The Purpose of Love is to Get Married ! Is that True?

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   alisha4uposted 12 years ago

   You love each other,  you can't live without each other and then you get married. Purpose of love solved !!
   But, Is that it ? Does love still remains?? Is Marriage the End of Love?

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      A Thousand Wordsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's a very simple way to look at love in my opinion. Love doesn't have to end at, or even lead to marriage. Of course that's a societal norm, especially in where I live, but why does love have to have a "purpose" or end "goal?" Love is a beautiful thing that time and affection can develop into a very deep connection with another person that can last as long as the two people are willing to give it life and how devoted they are to each other.

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      couturepopcafeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Love has no purpose other than it's own existence. It should underscore every action we take and every purpose we intend.
      
      Marriage is used to satisfy the need for control, submission, closure, and insecurity. In the modern age it's used as a cover for procreation. Other than that, it has no inherent purpose. You can love someone without the need to marry them. In fact, it is a greater test of love and trust not to legally marry.

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         A Thousand Wordsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         +1...million

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   Shadesbreathposted 12 years ago

   The purpose of love, in evolutionary terms anyway, is pair bonding. While it might be easy to assume that means marriage, it does not in its most elemental form. "Love" is the sequence of chemicals released that invoke protective instincts and mutual cooperation that facilitate reproductive success (which in modern times does not necessarily require following through with reproduction, merely the act of "trying").
   
   Marriage is a social construct that arose as humans began to live in larger and larger groups. It is an obvious solution to the conflicts that arise if there are enough males around to make a singular Alpha male incapable of defending all the women he would keep to himself in a smaller group. It is a social contract that enables harmony, and it's always been supported by some variation of religious order to impose the will of supernatural on it for validity.
   
   So, while seemingly connected, they are not. There can be love without marriage, and there can certainly be marriage without love (arranged, forced etc.).
   
   The relationship between them is, in a way, incidental, if you look at the larger human context.

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      couturepopcafeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Well spoken, SB. In evolutionary terms. But love goes well beyond evolution and pair bonding. It is a learned experience that gives us the foundational information we need to continue living. The hope of each generation lays within the amount of love it experiences. Suicide and despair are directly correlated to perceived lack of love so it's vitally important that we live it and give everyday to as many people as possible.

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   MazioCreateposted 12 years ago

   Shadesbreath you have artfully answered this question. With regards to alisha4u's question within a question - Does love still remain after marriage? that is another minefield altogether.
   
   There are as many answers as there marriages or partnerships to this quesiton. It can last for decades, but not as that lustful high energy, OMG I've got to be with you feeling that first brought two people together. Having an understanding of stages that form a relationship would help some people 'see' what is happening as a natural progression to another phase or stage. On the other hand though, you just can't sit back and expect love to last. Both people need to be actively involved in developing and nurturing that love for their partner.

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   sam209posted 12 years ago

   I personally believe in marriage, but some people who love their significant others just aren't ready for marriage for whatever reason. I don't think marriage is the end of love, I feel it's the beginning! But for some, marriage can certainly mean predestined disaster.

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   The Invincibleposted 12 years ago

   Love affairs these days, if sustained for long turns into marriage. People are bold enough to take this step.
   But, love does't always find itself lucky enough to be in the state of marriage.
   OMG, you asked too many things at once...LOL !!
   
   But, i myself wonder if Marriage is the ultimate end? I'm not sure what to say about it...

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   roxanne459posted 12 years ago

   There have been songs, poems, and many jokes about how marriage and/or kids can be the death of love and intimacy.
   Not true!
   Love is an ongoing thing and needs to be renewed daily. It isn't like an incurable disease that never goes away once you have it. It's more like a beautiful, fragrant flower. If you put it in the cold dark basement without any water or sunlight, it will die.
   In short, marriage doesn't kill love. People do.

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      The Invincibleposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      So true....

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   The Writers Dogposted 12 years ago

   The answer to your question is "no"

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   ajayshah2005posted 12 years ago

   Purpose of "TRUE LOVE" is marriage but the marriage is not the end of true love,it continues and continues.

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      alisha4uposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      But, the purpose remains unfinished many-a-times in a relationship... Not always you get what you desire...unless you're Lucky enough.

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   tsmogposted 12 years ago

   The Purpose of Love is to Get Married ! Is that True? (I am memory challenged. SO to stay focused on the question I posted it to see it.)
   
   Naw, I don't think so. My understanding of Love comes from the book "The Four Loves" by what his name. He wrote Chronicles of Nardia. Any hoot, in my view the first thing I recognize is "Love cannot be owned." It is both Free and an agent of liberation. In a relationship, in my view, if my mate or prospective mate doesn't understand I love ____________________ while I understand she loves _______________ then we better start talking.
   
   The second thing is I recognize that Love is eternal. To simplify that, if I don't recognize, acknowledge and accept she loved someone else(s) before me, then I am a fool! And, the flip side of the coin is she 'will' love someone else too in the future other than me.
   
   Then comes the puzzle. Is there a difference between being in 'love' and being in love with someone.

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      alisha4uposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Impressive Response !!

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    pixnumposted 12 years ago

    The purpose of love is to love forever. But, it is not for marriage.

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       alisha4uposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, the purpose is indeed to love forever without bothering too much about the future... Let everything happen by itself...

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    L.Lawyerposted 12 years ago

    marriage isnt really nessesary in this day and age, it used to be considered without marriage there was no life. but now a relationship is considered ordinary with or without marriage. scientifically love is when an extreme amount of 'feel good hormones' are produced around somebody you are attracted to phisically and emotionally. how ever i believe love is something that just exists and keeps us together, love can fade or last forever, its purpose? to keep us sane and to make us smile.

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       alisha4uposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Love doesn't keep you smiling always.. There are times when you feel dejected.
       I like your response anyways...

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          L.Lawyerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          yes but would marriage solve this? i dont believe so. but in love dont you think the good moments outshine the bad? mostly anyway. those are the bits that make you smile and stick in your memory

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