What do you do when you're in a relationship and your partner never says "I love

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   What do you do when you're in a relationship and your partner never says "I love you?"
   
   The relationship seems good - but they just won't say those magic words!

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   dcrisanposted 14 years ago

   Damn that sucks, it depends on how long the relationship has been going on. Usually takes men longer than women. But sometimes actions speak louder than words. People may speak a different love language than others. Some are with words of affirmation and some with their acts of kindness.
   Its all up to you though, Usually your intutition will help you out girl with what to do.

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   WRKennedyposted 14 years ago

   Clearly there are different expectations between the two people.  Try asking questions in a non-threatening way, e.g. We've been going out for a while now.  How do you feel about our relationship?

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   Stimpposted 14 years ago

   My father made some good sense several times when he said "love is SHOWN not said".  He went on to explain that you can say I love you all day long and it holds absolutely no meaning at all if the loving actions aren't behind it.  in our rural community, you'd see the doctors, lawyers, and their wives all going to church and holding hands, etc.  But they were all having AFFAIRS!!!  In my family, we didn't say those "magic" words much....I didn't hear it much and when I moved out and my mom would say it to me over the phone, I had a very difficult time saying it back because it was uncomfortable.  It was my 2nd husband and his step children who were able to pull me out of that and made me more comfortable in saying "I Love You".  it was odd for me to see a father and mother interact with their children in that they said I love you all the time because I didn't grow up that way.  Soooooo....I don't think much of it when someone doesn't say the words....as long as the deeds are there.

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   blong72posted 14 years ago

   yea I also think that it depends on how you grew up with your family. I didnt hear it that much but I knew my mother and father loved me a lot because of their actions. Now if that is the case with this person who doesnt say it in a relationship perhaps they had a similar upbringing where that phrase isnt said often. I know people who say it all the time and it doesnt sound like they really mean it. Whats the point of saying something as powerful as that if you its just said flippant ? Only say it if you really mean it

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   sholland10posted 12 years ago

   I agree with WRKennedy.  You need to find out where you stand.  Try not to sound needy and try not to make your partner feel cornered... I know, tricky business.  Good luck!

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   lovelife08posted 12 years ago

   Either they are playing with your emotions, or they are waiting for the right moment.  Then there's that fear of saying it out loud and not hearing it in return.  Fear of rejection can really play a role in whether or not they say it.  Doesn't necessarily mean they don't love you though.

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