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why do women think its sexy to be so skinny?

  1. profile image46
    drecolton77posted 7 years ago

    Its crazy how so many beatiful women starve there bodys to be beautiful if you ask me that not sexy thats scary

    1. Thunder Vixen profile image63
      Thunder Vixenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I am tired of this...I think people can be beautiful with their natural body types...people that say things to make people change their healthy weight piss me off...and I don't just mean to lose weight but I mean so many people told me that "skinny is ugly" "skinny girls have no curves" that it really hurt me. I felt ugly for being a healthy weight for my bone structure. I started eating more and more and couldn't gain so I ate more and more and I finally gained some weight and lost my natural curves and got very out of shape. So I don't want anyone to say big is better or skinny is better, but for people to say hey you look good being a healthy you...It goes both ways...

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree completely, and much is relative to height and bone structure.

      I am 43 years old and have never weighed more than 125 pounds, naturally.  Check this out I was a skinny pregnant chick too!  Now drec, that is not a glowing nurturing look, its nasty.  Really nasty.

      Okay so I do enjoy being skinny, not underweight for the clothing options, and they have a larger selection, and fit in a 'tailored' fashion.

      However I have forever wanted more poundage, well, like my mom truthfully.

      I am tiny boned (perceived as fragile), skinny legs (over rides the length when your thighs were given to someone else), girls like me just got no booty. fact. (not cool for jeans) we also were overlooked in the breast category.  Majority says if skinny chick has big boobs, bought and paid for by considerate and giving husband.  Oh yes, the combo can exist, However how often, naturallY?

      So lets recap, my overall fortune of being thin basically has left me looking far younger than I am, questionable regarding eating disorders, never getting to cuss out some dude for rude comments or starring, dresses, not jeans, asked for ID in bars til 28 years old, become an ugly angry pregnant skeleton, but be glad Ann Taylor dresses fit well

      LMFAO

      lol lol

      I want boobs too - free ones, then I can spend that money on jeans with padded jlo behinds lol

      1. sofs profile image84
        sofsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I like curves, can't stand those bean poles even when i was one. Voluptuous is better!!

        1. Thunder Vixen profile image63
          Thunder Vixenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Yea but a lot of girls who are naturally skinny are curvy...

      2. katiem2 profile image61
        katiem2posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Me too I've been a size four most all of my life I just don't gain weight and many people feel I'm to skinny, I've been called skinny and even anorexic (I can't even spell that word). 

        It's just mean,

        How bout I don't assume everyone who's on the less than thin side eats all the time...

        and you don't assume skinny people starve themselves all the time... I'm eating a bag of cheetos right now, A BIG BAG!   big_smile

    3. Ivorwen profile image71
      Ivorwenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Crazy to purposely starve?  Yes. 
      Crazy to be thin? No.

      I have never intentionally starved a single day in my life, yet am quite thin.  At one time I believed that I would gain (and keep) weight with pregnancy, but after five kids, I am about the same size I was in high school.

      Don't assume that every thin girl you see is starving herself!

      1. katiem2 profile image61
        katiem2posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        WOW amazing five kids .... You must be so proud and BUSY!  smile

    4. Analog Talk profile image61
      Analog Talkposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think the media plays a huge role in this desire to be skinny. TV, print, radio, movies -- the thinner ones get the job.

      Still, this shouldn't be encouraged. I mean, to paraphrase Lewis Pugh, a made-up mind is unstoppable. Success shouldn't be about how thin or how fat one is, or how tall or how short. It's about how much you want something that gets you to where you want to be. There's proof EVERYWHERE.

    5. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Why do women thinik it's sexy to be so skinny?

      Answer: Skinny? Is subjective and solely based on one person's perception of another. As long as the person is comfortable with their figure and they are also healthy, then it shouldn't make that big of a difference.

      The only reason anyone would be dumb enough to starve themselves, so as to be thin or skinny, as you say, is out of complete and sheer stupidity, and laziness.

