Why do you have a kid?!?!?

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   Why the f*** do you have a kid?
   
   
   
   This really makes you wonder, do some people deserve to be parents?? Why did you have children? What makes someone a bad parent? Is it crazy things like this? Or something else?

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      Eaglekiwiposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Gotta be something in the water , or the burgers
      
      It is serious and I hate it!! big people who bully little people!!
      If it was an adult they would be charged with assault
      If it was an animal , cruelty and abuse
      But small humans , well...its up to the individual to do what they can, immediatley 

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      Poppa Bluesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well, I was a dad at 22... It wasn't something we planned, just something that happens when 2 careless kids seek to satisfy the hungry hormonal urges that rack the bodies of our youth. In any case, I wasn't a very good father, because I was just to young to know what it took to be a good father. I had no training other then the example of my own father who worked 2 jobs most of my childhood so I didn't get to see him much. Still I wasn't a bad father either, but I certainly would have been a better father if I had my kids when I was older and wiser.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   Well, to be completely fair, don't see any really bad parents in any of the pics. But I am cultural and moral relativist though
   
   Oh, and thanks for the giggles

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   I'm asking what makes a bad parent. Keep looking through them.. first page isn't bad at all. Wearing "abnormal" clothes with your kid is cool. Its the gun pics I don't care for. You're welcome

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      Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I looked through the whole page Cole. The gun is a variation of AK-47. What's that alarming about it? Firefighters take pics of their kids with water nozzles (or however else that thing is called in English), soldiers with guns. It's all how people are
      
      If anything I would mark the most silly the ice-cream one, cause obviously at that age it does not do any good to a kid.
      
      Or, and that pic you just posted, a pure fun. I did this to my kids, and still do sometimes. They love to hang head down.

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   SweetiePieposted 14 years ago

   I have seen that site and it is quite different, to say the least.

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   earnestshubposted 14 years ago

   That is very funny Colebabie! Truthfully? Because they fill your soul and spirit to the brim!

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   Colebabieposted 14 years ago

   There are more pages, click Next at the bottom of the screen.

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   k@riposted 14 years ago

   LOL!  I cannot say WHY I have kids...just that I feel lucky to have the ones I have! 

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   OK, lemme see

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   LOL I looked through a few more pages, some pics are funny, most captions are retarded and don't show anything besides author ignorance. Obviously s/he never had kids. Sorry, I am just a relativist and can't help it
   
   Oh, and to answer a title question - because it is the best you can ever experience in this life. 

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      k@riposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Seems I missed some of the question...but I agree, it is the best you can experience in this life! 

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    that's sad...

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    iamqweenbeeposted 14 years ago

    I have to agree with Misha on this because people raise their children differently. It might be a cultural difference, a familial difference, etc.
    
    Some families go hunting together, so they teach their children early about guns. Some ride horses early. Some learn to sing and dance early. My family always have been rough with the boys so they won't grow to be soft. My grandson, in particular, likes roughness. If you do not put a little roughness in playtime with him, he thinks you are weak. If he saw that picture of the kid upside down, he will turn to me and ask that I do that to him. My granddaughter does not like roughness, so we teach her to be dainty, as all the ladies in my family are.
    
    At least the woman in the picture didn't throw him down or anything. The child might enjoys that.
    
    There are some things I would not do, but, I am sure when parents do things with their children, they are still being good parents, although some may not agree. Some of who we are come out when raising our children. I would question it if the parent is actually beating their child, starving their child, and etc

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       Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Its all in fun. I agree everyone has different parenting styles. That lady in the pic is clearly not playin' though

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          iamqweenbeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Oh well if she is not playing, then I agree with you on that

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    earnestshubposted 14 years ago

    It was  Kahlil Gibran who said that children are love's longing for itself. I find the love of children to be a powerful force in my life.

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       iamqweenbeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       DITTO!!!

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    Davinagirl3posted 14 years ago

    I knew it was time for me to have a baby when my husband got pricked with an HIV needle while working in the ICU.  I had always wanted to have kids, it just never seemed like the right time.  I love my husband and when he had his final test, a year after he was stuck, I didn't go back on birth control.  We had been using condoms, instead of birth control pills, for the year that he was going through his antibody tests.  The fright that we got from the "HIV scare" made us consolidate our relationship, and when we did that, we both decided it was time.  I was 33, so I wasn't getting any younger.  I am so glad I made the decision I did, because my daughter is so lovely.  I am truly blessed to have her.

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       earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       That is very sweet. Worth the waiting, worth the tears and pain, worth the earth! I am so happy for you. Give your beautiful child an extra hug from me please! What a great post!

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       Colebabieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       And she is blessed to have you!

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          earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          I agree, it is easy to see from this post that you have the important ingredient to be a parent... love.

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       AsherKadeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       geez you have been through hell!

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          iamqweenbeeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Davinagirl,
          
          Aw, that is such a sweet story! thanks for sharing

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       beautyroseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hi I don't know if you shared this in the post we had last week about HIV. So you mean by having a baby from your husband is very clear that he did not used condom anymore. So in this case did you have HIV test already? I was just curious if it did infect you via sex. Sorry to ask. How about the baby did you take the blood test?

