How do you react to people who criticize others and don't seem to realize their

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   Cathleena Beamsposted 11 years ago

   How do you react to people who criticize others and don't seem to realize their own shortcomings?
   
   Should you confront the person doing this and let them know they're acting ugly or just ignore them and hope they get the hint through the silent treatment?

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   You would have to confront everyone.  None of us is perfect be we always seem to be quick off the mark when we can criticise another.

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   pmorriesposted 11 years ago

   I usually do not say anything; however, if the situation warrants it, I will say something. I guess what I am trying to say, is that I pick my battles. As an aside, I would like to have one day where I could say whatever I wanted with no filters (it has to be liberating).
   
   Furthermore, if someone says something hurtful, it is all right to say ouch or that hurt. Alternatively, if something hurtful is said to someone else, one might say, “Perhaps you should clarify that statement because it could be misconstrued as hurtful (or hypocritical).
   
   Finally, if they truly meant to say what they said, you could repeat it back to them in a sarcastic voice and say, “That comment was meant to be helpful in some way?”, or “I am confused, you really meant to say something that awkward and damming to your coworkers?”

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   Melissa A Smithposted 11 years ago

   Just because one person has shortcomings doesn't mean another doesn't deserve criticism. I usually criticize people for acting self-important and narcissistic. Some people just need to be put in their place. Criticism is not always ugly. Some people feel as though they are entitled to evade it always. I'm the kind of person who receives a lot of criticism and I realize many overly privileged people do not receive any for superficial reasons such as class or status. Criticism should never be
   'ignored' unless it is unfounded. And don't just automatically assume it is so, really consider it, no matter how 'low' on the totem pole the criticizer may be. If the words are eating away at you, the reason may be that your conscious is screaming at you to analyze it.

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      Cathleena Beamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I believe that criticism should be constructive and that it should be delivered with respect.  It shouldn't be a vicious attack on another nor should it leave victims wounded in it's wake.

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      MickSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Very opinionated aren't you?

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      Melissa A Smithposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes?

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      Cathleena Beamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Mick and Melissa - Probably.  Aren't we all?

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      MickSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Cathleena, that's exactly what I implied in my original answer.

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      Cathleena Beamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes MickS - You certainly did!

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   Eric Calderwoodposted 11 years ago

   I tend to ignore what they are saying and spend less time with them.  It may be better to confront them, but I never was one to enjoy confrontation.

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   Team Leaderposted 11 years ago

   Hello Cathleena, They usually wind me up until I remember that I should not let them get to me. I always feel sorry for their partners, I know they got chosen but it must be so stressful to have people like this arround. On this question I am actually quite judgemental myself, oh dear, I hope I am not one of them :-) Your 'Team Leader'

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      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Welcome to the world of existentialism, and I willing to bet you are not one of them. As an aside, I always thought that their significant others were as bad as they are (maybe that thought helps me sleep at night).

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