Why Do Women do so much more than men?

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   dcrisanposted 14 years ago

   Why Do Women do so much more than men?
   
   Meaning: Women, nowadays, have a full time job, do all the cooking and cleaning, watch after the children, and all the stress that comes with it. When men just have to work and come home.
   Why is this happening?

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   hublimposted 14 years ago

   I think the statement may apply to some people but not all.
   
   It really depends on the attitudes of the individuals involved and their relationship with each other.
   
   I am sure there are some men who do act in the way you stated but at the same time there are many men who share the responsibilities with their partners.
   
   If you feel this problem applies to you, you should discuss the issue with your partner and agree how to move forward.

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   JenniferRaeposted 14 years ago

   i think it just relates to the "old" days. To this day men are still used to and stuck in their ways about the roles that are played. The woman takes care of the house, children etc... only now we are expected to carry a full time job on top of it all. And the economy isnt making it much easier now a days either. Men feel like if they are bringing home most of the money everything else shouldnt be up to them too. Its a frame of mind that has been set for years and years, and I have a feeling it will be set for years and years to come.

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   rainstreetposted 14 years ago

   We seem to be in a transitional stage.  Originally, men worked away from the home, women worked in the home.  The roles were fairly stable.   Society has changed in that women often work away from home,  either from necessity or choice.  This leaves the duties at home without a caretaker.  Our culture hasn't evolved to the extent that this has become a part of the male role awareness package.   Women have never lost this sense of duty, so they strive to do both jobs.
   Unfortunately, the condition of the home reflects primarily on the woman instead of the man still exists in modern society. Though it is an archaic stereotype, many women quietly relent to it.  Men, of course, have no complaints, since their world hasn't been rocked. 
   There are exceptions to this.  In my case, my wife doesn't have another job. Though she stays at home, she is disabled and is physically unable to perform many household chores.  Therefore, I generally have a lot to do when I get home.  Needless to say, our house won't win any interior design awards!

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   EFPotterposted 14 years ago

   I don't think this is really true. Men share in the responsibilities of the home--at least, in today's perception, they should, or they aren't a very good father. It takes two to keep a house and raise a family, and duties can't be so cleanly divided as they were in the fifties. If a man doesn't do house work, the woman usually doesn't feel like she's getting enough help, and it's very hard being a single parent--especially when there's another perfectly good parent of your child right there not doing anything to help. If a parent doesn't want to take care of their child, they have a problem.
   
   It isn't that women want more than men, because there are plenty of men who do all of those things, too, and more than plenty of women who do much less.

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   loriamooreposted 14 years ago

   It depends on the circles of people around you as to whether it seems that this is the norm.
   
   In my relationship, for example, my husband is retired and I work 3/4 time.  My husband does all of the cleaning, 75% of the cooking, all of the laundry and all of the shopping.
   
   Two things come to mind when I think about women doing it all.
   
   1.  Women multi-task better than men.
   2.  Women always think they're right and want things done their own way, so they may not let the husband do anything because he won't do it right.
   
   I think that in any healthy relationship, the man and woman talk about how they're going to share in taking care of the family's needs.

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   ngoiceposted 14 years ago

   i think men do more , if you think women do more that means you have not meet the right man ,

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   bogerkposted 13 years ago

   This seems a bit general as I doubt all men just go to work, come home and drink beer until they go to sleep.
   
   All the men I know, including myself, go to work, take care of their children and are responsible for different things around the house; maybe the yard or the cars or the garbage or paying the bills.

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   womenintouchposted 13 years ago

   That is why God made us a help mate he knew man would be lazy when it came to housekeeping. Not all men are like this some men really work at helping to keep the house clean. My husband helps with laundry, dishes and other chores. Because we have a large home once a month he takes the upstairs and I take the down stairs and we clean the whole house. In between i do most of the work but I love it.
   
   I do think and know some men who should do more to help out especially if they both work. He should not come home and sit down unless he has asked to help and she declines. Parenting is a two way street children need to feel the love from both parents and both need to atten school events and take the child shopping and out sometimes. Shared parenting gives the other parent a break sometimes to relax and catch up on things with out interuptions  from spouse or kids.
   I think men need to step it up and be the man they need to be so the family can remain strong.

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    Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

    Why is women more sucessful than men? well I guess it depend
    on how much you want something, and women after (the equal rights for women) decided that it was time for us to go after what we want
    and we wasn't going to let no one stand in our way,
    however, in some countries, (third world country some women is fighting for the right to be more independent.
    interesting question......you asked...

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    Sue B.posted 12 years ago

    Is your question really why am I doing so much more than my man?  I just think the question is a bit more general than we can really consider.  All women are certainly not doing more than all men.
    
    I do think society is a factor and that women feel a certain strain and stress related to keeping a home, raising a family and working.  I acknowledge men have a different set of stressors and strains in their life but I am no expert on those- I'm a woman!
    
    I did have an interesting conversation with one of my mother's friends. She said that my generation is great-- we seem to set more boundaries and require our spouses to chip in.  She discussed how hard it was for her to work, clean the house, raise the kids and work.  She felt like even though she worked just as much as her husband, it was still expected she fulfill all of those tasks as if she wasn't working.
    
    Society definitely influences us but it does not define who we are and our relationships.  If we want a more balanced relationship-- we can just go and create one.  If we accept that this is what people expect, this is how people are, and this is how we should be-- then we cannot expect anything to be different.  Personally, I try to make sure that what I have in my life is working for me.  I could not handle all that I am doing if it wasn't.  I don't think I have time for anything working against me.
    
    To answer your question more directly- why this is happening to some women (because I realize many women out there are in that situation) is because they are in a relationship and a situation that they need to actively change so it fits their needs and supports them more.  I can't see how the man in that set up is going to recognize things not working unless the woman speaks up- that's quite a sweet deal!  Relationships are best when everyone is happy so asking the man to help with certain things is better for everyone.  Now, I realize there are a lot of cultural and personal influences unique to each relationship and that simply asking for help may not work.  That means that particular person has more to work with because you should not give up when you feel as though you are falling apart, are unsupported and are stressed out.  Hopefully the other person will realize that holding onto their rigid beliefs regarding roles in a marriage is more trouble than accepting their spouse needs their help.

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