Older woman; REALLY young man!

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   perfectperceptionposted 13 years ago

   I'm a single mom having an issue dealing with the fact that my son is dating an older woman.  What are your thoughts?

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      bird of happinesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      well my best friend is a couger woman , but its depend how old is your sons girlfriend and how old is he?
      in my friends case they both just fill interests to each other, and psychological needs, they both know it will have no future and its only now , so they live the moment. i dont know what it is in your case.

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      waynetposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Ding dong I say....he'll learn lots of interesting stuff like how to cook and tie his shoe laces and many other things!

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      peachpurpleposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      if the older woman is mature and not married, give it a shot. Older woman not more than 6 years should be ok eventhough she may look like an older sis. She might turn your son into a mature man.

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      purpleangel47posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well, now that I've been dropped kicking and screaming into the "older woman" category - and where did that 'cougar' reference for older women come from? - I can see how easy it could be to relate to a younger man whose maturity matches mine. Never dated anybody younger yet; but there's an energy, vitality and FUN aspect of my own personality that doesn't seem to fit with some men my age and older. I usually think of age as just two vowels and a consonant.

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   KCC Big Countryposted 13 years ago

   How old, how young?  Generally, I'm ok with it.  Gotta be legal though.

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   I wouldn't be too thrilled about it, by any means; but if the son is over a certain age there's not much his mother can do about it.  If she were good to him, and good for him, I suppose I'd be more able to overcome my "issues" with it than if I thought she was some old, immature, loser  () who was using him, or if I thought my son were using her.
   
   (The other day I was talking with someone who is the mother of grown kids.  We were talking about worries, etc. etc., and she laughed and said, "I've learned that when it comes to grown kids and the stuff they do, you just have to say, 'Whatever...'".  (Of course, she was talking about  kids 24/25 and over.)

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   alternate poetposted 13 years ago

   The biggest issue in large age gap relationships is other people. As long as the age difference in the relationship is not used in an abusive way then they can both gain from it in more positive ways than you can imagine.
   
   Part of the problem is that when your son 'leaves' you for another woman you can keep the advantages of experience and seniority to retain some kind of control over your son, when the partner is equal to you - you just lose him.  If you have done your job right he will keep you, don't worry

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   lorlie6posted 13 years ago

   I married a man 13 years my junior.  We're still going strong.  Needless to say, my family was up in arms, but our love is lasting longer than some of theirs.

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      steelone1posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Are u still married?

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm the available elderly!
   
   I remember in my single days, I LOVED dating older women...
   
   We would go lawn bowling, the watch The Price is Right ALL NIGHT LONG!
   
   In the morning I would go home smelling of Ben Gay, with bag loads of hard candy in my pockets.

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      Sed-meposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Penny whistles and moon pies!

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   BRIAN SLATERposted 13 years ago

   Depending on his age, providing he's older enough to get dressed himself I would say let him enjoy himself and have some fun. Better for him to learn about women from an experienced partner. He will become a better lover because of it, lets just hope she makes him breakfast or your fridge will empty double quick.

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