If you could have a do over raising your kids, what would it be?

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   Knowing what you know now where would you have placed more emphasis and where would you have placed less?

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      advisor4qbposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I would have never let my children play video games, no matter what my husband said.

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   abcd1111posted 15 years ago

   I would be more patient and I would be better at really being in the moment with them.
   
   Mine are both in college now. When they were little that seemed so far away...

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   Ghost32posted 15 years ago

   Hard to say, since I didn't raise them past their respective ages of 5 and 2.  Up to that point, wouldn't change a thing.

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   B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 15 years ago

   I would of never let myself leave for 5 months to find a better life, I still say and stayed in touch with my daughter, and I did get back with her father..but I found a worse life and now have to live with the consequences of what I did and not being there 24/7 like I had always been , through the good and bad with my family..
   
   at least I learned the grass is not greener and I know where I belong...

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   TINA Vposted 15 years ago

   The Early Stage from birth to childhood plays an important aspect in the development of a child.  This is the time when you form the values of your children.  They tend to be influenced more by their peers when they enter their adolescence.  However, they are more ready to face the outside world alone if they have formed good family values.
   This is just a nice information to share. Have a great weekend! :-)

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   tobey100posted 15 years ago

   Believe it or not I would'nt change a thing.  Lord knows I didn't do everything right.  Probably not even 70%.  But it turns out what I did right paid off.  I have five sons that have never been in trouble from day one.  The two oldest have gone to college on a free ride.  The younger three look like they're headed the same way.  I can't take much credit.  Working in law enforcement for the past 25 years all they've heard growing up was the bad side of society.  Guess they didn't want to head down that road.  They have an incredible mother.  Truth be know, she undoubtedly the reason!

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   h.a.borcichposted 15 years ago

   I would have left alot more fingerprints and smudges stay on the walls
   Really, my son is a great young man and we are very close. He doesn't think I couldv'e done anything better than I did in hindsight, and he attributes that to the many "I'm sorry's" I spoke through the years.
     Rather than wishing I could do any of it over, I try to focus on what I can do with him today.

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   akirchnerposted 15 years ago

   I would have concentrated less on their activities and concentrated more on what they were thinking and feeling - but then as in all things, isn't hindsight always 20/20?  I have a feeling that given the circumstances and all that we both invested in raising our children emotionally and mentally, we would probably end up doing the same things all over again.  I think the most important thing is that they knew they were loved and cherished as people so that has to be a good thing somewhere along the line as they grow up - I hope.

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   pmccrayposted 15 years ago

   I would wait until I was adult enough to have a child.  My only regret is that I was a working Mom most of my sons life, I felt I should have bonded more with him during his formative years. My son has truly made me proud, never one bit of really bad trouble and turned out to be a wonderful loving man despite me.

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    ralwusposted 15 years ago

    I would have incorporated the belt

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    Confused Motherposted 15 years ago

    I would of waited till I was older and finished college and matured a little bit more and less nieve so I would have been able to pick a better father.  My children are still young so I am sure 10,15, 20 years from now I will have a list.

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    bojanglesk8posted 15 years ago

    I would have forced them to watch less TV and eat healthier.

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    AdviceDoctorposted 15 years ago

    Well.. I probably would keep them in cages until they reached the age of 21, even though none of them are that old..

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    Actually I am in a sort of unique situation when I do repeat the process 20 years later, armed with all my accumulated life experience and knowledge, and now I do this totally different. The main difference is now I do show them my love every second in every possible way

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       rebekahELLEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       how beautiful misha. love to hear that from a parent. your children are very fortunate!!!   and so are you.

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    gingeandhalesposted 14 years ago

    My kids are only 7 and 9, but one thing I would like to go back and do (or do now) is slow down time.  They are growing up way too fast!

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    katiem2posted 14 years ago

    luckily I'm still raising my kids, 12 and 14 and I'm the youngest of six and learned a great deal of what not to do from my older siblings who had children much younger and many years before I did.  I try to remember I'm the lucky one who gets to impart as much positive as I can on them while they are in my care and enjoy them as adults down the road.  Great post thanks everyone for the great feed back. 

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    ForYourInfoposted 13 years ago

    I will try to spend more more time with my kids and will look after their individual thinking also.

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