      It takes about 3 days a week, about 30 minutes of working out, to maintain a slim and healthy body. It also helps if people are eating properly.

    6. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      no, starving yourself is not sexy. some modeling agents almost require it! although that seems to be changing, at least in parts of Europe. anything now can be altered with photoshop. girls look at the magazines..

      sexy is a state of mind anyway. being too skinny looks unhealthy but some also just have small frames.

    7. lady_love158 profile image60
      lady_love158posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You can't be too young, too rich, or too skiny! heehee

  2. Choke Frantic profile image83
    Choke Franticposted 7 years ago

    Bigger girls FTW. Bones sticking out everywhere is just scary.

  3. anniedee profile image73
    anniedeeposted 7 years ago

    I can't stand the "real women have curves" mentality. Everyone is fine just the way they naturally are. Yes, overweight people should strive for a healthier weight, but skinny women shouldn't be made to feel inferior just because they're small. I could stand to lose a few pounds, so I'm not just ranting because I feel persecuted. I feel so sad for anyone who is told that they're not okay the way they are.

  4. zoey24 profile image76
    zoey24posted 7 years ago

    I agree with 'analog Talk' the media does play a huge role in girls wanting to be skinny, because as soon as a celebrity puts on a bit of weight or is seen on the beach looking even slightly bloated, it is printed in every magazine for everyone included the celeb in question to see, it doesnt matter what size you are as long as you are healthy and happy with yourself, people that judge others for their body size are shallow and probably insecure about their own body anyway.

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    manumposted 7 years ago

    I think the skinny is surgical which is a lot more scary. Girls might even be getting their armpits removed, so to speak. Perhaps we should look into surgery on offer and stop offering it.

  6. habee profile image95
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Thank God I found a man who loves big women! I don't think even my skeleton is skinny! lol

    1. katiem2 profile image61
      katiem2posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Rock on Habee!  cool

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    klarawieckposted 7 years ago

    You know how some people get stuck in an era? Like those big haired fourty-year-olds that think they're still in the 80's?

    I'm just stuck in the Baroque Period - when sex-appeal was a bit more meaty! big_smile

    http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i3/catlikeretard/Rubens_Venus_at_a_Mirror_c1615.jpg

  8. joeblogs profile image61
    joeblogsposted 7 years ago

    <snipped link - do not promote your hubs in the forums>

  9. Greek One profile image74
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    I just like a woman with a beautiful smile...

    and if she MUST have a penis, it has to be smaller than mine

  10. drej2522 profile image82
    drej2522posted 7 years ago

    haha, Greek...

    From Oldschool: "Inappropriate...inappropriate."

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDkwOqRdiEk

    1. Greek One profile image74
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      your my boy, Blue!


      Duuuuuuuuust in the wiiinnnnnnnnnnnnnnd....

  11. ahorseback profile image81
    ahorsebackposted 7 years ago

    I think it is tragic that women think more of the image than  of their health. I am a people watcher, and many times I have watched women pay more attention to other women than the men that are watching them , crazy! Of course men have a there own problems , I know!  But women are so image concience that it actually seems strange to watch. And vanity? Ok I'm shutting up now........

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    JayInKansasposted 7 years ago

    I don't why either some women would starve themselves to death just to be thin that's not my preference anyway each it's own ya dig.

  13. myownworld profile image79
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    I agree that the whole culture of super skinny celebrities and size zero models has had a huge impact on the way women perceive their own bodies now. I mean, one has only to glance at a fashion magazine or at the top hollywood actresses these days to see that most of them are extremely skinny and only reinforce the concept of 'thin is beautiful'.
    And while being conscious of one's body image is a good thing (eating healthy/regularly exercising), to starve yourself to stay thin is just another extreme - but one that more and more women, especially teenagers are getting sucked into. 

    Btw. I must add, that most men I know don't care for that super skinny look; it's more of an obsession with women I think...

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      klarawieckposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. It's ridiculous! We all need to feel beautiful the way we are, even if that means you have a few extra pounds. So what?!

