To Be or Not to Be Faithful

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   Finesseposted 12 years ago

   To Be or Not to Be Faithful
   
   If your Husband/wife or Boyfriend/Girlfriend has their ex wife/ex husband do their taxes for them should you be ups about it or think that something else is going on? (And no the ex is not a tax professional they used turbo tax online and no your partner did not tell you about it you found out about it)....

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   msorenssonposted 12 years ago

   The question does not arise when you trust your partner fully. To get there, you must first trust yourself. Given the same situation, reversed, would your partner worry? Should your partner worry? It is the same thing.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Most married people file their taxes jointly. It is unlikely this scenario would play out in a marriage. Having said that you have to look at your mate and determine if you can trust them. I suppose you have to ask yourself why he or she felt they couldn't tell you about it. If they figured you'd blow things out of proportion or they know you don't believe exes can be "friends"...etc That would explain why they chose to hide it from you.
   Some people have never done their own taxes and if they know someone who will do them for free or at a very low cost then they will jump at the opportunity.
   Ultimately you have to trust your instincts. If you suspect there is something (going on) other than taxes being done then you should end the relationship. Going forward you could offer to pay to have their taxes done or get turbo tax yourself and do them. It has been said that "Anger is the mask that Hurt wears". Odds are you would be hurt because the (Ex) was enlisted to do the taxes and not if it had been (a friend of the same sex) who did them (even if your mate didn't tell you and you discovered it). Underneath it all there is a hint of insecurity or lack of trust. Is it your mate or their ex you don't trust? or is it simply you don't like the idea of exes helping one another? You're entitled to have your own feelings. The goal though is to find someone who feels the same way as you do when it comes to "important issues". You have to decide, Is this a "deal breaker"?

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   Finesseposted 12 years ago

   The situation makes me suspicious because he has told me horrible things she has done while they were married. She has giving birth to two children that are not his she has had men coming and going out of the house and sold his things to pawn shops.  She has called him starting arguments between the two of us saying I have been having conversation with some guy from my past that she knows. I wrote the question because I wanted to know was it just me who see their relationship after all of their past drama as unusual am I really just overreacting and looking to deep into the situation.

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