Do you think once a couple experiences swing,the lifestyle, and likes it they ca

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   Ellandrielposted 14 years ago

   Do you think once a couple experiences swing,the lifestyle, and likes it they can go back monogamic?
   
   Is your country open to swing? Are there private clubes?

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   An Againposted 14 years ago

   Anything is possible, so certainly a couple *could* return to monogamy after swinging.  But if they like it, why would they go back?  It seems more likely that one or both didn't like it all that much. 
   
   My country, the U.S.A. isn't particularly open to swinging as a whole--or anything else that doesn't stress the one man/one woman model, but there are clubs.

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   Windtravellerposted 14 years ago

   I think swinging is about sexuality and monogamy is about relationship. The two aren't in the same catagory.
   
   Yes, I think to return from swinging to monogamy is possible. Sex for sex's sake get's boring after a while. I do believe the choice can't be made unilaterally though, it would have to be a joint decision of both partners.
   
   I live in the Netherlands and swinging is quite acceptable here. There are many private clubs and if you are so inclined you can pretty much always find something within a 30 mile radius.
   
   Lately polyamory is getting to be more popular over here. Polyamory means to have the freedom to have more than one committed relationship. For me this is the only real choice. I'm not into casual sex nor would I go back to a monogamous lifestyle. I love more than one person and am proud of it.

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   MrChameleonposted 14 years ago

   Yes that couple can. Not everyone who gets involved with swinging does it for a lifetime. It could something experimental or other factors (such as having kids) could make a couple pull back from it.

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   wesleyacarterposted 14 years ago

   I think that monogamy is a social dynamic that is acceptable. Swinging is not necessarily about sex. It can be about a myriad of things. Satisfying sexual tendencies or finding an abstract method for dealing with trust.
   
   I guess my answer is yes, people can return back from swinging. Obstacles are perceived things and if they are made into concrete they will never be passed. Sometimes, swinging is the only way to find out if you truly love your spouse or partner.

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   Dark knight ridesposted 14 years ago

   I agree that, if they like it, why would they go back? They can go back, it's up to them. The swinger lifestyle is a personal choice and they can make up their minds which way they want to go.

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   thaninjaposted 14 years ago

   I think that both members of the couple need to be into it honestly.   If they aren't that is where the emotional issues start and the relationships starts to stop.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   Yes they can, they may try it out of pure curiosity, and if either of them doesn't like it not try it again.  However couples should think twice before going on this sort of adventure because it seems to open some kind of door to further fidelity down the track or one of them ends up falls in love with the person they were 'experimenting' with. I know women who actually ended up having affairs with other women after trying the swinging life-style with their husbands (who initially were super-keen to try it out). It can end in disaster!

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   "Clouds Among Us"posted 13 years ago

   I think it is an open idea and there are great possibilities where a person can go back to being monogamous, I had an opportunity to date such a beautiful person and till this day we are very much lover friends. When we are with each other it is as if no one else around us exists. We both inspire and sometimes promote and console each other as no one else matters but the two of us. Awe the sweet smell of success when the adventure of swinging is complete, suddenly the two of you can find oneness among yourselves.
   You ask the question of clubs,I know of several acceptable clubs which cater to the respect of the couples wishes.

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    Dynickyposted 13 years ago

    Yes.  I think they can bounce back from it.  Depending on the couple of course and if they are able to practice some self restraint.  But definitely feel its possible.

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