      1. Greek One profile image74
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        (As long as those few extra pounds ARE NOT A PENIS!!!)

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          klarawieckposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          LOL You and the penis conversation! Not again!!!

  14. gracenotes profile image90
    gracenotesposted 7 years ago

    It's not so bad to be thin when you are younger.  By the time they're over 50, women tend to look too gaunt and haggard if they're skinny.  The face that lacks enough fat padding just looks older.

    Dr. Andrew Weil has concluded it is better to be about 5-10 pounds overweight, and there are some very good reasons for this, especially for females.

  15. DreamsInBloom profile image81
    DreamsInBloomposted 7 years ago

    Thank you Thunder Vixen for saying, "people can be beautiful with their natural body types" and thank you to everyone else who has said something similar.

    Being *healthy* is the key to beauty, and for different people different weights are what is physically healthy for *them.* I remember watching one plus size model talking about how when she weighs a certain amount (about twenty to thirty pounds heavier than what is considered acceptable) she has more energy, stamina, her moods are more stable, etc. But I've also heard the opposite from others who do better physically and emotionally when they are on the thinner side. Physically they are different and thus have different needs in regards to weight.

    I am naturally thin and have faced discrimination from other women because of it. I accept people no matter what they are (even if they are morbidly obese) so it would be lovely if they would do the same. Right now because of health reasons I am too thin, and physically I would feel better if I weighed just a bit more. But I accept that I have thin body type (and even except that my being too thin right now is just fine in appearance even if it's not fine in my energy levels) and a woman who has a heavier body type would be better off accepting her body type. It would be great if Men would accept this as well.

    Physically healthy is beautiful. And physically healthy encompasses many weights and shapes.

  16. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    feeling sexy has nothing to do with your physical size - it has more to do with confidence, self-esteem, and sensory awareness.  Having been both skinny and fat, I can say that it feels best to be slim  - free and confident.  Men make up their own minds about what is sexy in women and women who are trying to please men may SAY that they feel sexier one way or another - but what they are actually doing is trying to be sexy for a man - in my experience that doesn't really work.  If you feel sexy and confident the man will think that too!  I can't say that enough!

  17. Anamika S profile image45
    Anamika Sposted 7 years ago

    I do not think skinny is sexy, neither do I think fat is sexy. I think in order for a girl to look sexy curves at the right places is helpful apart from confidence.

    1. gracenotes profile image90
      gracenotesposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Anamika, I think you've got this right.  For the most part, I really like the size I am now.  My lowest body fat percentage in recent years was about 20.5%, and this was in the 1990's.  It's amazing how different you feel about yourself when you are getting close to "buff".  And may I say it's not a particularly feminine feeling.  It depends on your body type.

      Laugh if you must, but when I reached that body fat level by working out with weights, I had a hard time sitting down.  I got so lean that I could feel the pelvic bones digging into my flesh. smile It took 6 weeks to get used to that feeling, and I'm not sure I want to go there again, even though, at some subconscious level, I know it would be better for me.  Osteoporosis runs in my family.  It is a grim spectre hanging over my head (and that of my sister's), and working out with weights slows down its development.

      OTOH, being 10 pounds overweight at my age, as I said above, wouldn't be bad, for the fact of women having more estrogen stored in fatty tissue that MIGHT help delay osteoporosis.  Perhaps there is a perfect weight to be when you are 50, and I just don't know what it is!

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    DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years ago

    go to google, click on images


    type the letters "h o" and  this is what you will get, as the most searched...

    http://www.google.com/images?hl=en& … p;gs_rfai=

    women think skinny=hot=wanted=men will have sex with you=they love you.... because it is what they are told, on many many levels, starting at a very young age.

  19. kerryg profile image88
    kerrygposted 7 years ago

    The thing that bugs me about the whole fat-vs-skinny debate is how it's always about what men like. Who cares what men like? It's obvious that they have different tastes, so there's somebody out there for everybody regardless of weight.

