currently living with my ex...is it a recipe for for desaster???

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   sad2loveposted 13 years ago

   currently living with my ex...is it a recipe for for desaster???
   
   I posted a question a few months back about my ex.
   Well I didnt realize it then that my ex and I would be living togethere for another 2 months until he gets his own place. We both decided to remain good friends, sure feeling are still there and sometimes we show it but thats about it
   It very well feels like a relationship again but we are not together more like an open relationship to me
   Now I'm not sure what to do. Are we back in a relationship or is it because its just  convenient for the both of us?
   I'm more confused than ever

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   jennshealthstoreposted 13 years ago

   I was in a similar situation once. We were still friends and waiting for one of us to find our own place. After feeling the way I felt, I say it is not a good idea. If there are any feelings left, it will be so much harder to try to move on if they are still in your face everyday. I know that it hurt so much knowing we were not together but he was still there. You want to do the same things as you did as a couple ex. snuggle on the couch, cook a nice meal.. what ever it was you did before, and in reality you should not be doing those things if you are no longer together. Plus, if they are going out, I have no doubt you are wondering what he is doing. It is not healthy. I would say the sooner one of you gets out the better. When he does finally move it, the longer he stays the harder it will be, Trust me.

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   dawnMposted 13 years ago

   Well statically speaking living together is the one true solution to not getting married and when you break up and get back together in a relationship those are the ones to run from.  If a relationship is difficult now just think about when kids come into the picture?

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   Drew niteposted 13 years ago

   Well, the both of you have to set down and talk about what you are doing. If a relationship status was not re- agreed upon by both of you, you can not consider it as such. Since you said that you established that you are friends, it sounds to me like you guys are friends with benefits at this point. Once again, you have to first decide what you want, and then discuss with him where you stand on the matter.

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   sad2loveposted 13 years ago

   Sorry just realized                                                                   
   *Disaster

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   jasper420posted 13 years ago

   no itd not i beleave if yall get along ok than great just be carefull trust your feelings

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   Vicki.Pierceposted 13 years ago

   in my opinion.....getting "back together" NEVER works out.

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   txcollegekid101posted 12 years ago

   I'm living with my ex-girlfriend at the moment, and as of now, it is mostly just fine, but it was anything but fine for a while. We broke up halfway through our 12 month lease and there were no options of moving out, just sticking it out.
   
   We also had relapsed and had a "friends-with-benefits" stage, but it mostly just hurt her more in the end and kept her from moving on, so I really would advise against it, even if it helps you in a small way.
   
   Confusion is never a basis to form a relationship. You shouldn't have to wonder, "Do I want to be with _____?"
   
   But then again, I'm no relationship counsellor and these are only my opinions!

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   ctbrown7posted 12 years ago

   I think it is.  Putting yourself in a position where genuine commitment is necessary for success, it will leave you wanting.  If you invested a ton of money with someone without any commitment on their part or little investment on their part, how could you be confident in your investment.  The risk is all yours.

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