In youth sports like travel soccer, it's competive i wouln't deny that. But you'll be suprised to know that it's not the kids but the adults. Screaming on the sidelines. Yelling at the refs. It's crazy
I have yet to see a "crazy" parent with my son's team, but I think it is a bit ridiculous that we are keeping batting statistics for 6 year olds.
I used to coach youth football (75 lbs, ages 9-12)and seen some crazy parents. One kid came to a game obviously not feeling well. His father got mad at him because he let us coaches see that he was sick instead of suppressing that feeling inside. He eventually pulled the kid from the team because he wasn't "getting the ball enough". He was acting as if NCAA and NFL scouts were watching the game.
A child's competitiveness is about winning the game. The child naturally wants to be the leader or the best. An example of that is boys and girls in school. If a competition is offered, they polarize and the boys compete against the girls. The goal is show which gender is the best. After the competition is over, they go back to playing and interacting. No harsh feelings. But look at the adults.
Adults tend to personalize competition. They become a child once again when they see their kid on the field. They want to win the game so badly that they lose all sense of reason. They revert to a lost time in their childhood. I believe that is the reason some parents get so upset when their child is sent to the sideline or taken out of the game. In that brief moment in time its the child in the adult that is being reprimanded. I believe its the adult that is competitive and not the child.
Its just a way for a parent to live throught their child, really sad. Its every sport not just soccer. i remember going to my youngers bro's baseball game and hearing another dad say "he cant hit get him off the field" It made me really mad (i was 14 0r 15 and my bro was 9-10) before I could say something, my dad turned around and told the guy "if you dont stop talkin about my son I'll throw you through that fence" needless to say he was quite the rest of the season!!!
It's not a surprise. News have been reporting on these parents for years.
The sad thing is you don't find them not just on the athletic field. You can find them tailgating cars, Cutting people off in traffic, trying to stir up road rage, harassing their neighbors.
These so-call adults aren't adults at all, they are just Big Kids.
I think the kids want to win but I have to say from my experience, the coaches and schools are the competitive ones since they stop at nothing for a piece of metal (the trophy) which stays with the school and makes them and the coach look good.
My parents were not like the ones you are describing. They wanted me to have fun. If I wasn't having fun then it's not worth all the hard work. It's a sport and most parents know that the NFL, or NBA isn't going to be knocking down your door. It's to learn teamwork, respect, dedication, and build self-esteem.
I wish more coaches thought that way though. They just want to win, win, win, at all costs and puts a lot of pressure on kids and who needs that with the normal pressures of life. Pressure to do well is one thing, pressure as in you cannot speak your mind or the coach will wig out is another. Better tact and training is in order.
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