Is marriage possible without fighting?

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   breathe2travelposted 11 years ago

   Is marriage possible without fighting?
   
   I know one couple out of the thousands of people in my sphere who has never raised their voices at each other.  Wow.  And if you knew them, you'd have no trouble believing them.  How feasible is it for marriages to experience this kind of tonal respect for one another?

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   Leaderofmanyposted 11 years ago

   I believe that it is possible, if a couple has complete respect for each other they will not yell or raise their voice, would you yell at your mother or father in the way that you yell at your kids and partner? or someone that you truly respect if not your parents?

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   Diane Woodsonposted 11 years ago

   Yes it is. People do not have to fight. It is a choice that they make based on the way they grew up and situations that they find themselves cause many people to fight, not just yell but absolutely do bodily harm to each other. Fighting is not supposed to be a fact of life for married couples even though so many think so, or behave as if they think so. All a couple has to do if they have differences is to sit down and intelligently discuss the issue that is bothering them and in the majority of cases it can be a peaceful outcome to the problem.  I am blessed to have a relationship where fighting has not happened and won't and we never hold things in and act as if nothing is wrong if we have a problem. I like this question.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Under the best of circumstances where both people (naturally agree) on the major things in life there are still bound to be times when someone is in a bad mood, feeling crabby, or there is misunderstanding of some kind. Needless to say it doesn't have to become World War III.
   Most fights are about setting boundaries or expressing hurt feelings. In fact it has been said, "Anger is the mask that hurt wears." What generally happens is things escalate to a point where ego takes over and then someone has to "win" while another has to "lose"
   As long as two people remain (in love) and want each other to be happy they will make the effort gain an understanding of what is going on with the other person.

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   remanikiposted 11 years ago

   I think it is practically impossible not to fight. I mean it doesn't have to be a heated fight but healthy argument. During the time that follows the fight, a lot of contemplation goes on in both the minds and the joy of coming together after this somewhat unhappy moment is simply great.
   
   There won't be much fun if both agree to the spouse's opinion,remarks or decision all the time. Marriage need not be smooth-sailing all the way. I believe that conflicts make the relationship stronger making the couple respect each other more and bringing them closer to each other than ever before.

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      Diane Woodsonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If it works, do it!

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   Starmom41posted 11 years ago

   my parents didn't fight.  in all my growing-up years, there was only one difference-of-opinion that escalated into an argument. 
   on one side, this was good because I learned that differences can be settled by either discussing them rationally or agreeing-to-disagree.
   however, on the other side, it didn't prepare me for individuals who were brought up in entirely-different environments, where everything from screaming and cussing to name-calling and intimidation was "the way it was."

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   Atiyar Rahamanposted 11 years ago

   depends on situation and how you are.....................

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      anam hasibposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      i m not married so dun know exactly how it feels..but yes i hv been in a relation since last 2 years now..i think fights are a part of relations..the more you hv problems with d things your partner does the more you r concerned about him or her.

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   davenstanposted 11 years ago

   I have a very loving marriage; and there are times when we don't agree. We argue but make up the same hour or in the same day. Forgiveness and communication is a rule in my house.

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   girlgonestrongposted 11 years ago

   My spouse and I very rarely fight.  We do disagree about things, but in our house, the woman wins most of the time.  There are some times though when he feels very strongly and will pull the "I'm the man of the house" trump card.  It's so rare that when it does happen, it's best to back him up and move forward in unity instead of clinging to thinking you're right and resenting because of it.

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    krillcoposted 11 years ago

    While I agree you may find a couple that does not 'fight', you will never find a couple that does not react to each other. Fighting and reacting are not the same, and to a large extent, fighting is just one style of reacting. It's the reactivity that is damaging and toxic, not the fighting.

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