Though teenage marrage is not encouraged...don't you think it is better than the kids eloping to so?
there was a matter I got to read about of kids running from home and getting married as teenagers away from their family and most times damaging their lifes and futures....i was just thinking if it won't have been better if the kids had their parents consented them getting married under their supervision...what do you think
Those aren't the only two options. They could also break up, grow up, and stay in school.
Are you suggesting to treat the symptom? Do we need to understand why is it happening? Perhaps we need to impart better values and educated them better about relationships.
I have a son that got married at 18 and his girlfriend was 17. She was pregnant with their 2nd child at the time that they finally got married. I tried so hard to convince him to finish school before they got married. I tried to convince them to quit having kids. They would get together behind our back.
Now they have four kids and she was caught cheating on him. The marriage is over. Neither one of them were grown up and she definitely had no idea what it takes to make a mariage. I tried but when everyone in your family has been divorced a half dozen times, you don't know what fidelity and working on a marriage are.
It does not do any good to allow them to get married. I really wish that I had moved him to another State to get him away from her at the start. She was giving away what all young guys want and he took with both hands. Now they know and hopefully, he will be able to get his life back together. Discourage young marriage with everything you have. It is not good.
That's a loaded question, as you can see from the other responses. Out of the hundreds of people I've known in my life, and those that have been together since highschool, there are only two relationships that have stood the test of time. This is speaking only from 11 years after graduation. While I do believe that there may be extenuating circumstances, teenagers are rarely in a place to make lifelong decisions. I remember thinking that I was going to marry both of the boys I dated in highschool. We live in a world where marriage is not taken as the absolute commitment that it once was. Being in lust, or even in love, is not the same as loving ALL of that person for the rest of your life. Teenage years are volitile. A parent consenting a marriage between teenagers just set those kids up for thinking that life is going to be full of people giving them what they want. Cause, let's be honest here....very VERY seldom are there teenagers ready to be married. F.Y.I. the two couples that I know that were together in highschool, and are still together, got married around five years after graduation.
Obviously the parents your reading about just aren't good at parenting.
That doesn't make them bad people. Sometimes we just are okay at certain talents in our life or we really suck at them. There is those who are awesome at being parents and those who can never be good parents. Its just on of those thing like doing algebra or playing the guitar...
If the teenager for some reason is already thought it was in their best interest to marriage(elope) then they are going to do it anyway, Its not like they didn't know the parents thoughts on the subject before they made their choice on it.
So the question is : if the parent is against their teenage son/daughter to get married, however if they rebel then could it be a good idea to have the marriage under supervision?
Teenagers are really not yet mature for marriage ,the best thing is to discourage them against all odds especially if they are still in school.
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