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Why do some people get bitter about life as they get older?

  1. Darrell Roberts profile image71
    Darrell Robertsposted 4 years ago

    Why do some people get bitter about life as they get older?

  2. laringo profile image77
    laringoposted 4 years ago

    I have an opinion that starts with those aches and pains that start creeping up, the eye sight and hearing that starts fading somewhat, and those around you who feel as if they can treat you like a child. People forget about the feelings of older people and assume they don't get it. Who wouldn't be bitter. I've already tasted a little bit of this crude part of life!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Oftentimes it has to do with the reality that they are not going to accomplish all the dreams or hopes they had for their life. They tend to blame others for the choices they made along the way.
    Being around "happy people" puts them in a bad mood. In their eyes the world is getting worse day by day and they refuse to listen to anyone who says otherwise. They've decided to adopt the philosophy of not to expect much of anything good out of life so they won't be disappointed yet again.
    Last but not least they hold onto every hurt or unfair thing that ever crossed their path. It's nearly impossible to move into a positive future if you continue to carry the negativity of your past.

    1. Darrell Roberts profile image71
      Darrell Robertsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, not being able toaccomplish dreams and goals is frustrating, and that could lead to bitterness.  Thanks for the answer.

  4. Tusitala Tom profile image62
    Tusitala Tomposted 4 years ago

    I received an email from a woman today who must be around ninety years of age who, from what she tells me, is very happy despite all of her health problems.  She's even written a book on Happiness which, apparently, is making some sales.  Her advice?   Keep a diary or Happy Book, in which every day you make it a habit to write down in it any positive and happy thing which has happened to you that day.   For her, this seems to work pretty well.

    My own belief is that you need to have a 'philosophy of life' that you can live with.   That is, it has to appeal to both mind and spirit.   If we think we're only an ego-mind contained within a bag of skin, then we're in for trouble as we grow older.   We see life as the proverbial 'glass half empty.'   Or, nearer to the end of our lives - and I'm seventy-seven now so can can speak from experience of observing my comtempories - that glass isn't even half full...there might be just a few drops in the bottom.

    This is quite frightening to those who think that their life is somewhat similar to a carbon-battery cell; when the life is gone, so are they.

    So faith is good.  But knowing is even better.  So my advice to all is get to know who and what you really are and the fear of death, along with all the bitterness and recrimminations will fall away.

  5. brakel2 profile image83
    brakel2posted 4 years ago

    Many people become bitter when they become ill and have no support system. They may hibernate and become worse. No matter what, their only hope is to eat well , exercise some, play computer games or have a hobby to keep brain sharp, and somehow find friends or relatives for support. Reading and writing help,along with a religious philosophy. Humor can also keep you young.  Bitterness will result in deterioration.

  6. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    People grow and change all the time. When they reach a certain all gets bitter the number gets inside their minds.  It is like they hate themselves. Older makes them unhappy and less energetic.They are not able to do stuff like once before and  this is why bitterness is noticed.

  7. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    i agree with @brakel2, Older folks like my dad and mom who have diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, irregular heart beat, tinnitus, OCD... so many illness, eh? ... Too much bitter than happiness for them. Too much pills to swallow and one after another dr appointments to follow up and have to go strict diet. That is sure bitter!