Maybe you have something to apologize for, or you think someone owes you an apology.
Does apologizing even make sense to you? Always, sometimes, never?
My motto is that if someone were truly sorry, they wouldn't have done it in the first place. It's hard for me to accept an apology from someone who should have known better, just as it is hard for people to MAKE an apology sometimes.
That's my motto too if the person did what they did deliberately.. but if it was a genuine mistake and they never repeat that mistake again then apology may be of some use
We have to remember that we are human though and we will say things out of anger just to hurt someone else. Don't you remember screaming 'I HATE YOU' at your mother growing up? In most cases, its not true, you're just angry.
I have had to apologize to people for saying things out of anger or resentment. I have even apologized to my children from time to time for yelling at them because I was so stressed by other things. This makes me human.
It doesn't mean that I can't be trusted. and I think that its wrong to claim that you don't do the same thing from time to time. after all, you are human...
Isn't that sort of expecting perfection? Maybe I misunderstand.
I have most certainly made huge mistakes, and was very sorry. Of course I should have known better, but that doesn't mean I am not truly sorry. And I will surely apologize when Ive done wrong.
If someone apologizes to me, I will accept it. Sometimes it is harder then others, and depending on whats been done, the relationship might be forever changed.
A few weeks ago I posted a thread questioning the quality of the movie The Hurt Locker. While I still feel that it doesn't stand up to many previous movies of its genre I understand its appeal. Congrats on the Oscar wins.
I think one should always apologize when having given offense, just as one should graciously accept apologies given. It's just polite and politeness seems to be something very lacking in society these days.
Words from mouth, bullet from gun are something that you can't take back. You may think that you can apologize but people never forget things in life so apology is illusion or more like tolerance. No matter how honestly sorry you feel or say, there is nothing that can forgive you.
A true apology means you will never do it again (if you have done something) or it could be a comfort offering like in a death of someones loved one.
I have a problem with the increasing popularity of apologies that seem politically motivated, like when a nation apologizes to some people it oppressed centuries ago.
I have done things that I needed to apologize for and I did...after time those actions were forgiven...maybe not forgotten, which is where I stand...I may forgive...I do not forget...a persons character will speak volumnes and to be human is to error...the action must be taken into account, some actions can not be forgiven...no matter how heartfelt the apology.
I think apologizing makes sense sometimes. Everyone makes mistakes. Some people do things without realizing it will hurt others, so even though they didn't do it on purpose, they want to express regret. If I find myself making the same mistake over and over, I do stop apologizing, because then it no longer makes sense.
A genuine apology should be accepted - and you can usually tell when an apology is genuine. it also means that the person will ensure they do not make the same mistake/error again, either to you or someone else.
If you don't accept the apology, what message does that send? The person making the apology may think, oh what the hell, why did I bother, i may as well not bother in the future and do whatever |I like.
Of course if the apology is only a lip-service apology, feel free to ignore it and never trust the person again.
I'm of the belief that everyone should do what is right for themselves and if that means that doing right comes at the expense of someones loss or ego then so be it as long as it was right for you or your family. In most situations, self preservation is more important than self sacrifice and if people can't accept an apology on those terms then they have a problem with their own ego or pride.
I hate empty apologies. I value honesty. I rather someone admit that they really don't feel guilty for doing something, no matter how malign I see it, than give a faux apology. At least I'll know where they stand and what they may be still capable of.
I am a terribly honest person---I feel guilty too much as well and apologize, honestly, but too often. I guess I hate disappointing or hurting people, even if it wasn't my fault. But, victimizing yourself is a different story.
Of course, I'm talking about apologizing for extremer cases. Not like, I ate your leftovers, sorry, when you really enjoyed it and don't care. Just a common example of white lies in my house, hehe.
Ok. I have to ask: what's with HP and all these 'apology' threads going about....some new trend I suppose....
edit: I nearly deleted that, incase I'd me made to apologize for it....!
The subject interests me, I am unaware of any other threads. Could it be some virus?
well i see one trend on internet that people who are not happy in real life something in their mind forces them to open their mouth/mind/keyboards-skills on forums/blogs/hp/squidoo... so let's not close one more door for them if they really want to vent it out...
by Writer Fox 6 years ago
For all of the people who complained about unanswered emails and unpublished articles on Squidoo, Seth just posted on his blog about apologies:http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog … ology.htmlSince he doesn't allow comments on his blog, you may comment here.
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by Elena 7 years ago
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by Kate MacAlpine 8 years ago
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by Koren Kay 7 years ago
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by Greg Schweizer 4 years ago
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