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    AsherKadeposted 14 years ago

    and by the way, after losing three, I adore the other three even more...

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    kmackey32posted 14 years ago

    I love my children. They are my life!!

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       earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       ..and we love you for loving them. Children are the real stuff of life!

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    charanjeet kaurposted 14 years ago

    I have a kid because she makes me complete, wouldnt trade it for all the riches in the world . She is two and loves me unconditionally and she means the world to me. Initially it may be family pressure or any reason but your world changes after you have one. Her smile and her little rumblings are worth all it. I dont know why but i am proud to be a mom and a good one to her.

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       earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       You have every reason to be proud! Being a good loving mum is the hardest and best job in the world! (Being a grandfather is wonderful too!)

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          charanjeet kaurposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          My dad always says that interest is always loved more than the actual sum lol this is a popular saying in hindi which is used in this context. I think that being parents is the most overwhelming job but worth everything in return

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    pgrundyposted 14 years ago

    Every parent does stuff they regret later.
    
    You never know about kids. Kids from great homes can turn into Jeffrey Dahmer sometimes and kids from horrible homes can do great things sometimes. Kids come out as somebody on day one, a person with a personaity--it isn't all about the parents.

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       earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I reckon that is true. I have twin four year old "identical"granddaughters.. different as chalk and cheese.. always were from birth.

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    MyOnly1posted 14 years ago

    pgrundy wrote:
    Every parent does stuff they regret later.
    
    You never know about kids. Kids from great homes can turn into Jeffrey Dahmer sometimes and kids from horrible homes can do great things sometimes. Kids come out as somebody on day one, a person with a personaity--it isn't all about the parents.
    
    
    I do agree myself to the statement, but we must also remember that as Parents we have a key role to the play in the development of our children. They learn through our examples: we are the very first teacher to them. “Train up a child the way he should go that he may learn what is good from bad.”

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       pgrundyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Mind you, I'm not condoning or minimizing child abuse. It's abhorrent and I do think it's damaging. I'm just saying parents don't have total control on how kids come out and thank God they don't. My parents had me when they were very young and very troubled and they were quite abusive and neglectful. I was very angry with them for years, but now that they have been dead quite a long time and I have had children of my own and see how very, very hard it is to raise kids even when you DO have your sh*t together (which they did not), it is easier for me to forgive them. I feel sad for them, that they suffered so and missed so much in their painful messy lives. And I am basically OK. I have a nice life. I'm not an axe murderer or a child molester.
       
       So it isn't like, make some mistakes, wreck the kid. You're not HELPING the kid if you act like an abusive ass, but the world is bigger than you and your dumb mistakes. That's all I'm saying.

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    kerrygposted 14 years ago

    Dang, the sheer number of amateur porn wanna-bes and teenage mothers (and amateur porn wanna-be teenage mothers) on that site is horrifying. When is taking naked pictures of yourself and posting them all over the internet EVER a good idea, let alone with a kid in the room!?!

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    dennisemattposted 14 years ago

    I have kids because the Dr told me I could never have children, and he was wrong. I love them more then I could say, and would never allow anyone to hurt them. I have no idea about those pictures, I wasnt there. They could have been taken way out of context. Sure at certain ages there are things a child should never be exposed to, but for example, that one of the girl in bed, in her underwear...we have no idea if that was on purpose. She looked to me as if she had just woken up. I happen to somtimes sleep naked. If my kids sneaked into the room, when they were little they often did without waking me, then someone ran in, threw the blanket off me, and took a pic...well..how would that look? And the guns? sorry, I own a gun. My husband owns a gun. We use them to protect our chickens and rabbits from predators. And , I am sorry, to kill bambi.(my oldest went last fall with her father.) Without it, we would not have meat in the winter. We taught our children young, to repsect guns, proper gun saftey...my husband was na eagle scout.. not to use them as toys, proper handling and an understanding of there use, rather then fear. The young kids, about the myspace profile? I saw no drugs or ciggarettes in that one. Just some kids that are going to have to grow up fast. At least they are together. She isnt being left to do it all on her own.
    I know all too well soem of  the things that make a bad parent, and you cant always take a picture of it.

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       Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Your da girrrrl, Dennise

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          dennisemattposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          oh, sheesh, and here I was thinking..oh no...here I go on a crazy rant...maybe I should run for office?   
          I am trying to email you btw...my server is slow today, its raining....

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    memorygraphicsposted 14 years ago

    best of luck with ur parenting stuff guys and ladies.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    I'm about to leave for errands, so take your time, no rush

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       dennisemattposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       have fun!! be nice to the cashier.... 

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    michelle.dragon99posted 14 years ago

    although i don have kids yet...but i realize it wil b wonderful if u got kids sleep in your hug....although some people might ignore my statement...but i believe it is true..

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    Mac Missionposted 14 years ago

    Not good !!!!!!!

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