What do you do when someone you love insults you?

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   stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

   What do you do when someone you love insults you?

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   FrostHeartposted 13 years ago

   Say "so?" hahah. Ahem, In a serious manner, tolerate your friend's behavior first, but if the situation goes on, you should tell your friend that you don't like the way he/she is acting. He/she needs to know that insulting people is a bad habit.

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   Right On Timeposted 13 years ago

   Ask them what they meant by it, and if it's nasty let it go once, twice and the third time give some back to them and ask them how does it feel.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   You have to let them know it bothered you or hurt you.
   Keeping silent just causes them to repeat the behavior over and over again. Once you tell them how you feel about it if there is no change or apology you may want to make less time to be around them. When someone cares or loves you they don't want to "intentionally" hurt you.

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   home witchposted 13 years ago

   If they really meant it, it means that they are not worthy or deserving of your love and that they most probably don't love you either. So leave their toxic presence and focus on someone who does love you or has a better capacity to show affection.

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   Edliraposted 13 years ago

   Stand up for yourself and don't tolerate it, not even once. Discuss the matter and let them know how you feel about it, making sure to let them understand that kind of language/behaviour is not accepted or appreciated.

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   lostdogrwdposted 13 years ago

   let them know what they said that insults you and you could do the same but you don,t want to hurt them like they did you. . always let love ones know you love them and what they say to you can hurt you.

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   Butch Newsposted 13 years ago

   I would attempt to ask for an explanation.  If that were not forthcoming I'd think it was time to re-evaluate the relationship.
   
   It might be painful but the best solution might be to drop that person completely from your life and move on.  Their actions will have proven that your love is not justified and you don't need to hurt yourself, there's plenty others out there who can hurt you but be kind to yourself.

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   drvosjecaposted 13 years ago

   You just kiss him and tell him he is a jerk... Let him think this way

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    awoodogposted 13 years ago

    Stand up for yourself, and tell them how it effected you. If you don't let them know how you feel they may continue to make insults even if they don't mean to. At times people will say things not understanding how much it hurts someone, by telling them it helps both you and them.

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    Insult them back, especially if their behavior isn't warranted.  If you don't want to be bothered with them, leave them where they stand.  And if they by any chance come back and try to act civil, about what they did, don't entertain them.  People like this are always up to something simple and no good.  Entertain at your own risk!
    
    P.S. Going back and forth with conversation and explanation is just a waste of oxygen and time!  I'll compare it to talking to a dummy and expecting an answer much less a sensible answer....
    
    Vonda G. Nelson

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    phiphiposted 13 years ago

    Someone did that to me....she was forgiven and she did it again and this time she's ignored like an invisible person to me.

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    Klenaposted 13 years ago

    Be sure to discuss it with them in private. Do not fall to their standard and respond with insults. Do not fight or bring it up in public as they could be more likely to respond angrily if they feel they are being shamed or attacked.
    
    Speak to them and calmly let them know that they have insulted you and it has hurt you. Don't accuse them or throw other problems you may have in their face - keep the focus on just the insult.

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    tinawehaposted 13 years ago

    It depends upon the level of the insult and how often he says things like that.
    
    Sometimes, I give an insult right back.
    Sometimes, I know it is meant as a joke and I groan and roll my eyes.
    Sometimes, after I've had enough but before I have children with that someone, I walk away and never come back.
    
    Help me with this.  Seriously, I write about divorce for another site and I would like to know what people say for answers:
    http://hubpages.com/question/94572/why- … ed-anymore

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