Define the line between close friendship and an affair. At what point is this li

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   LowellWriterposted 14 years ago

   Define the line between close friendship and an affair. At what point is this line crossed?

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   CaverScottposted 14 years ago

   I think its when the mind, body or heart wants more than friendship and one begins to act accordingly.

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   lindagoffiganposted 14 years ago

   The two of you taking a trip to the bedroom would be the wake up call.

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   Common Thredposted 14 years ago

   If you feel happy to hear from them or see them, it's a friendship. If you begin to have a longing for this person and desire them sexually, it's more than a friendship. And when you begin to act out those feelings (and so does the other person as well) it is an affair.
   
   When you begin to talk about meeting them in secret, secretly emailing or texting, and talking in a way that is suggestive, it is an affair.
   
   Know the boundaries you have with yourself and your spouse or significant other and don't cross them. This will safeguard all friendships and relationships.

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   Common Thredposted 14 years ago

   It's natural to start having feelings for your friends; they may say the right thing at the right time and we feel giddy when we see them even though at first we don't have feelings. But it's when we act out desires and fantasies that it begins to border on an affair.

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   Cumbesefposted 13 years ago

   In my mind, the difference between a close friendship and an affair is sex.  As an example, if you are a heterosexual woman, then any interaction you would have with a "friend" would mimic your interaction with a close girlfriend. That is not to say you cannot have close male friends.  But the moment you have sex, it becomes more than a friendship - it is then an affair.
   
   Hope that helps.
   
   Happy Writing!

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   angela_michelleposted 13 years ago

   I think when you get excited about something, and instead of thinking about telling your spouse, you want to tell your "close friend." Or when you vent you prefer to call your "close friend" rather than your spouse. At anytime when the close friend is closer emotionally, physically, spiritually than you are to your spouse.

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   oliviagernerposted 13 years ago

   In my view close friendship and an affair is a person who born and bought up with childhood friend they are called as close friendship and a married couple who cheat her husband or husband cheat his wife for desire of love is called an affair.

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   Jaynie2000posted 13 years ago

   Having an affair an be emotional as opposed to physical. Some people think that if you haven't had sexual contact with another person that you have not had an affair. I disagree.
   
   To me, a close friendship becomes an affair when the emotional importance of it begins to overtake the importance of your primary relationship. When you tell your secrets to and spend more time with the person than you do your with your partner, and the sight or idea of your close friend begins to make your heart race and your palms sweaty, you're moving in the wrong direction. When your usually innocuous conversations take on a flirtatious tone and eventually a sexual tone, the affair is taking root.
   
   If you engage in online sex chat or phone sex, you're cheating. If you declare your affection to that person, you're cheating. If you spend more time with that person after acknowledging your affection, even without sex, it becomes like dating, and you're cheating.
   
   If you disagree, ask your spouse or SO how they would feel about it. If they think you're cheating, you're cheating.

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