROBLEM ITSELF is not a failure in action or behavior or even results, but a failure in perception. Thus, the answer lies in figuring out the answer to, "How do I see good sides of my life when all these alligators in this here swamp are biting my butt?"
If I come up with an effective alligator repellent, I'll surely let you know...
1. I'm sure that's not true.
2. This thread is a success!
Take care!
All of us feel that way sometimes and our news stated that those who are always on the internet suffer from depression, well all of us must be very depressed which is highly unlikely. Believe in yourself, keep your head up and all will be o.k. here is a smie.
no ones failed until they quit trying. then you can start over again. male or female, we go though tough times. no reason to feel like a fool. we are only human,
Hey, my friend, been there, and still do it sometimes.
I've learned when I'm dead-set on being a victim that I have to just let it be what it is, and let it pass as it will. Hopefully not more than a day or two. Used to be much longer. It's a storm in the mind. So in a storm, you come in where it's warm and dry, make a little soup, read a book or something, and usually just go to bed and rest.
But we are victims of nothing, really. The only way to change your future is to change right now. Do one thing that will help get where you want to be.
You are capable of learning, growing and going in life where you want to go.Not possible. Just living is success as being human. Waking up in the morning is a success of being human. Recognizing you have a problem is a successful part of self-evaluation. Self-evalation process is the hardest part.
Since you know you've failed, then you know why you failed. Therefore, you should be able how to figure out to fix the problem. It's easy, look at it from the opposite perspective?
Again, you've recognize there is a problem, this is half your battle. Now take steps to correct.
This is only your ego talking. There is no reason for you to be pressuring yourself to be the breadwinner of the household. If you don't like your situation, then look for opportunity to improve.
I'm not particular to religion or it's upbringing of children. So, I'll leave that one to you to figure out.
This is a simple matter of self-control. Learning will power over addiction. You might benefit from seeking help, if it's already more than you can handle. By the sounds of it, your gambling might be the cause for all the other problems.
It's unknown if that is the case, unless you confirm it. And, if that is the case, you're already beyond oneself's control and require professional help.
I hope you seek out the help you need.You can't fail at being a human being unless you suddenly transform into an animal or a plant.
You can fix the situation with your children. Tell them you love them, spend more time with them.
Sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be. This doesn't mean you are a failure. It just means you weren't right for each other.
As long as you are trying your best to make money and pay bills, you haven't failed. Whomever you are trying to win "bread" for should, perhaps, pull their own weight a bit more as well.
The only thing I have to say about you failing as a Christian is that it is, once again, impossible to fail as a Christian because Christianity is not an exact definition of being. As long as you believe Christ is your Savior, you are a Christian and have not failed (or so I am told).
Gambling?
No one EVER wins at gambling! Going to a casino means that you should prepare yourself to LOSE money, don't expect to win... EVER!
As other people have said before me, you have not failed until you have stopped trying.
I'm so sorry. Crying might help. Everyone here is really nice and helpful. Last night it was me crying in the forums.
I understand how you feel, really I do. I wish I could help you feel better or make you smileBecause how many prayers go unanswered? If thoughts had anything to do with reality, life would be completely different compared to it is now.
Just a thought?It's thoughts, it's perspective and perceptions, built on by humans beings. Since, the desire result doesn't come to be, then thoughts, desires, will and wishes have nothing to do with reality. It has no affect/effect on it.
How do I know? I learned, like every other human being on the planet. I've also learned to question things I learn, so as to not be ignorant on the subject/knowledge.
You or anyone else don't want to believe science is truth in life, then you're welcome to it. However, if it wasn't for SCIENCE, civilization wouldn't be were it is today. The medical advancements wouldn't exist. Cell phones and computers wouldn't be around, if sciences were part of society's truth.
I use science in the broadest term. It covers all knowledge learned. All knowledge known to humanity comes thru some science field or another.
@KCC, this entire rant wasn't just for you. I'm sure Misha had a reply to my other post. I wasn't trying to offend you. Just trying to make a point, I find very important.
At work last week my boss was trying to call me, but since I was screwing around with the coffee pot in the kitchen I couldn't hear the phone. Then I missed the voice mail alert because I was screwing around with my radio.
He e-mailed me. There was no message, but the subject line said: IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOUR PHONE
I was completely embarrassed. But, I used this philosophy as a cover-up.
I replied,
If a tree falls in the forest, and there's nobody there to hear it, does it make a sound? I thought it was a successful dodge, but he replied:
Eventually, everybody knows everything.
This is why he is the boss. and this is why I'm so paranoid at work now.
seanorjohn: Don't call yourself a failure. Let other people do that for you.
I don't say that to be mean; just don't decide for yourself what somebody else might be thinking about you.
You are your own worst critic (as are all of us) so don't sweat it. If you define yourself when you are in a low place, that will stick to you when you are up again. That's how a person winds up feeling like a complete failure when in reality, it is not true.
- sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago
0Life is a series of ups and downs, just don't get too down and temper the highs. Remember when you have mental stress go for a walk or ride your bike it always helps. There's a lot of good people here who are your friends when you need one.
Failure is something that comes first. Success comes in second. When success comes, it kills failure. So that is the sequence of events. You really have nothing to worry about! Cheers
Easy. Because you brought things in alignment so that you could be. Usually that's what follows a melt down and self evaluation.
Beware. New chapters are beginning to unfold.
- Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago0
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