What attributes and qualities create the "supermom" (or dad) status

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   Lizam1posted 12 years ago

   What attributes and qualities create the "supermom" (or dad) status
   
   Oftentimes mothers who seem to spend lots of time doing anything but caring for their children are afforded the term supermom.  What, in your opinion makes a supermom (or dad)?

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   Taleb80posted 12 years ago

   I believe that as much you give time to your kids as much you are super.
   Our mistake that we try to bring them all their material wishes, but forget or Ignore their most important one "to stay with them".
   We should play with, listen you,  draw for & teach them.

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      Lizam1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Taleb80 good call.  Connecting and nurturing with our children is a wonderful gift all round for kids and parents.  Undervalued by so many.  Thanks.

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   peeplesposted 12 years ago

   Lol. Reading this question made me think of sooo much and I thank you for giving me a happy moment today when I feel awful. A "supermom" is not always the mom with the cleanest house, the wrinkle free clothes, the perfect home, or the perfectly behaved children. The real super mom is the mom who would rather have 30 minutes of tickle time on the floor and keep the kitchen a bit messy. I'll be honest. I'm one of those moms who tries to do it all. Cook, clean, keep the house perfect, AND play with my children. Sometimes though it doesn't all get done because I will take loving time spent with my children any day over a clean house!

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      Lizam1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      What lucky children you have.  In my opinion you get the title supermom!

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   LauraGTposted 12 years ago

   What a great question!  I too often think of the "supermom" as being a mom that "does it all" - works outside the home, throws perfect birthday parties, heads out for drinks with her friends, has a house that is uber clean (not to mention perfectly decorated) and still manages to find tickle time!  But, I think that idea - that anyone could possible do all these things and not go absolutely crazy - is a pure fantasy, one that makes many women trying to get by miserable. I think being a good mom means different things to different people.  I think being truly happy as a mother, wife, friend, and colleague (in whatever capacity you've chosen) is the best thing a mother can do for her children - another tall order.

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   kidscraftsposted 12 years ago

   Great question!  Sometimes we are so afraid to be judged by others that we try to be perfect on all levels : clean house, well dressed kids, career woman, etc.  It's almost as if we would get a olympic medal for a perception of what is our life.  In fact, when we choose to be a mom (or a dad), we should take time with our kids and to build memories that will last a life time.  The best gift of all for me was when my kids (who are adults now) thanked me for the time I was taking care of them at home.  I think this is the best reward!

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   thomasczechposted 12 years ago

   I am a single father of three boys. Two are adults now and my youngest is nine years old., The two oldest ones moved in with me so they can save money.
   I do the chores, and have my children help out when possible. I help my youngest with his homework, play with him as well.
   The term super mom or dad to me seems a little strange, but I understad what it means. A super parent, in my opinion, is one who takes his or her responisibility as a parent very seriously; one who puts the child(rens) needs ahead of themselves and raises them up to be honest, responsible people and good parents when they have children.

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   pstraubie48posted 12 years ago

   A supermom is a mom or dad is one who has the child or chldren at the center of the family. They are never too busy to listen, to help, to encourage, to love. They are available to their children.
   They have a relationship with their child that lets the child know what their boundaries are and what rules are always the rules. A relationship of mutal respect is established early on in the child's develpment.
   Interestingly enough those individuals who 'qualify' for this designation do not think they are special. They think that mothering or fathering as they do is the only way to parent.

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   Jhansonposted 12 years ago

   Sadly those who spend the majority of his or her life caring for their children forget about their own needs. Being a super mom or super dad means being able to balance the needs of your children, your spouse, your work, and yourself in a healthy manner.

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   lesliebyarsposted 12 years ago

   To me, when I think of a supermom I think of a woman who works full-time and has a hectic schedule, is a wife and mother.  She comes home and does the cleaning and cooks dinner every night.  This woman is a superwoman as well as a supermom.
   Also not to seem if I am just on the women's side, the same would apply to a man that is a single parent as well.  Great question.!!

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