Great question ReneeDC1979. I have challenges with just answering questions sometimes. As writers we process that question with each word we write. Taking that process into social interactions may become very trying, can it not? I just read a hub on about absolute truths vs. moral relativism. which prompted me to attempt a meager answer at best.
When exploring I use a process called 'anti-thesis' when seeking a truth. In this case personally I would ask this seeking an answer - It is ever bad to tell a lie? The obvious answer with generalities is 'yes' to that question.
Next, I seek value and worth. Is there ever value to tell a lie? I can answer this for 'self,' however I can not answer for others. Now, Is there worth to tell a lie? Again, I can answer for 'self' and not for others.
In an attempt to answer the proposed question I used for 'self' synonyms for good. Again, I defer to 'self' asking the next question seeking an answer. Is there a return from telling a lie and is that return good or bad?
Example: (Life Experience) I am visiting a co-worker. That co-worker is showing signs of depression and further displays this with both feelings and emotions. Not, being an expert in behavior, a novice, the solution to offering a remedy is promote a smile and maybe laughter - a shot of serotonin, maybe some epinephrine, and maybe dopamine too.
So, I spy that co-workers favorite candy bar on the desk - a 3 Musketeers bar. Quickly, I say "look over there another darn mouse again." That co-worker turns with a tinge of fear - epinephrine is administered, seeking to see. I grab the candy bar stick it behind the monitor.
The co-worker turns around noticing the candy bar is gone. Since that co-worker knows me well, I am accused of stealing it. Yet, it is done with a wonderful smile and followed by laughter. Cajoling and batter ensue and soon laughter is flourishing - serotonin and dopamine is administered.
Oddly, a glimmer appears in the once sullen eyes and the face is slightly flushed as the circulation increases oxygenation as both respectful and innocent flirtation occurs. Feelings and emotions are heightened as a sense of belonging occurs.
Finally, the co-worker says, "Get back to your office, I have work to do and give me my candy bar." Laughter again ensues while that co-worker focuses on the paperwork on the desk. Oddly, that co-worker glances an eye upward and says, "you turkey."
The crux is a lie was told . . .
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