Do you consider a Man weak, if he is constantly bullied by his wife?

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   Lady_Eposted 14 years ago

   Do you consider a Man weak, if he is constantly bullied by his wife?

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   BamBam534posted 14 years ago

   Fear is strange, and the fear a husband experiences is very complicated. A mixture of anxiety and sadness caused by the what if's, and the punishments that followed by not obeying the bully. I can only say that most people on the outside looking in usually feel sorry for the husband, and label the wife a bitch. It is only natural to consider her such, considering her behavior towards her beloved. Why be mean to the man you love. Some say some men need a whip on them to keep them focused on the job, and then getting the prize. How much does a man have to do for the prize? Oh my it could be a long list, or even a mystery until the lights go out. Even then the poor sucker is wondering if he will get to love his wife tonight. It is cruel but that is how woman do things. Some women. I don't bully Dave, I take extra good care of him, and always keep a positive attitude, men get turned off by bullying. Yes I do think it is a sign of weakness, and he should stand his ground even if he doesn't get the prize. He should be firm and never back down or she will pounce again.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   I wouldn't, because many times a person who allows himself to be bullied does so out of believing s/he wants to "be the better person" and not "fight dirty" (if only verbally). 
   
   Then, too, I think of my two sons (at different times) when they were little boys and being bullied.  Both were normal, active, strong, little boys who happened to have a sense of right and wrong.  Both said (at different  times and about their bully), "I could really hurt him if I wanted to, but I don't want to."  They didn't want to seriously injure another kid because they were decent kids (and I think they were also sensible enough to realize that even if they did want to seriously harm their bully there would be serious consequences).
   
   There are a lot of reasons someone will put up with rotten treatment from someone else that have nothing to do with weakness.  In fact, sometimes it's a person's character, strength, ability to control his own anger, or sense of decency that make him refuse to "stoop to someone else's level".

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   resspenserposted 14 years ago

   Heck no, and I resent the implication!
   She's not reading this, is she?
   Yikes!!!!
   I'll be hiding under the bed if you need me!

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   donotfearposted 14 years ago

   No. I consider a man a jerk if he constantly bullies his wife. Feeling sexist at the moment, in a rant phase.

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   JDove-Millerposted 14 years ago

   I think anyone who is constantly subject to bullying grows insecure.  The bully makes the person question his/her worth, and then he/she tries to do things to prove him/herself worthy.  That just feeds the bully's power hungry needs, so she/he bullies even more.  The two become co-dependent.  Is that weakness?  Probably not.  It's more a reaction to a mindgame that turns into a dysfunction.

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