    Women should be happy at the weight they feel healthiest and most comfortable with, but instead (in the US) we starve ourselves to fit some ridiculous ideal that most can never hope to achieve, while in places like Mauritania, where bigger really is better, girls are literally force-fed up to 16,000 calories a day until they conform to THAT society's male-defined standard of beauty. Both situations are sick.

    /cranky feminist

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ugh.

      I have no good answer for that. I always think...who cares what men think? I need to be HEALTHY first....but then ...there I am...doing crunches every time I "feel fat"....

      1. lady_love158 profile image60
        lady_love158posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well it's working for you honey! heehee

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          DoorMattnomoreposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          hahaha. Thanks.  smile

  20. Sunny Robinson profile image70
    Sunny Robinsonposted 7 years ago

    To me, girls starving themselves is sad because that's the portrayal of how they look at themselves.  It's a fact that how they look at themselves influences how they turn off/on other people around them.  And I'm not talking sexually.  I'm talking just confidence, just wanting to be near a confident person.

    However, it's not really the size that bothers me.  It's the outlook these girls have when they try to harm themselves.  Otherwise, people of ANY sizes can be gorgeous when they just enjoy themselves.

  21. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    because they
    --think they should from dumb magazines
    when in reality men like women who are curvy not like 12 yr old boys (thin as a stick with no curves) as a man once said LOL

  22. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    Now this is HOT!

    http://s3.hubimg.com/u/1969410_f520.jpg



    Not too thin, not skinny....just damn right SEXY! lol

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      mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      too much clothing if you asked me smile

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I'll agree, but if I post anything more revealing the picture might get snipped. sad

        1. profile image0
          mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          and then banned...not good

    2. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i agree

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        mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        hmmm...just realized Alysa Melano ???

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
          schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          you talkin to me?
          what?
          she is pretty,yes

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            mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            yes...

    3. alternate poet profile image67
      alternate poetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This is why some women are obsessed with being maybe too thin, it is the commodification of woman - this is a 'she is hot' not a thing.

      But 'she' is definately HOT for all that smile

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I was talking about the picture itself AP. The woman herself doesn't need to be described...her looks do the explaining all by themselves. lol

        1. alternate poet profile image67
          alternate poetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I was just trying to say with the OP - which is WHY some women think they need to look skinny.

          It is not how women look, it how they are looked AT - and one way they are looked at is as a commodity.  If you BUY into this then you become a consumer of woman, which is a kind of abuse - ?

          1. Cagsil profile image60
            Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Oh okay.

  23. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    How about Angelina Jolie?

    http://s2.hubimg.com/u/2352629_f260.jpg


    She is not too thin or skinny. smile

    1. profile image0
      mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      how about Kate Beckinsale...

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Kate is small to begin with. I don't think she could put weight on. lol

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
          schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Do you like Pamela Anderson?

          1. Cagsil profile image60
            Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            I have a hub on her, but I liked her when she was smaller. wink big_smile If you know what I mean. lol

            1. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
              schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              yeah, i know what u mean ha!

              1. Cagsil profile image60
                Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                My dad wasn't the most educated man I ever knew, but when he told me that anything more than a handful or a mouthful was a waste, I agreed. smile wink

      2. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
        schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        did the pic disappear? :?

        1. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I didn't post one, but can if you like? lol

        2. Cagsil profile image60
          Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Here is a picture of Kate Beckinsale...on the cover of Esquire.

          http://tengossip.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/kate-beckinsale-esquire-cover-november-2009.jpg

          1. schoolgirlforreal profile image85
            schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            yuk! [i like blondes] lol j/k

            1. Cagsil profile image60
              Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

              Sorry, I couldn't post the picture that makes her look best...I would get the picture snipped and possibly myself banned. lol

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              mtsi1098posted 7 years agoin reply to this

              did someone call blondpoet?

              1. Cagsil profile image60
                Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                Now there is a healthy and very beautiful woman. lol Again, I didn't call her either. She is not too thin or skinny either. wink

 
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