What are the 10 worst things that a parent can do to an underachieving child?
Don't show love
Constant underestimating a child
Don't show interest or don't pay attention
Lose respect for the child
Don't show appreciation
Tell them that they can never achieve their goals and that they will never amount to anything.
Don't allow the child to sense that you are (in any sense) disappointed in him or her. That advice is for parents, teachers, or anyone who has ongoing contact with that child. Not showing disappointment doesn't mean you put up a front with the child. Instead, a parent or teacher should engage in some honest soul-searching. This kind of introspection requires that we, parent or teacher, are completely honest with ourselves. First, children are not underachievers because they want to disappoint anyone. In all probability, they need additional help with the area they are struggling with. They do need to know that their parents love them unconditionally. I struggled with math all through elementary, middle, and high school. My parents told me, "Just do your best. If you have tried, and your best is a failing grade, you have done what we asked." This advice caused me to attempt to do things that I thought were extremely difficult, and sometimes I wasn't sure I could accomplish my goals----but my parents removed the fear of failure with those words. I have continued to set goals that appear difficult, and I am grateful that my parents let me know early in life that their love wasn't contingent on bringing home high math grades. (I know I answered this question with a positive answer rather than saying what parents should NOT do....this feels better to me).
Hope that's okay with others who read my answer.
Thank you for giving my answer this rating....it is so important that we (teachers, parents, etc) give children positive praise and feedback when they earn it----and give them the help they need in weak areas.
Definitely, we must encourage and appreciate our precious children. They become what we EXPECT of them.
I Had a teacher call me stupid once and I never came back to his class, he never took the time to help me learn how to solve the problem. Do not ever tell someone they are stupid or call them names, they get enough of that at school from the kids and teachers. I passed all of my classes with flying colors, my parents taught me the value of hard work and gave me lots of love so, I made it through alright. My motto is a Native American blessing: May your heart always be young and your dreams live forever!
There are many worse things parents can do to their underacheiving child.They will depromote him and will make grounded.They might take his pocket money and bonuses and will not send him for other events.They will start to think that he is of no use.Do remember that every child is unique and he has hidden talents.
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