Can a sraight guy ever be curious of becoming gay ?

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   tiffany lianposted 13 years ago

   My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. Recently, I borrowed his laptop to do some research, I ended up finding gay porn in his internet History. I confronted him about the situation and he said he was just "curious"..

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   that is called being 'bi-curious'...
   
   the precursor to becoming 'bi-sexual'... 
   
   which involves one man riding another as if he was a 'bi-cycle"

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      tiffany lianposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      But i mean he says he was just curious and he really is not gay.... is that even possible?

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         Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Your question in it's context defeats the words you're using.
         
         To be gay, is to strictly adhere to sexual activity with the same gender. Just like lesbian. Being bi-sexual is a different thing altogether.
         
         His curious nature is to try to understand both sides. I could make a suggestion that could give you a better understanding, however, it would be inappropriate for the forums. So, if you want, email me and I'll give the idea.
         
         I had a girlfriend who was bi-sexual.

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         Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Sure, it is possible that he has not had sex with a man
         
         Sure, it is possible that he will not have sex with a man
         
         But unless he is a 12 year old boys... most look at porn not out of curiosity (i mean what is there to be curious about.. we can all imaging what thing goes where)... but out of desire.
         
         Are we talking about a few webpages, or enough data to fill 5 super computers?

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         Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Yes, it is possible. Until you actually confront the possibility, you don't know for sure.
         
         It may be better for you to encourage him to be open and honest with his feelings and try not to make him defensive, which will make him shut down on the subject all together.

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   knolyourselfposted 13 years ago

   People who are into bdsm and such say that everybody is bi and suppressed.

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   Daffy Duckposted 13 years ago

   They can be curious and even become gay.  The thing is they will be straight again.  I believe that being gay or lesbian is not a choice.  You are attracted to who you're attracted to.  This can't be helped.  Although being attracted to children is the exception to this.  Those people are just sick.

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   Bill Manningposted 13 years ago

   As someone who runs adult sites and belongs to many adult forums, it's my opinion that almost everyone is a bit bisexual. Most just never go there.
   
   How far your guy has gone or wants to go is,,,,, something you have no idea about, do you?
   
   Therefor I suggest you have a really long, frank and open talk to him. Chances are it's just what he said, just curious.
   
   But it's better anyway to talk openly about it and avoid any problems later on. Two adults should have no problem talking about anything sexual. Your relationship in fact depends on it.
   
   At least if you want a happy one.

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      Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      you're hitting on me aren't you?
      
      I can respect that, and it's nice to have options...
      
      but I am a happily married man

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         Bill Manningposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         
         
         Relax Greek One, I love women very much and have never been with a dude. I'm just stating what I have observed.

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            Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            so if I can restate what you just typed.. for clarity sake...
            
            IF you were ever so inclined, and if I was so inclined, you would call me.. right?
            
            

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               Bill Manningposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Even if I was inclined, I don't go for guys with beards, sorry.

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                  Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  what does my back have to do with anything??

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   brimancandyposted 8 years ago

   I know  I'm responding late, but I wouldn't worry about it. There is so much porn on the internet, he could have been looking at both straight and gay porn, just because it was there. A lot of adult sites offer both gay and straight porn to cash in on any money they can get from anyone.
   
   I'm gay, and a lot of gay sites loop to straight for no reason. If you type in a certain word into google and don't use an adult filter, a generic link will show up, and when you click on that link it often comes up as porn. And, that site that you linked to is stored in your history no matter how long you looked at it. So, finding one link to a gay site means nothing.
   
   Finding a huge list of porn sites in his favorites, now that might raise more questions.But,still, even if he has looked at 100 gay sites. Doesn't mean he's gay. I have heard of straight guys sending their buddies gay links as a joke, because they think it's funny.
   
   A straight guy sent me a gay phone call from a sex line at work. Funny that my boss was standing next to me, and I told her...oh it's for you. She listened for like 5 seconds and said...now I have seen and heard everything. She knew where it came from, and yelled out. Our business phones are not a toy people!! Use them correctly!!

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