Why divorce rate rocket up today?

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   tuteramandaposted 11 years ago

   Why divorce rate rocket up today?
   
   before 1990s ,divorce alomst did not exist in the society,but today,marriage last for more than 10 years extict,many young couples divorce within 3 months after marriage.,one night stand,cohabitant become  previling, virgins before marriage even disappear

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   In the United States the divorce rate has been roughly 50% for decades, not just since the 90's.  One reason I believe more people divorce now that in the past is that is is much easier to get a divorce now than in the past. 
   
   It just isn't that hard to dissolve a marriage anymore so people get frustrated, angry and end it rather than work on making it a good marriage.
   
   You are right, cohabitation, out of wedlock pregnancy, sex before marriage are all common things today. I wish it weren't so but it is.

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   The divorce rate is  much higher in many parts of the world and in different cultures, most couples don't work hard enough and the sacred vows are not so respected like it was  decades ago.Things have changed making divorce the number one way out.

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   pinto2011posted 11 years ago

   I think we have given more freedom to one's view and if someone is inconvenient or facing difficulty living with his/her partner, then we are more open to experiment and opt out from the marriage and seek a different partner and society is also accepting this. Whereas earlier the society was not that much open or kind hearted to accept such changes.

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   Say Yes To Lifeposted 11 years ago

   Actually, divorce has been skyrocketing since the late 1960's.  Rates peaked in the mid 1980's, and have slightly declined since then.
   
   The divorce rate in the US is calculated by the number of marriages and divorces that occur within any given year. Currently, it runs about 50%, give or take a little.  A more accurate measurement is to count how many people have ever been divorced.  In that case, it ranks more like 25%.  It's just that people who divorce tend to do so over and over, since subsequent marriages have a lower success rate.
   
   I think one reason for the skyrocketing divorce rate is that people, especially churches, see marriage more as a status symbol and less as a responsibility.  Southern baptists and non-denominational churches actually have a higher divorce rate than the world's.  They're also most likely to have "marriage mill" churches, where people go for the sole purpose of finding a partner.
   
   In the Olden Days, people stayed together because they needed each other. This meant they were more likely to take careful stock of their actions.  Example; how often do you tell off your boss at work, as opposed to your spouse?

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Your statement, "people stayed together because they (needed) each other" pretty much says it all! Financial independence/higher wages for women and more sexual opportunities for men eliminated a lot of the "need" factor for both women and men.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   The U.S. divorce rate has been around 50% way before the 1990s!
   The biggest change has been better education, job opportunities, and higher income for (women). The more options one has the less crap they're going to take. :-)
   Not along ago AARP did a survey to determine which gender actually filed for divorce in America. The results were (women) initiated the filing 66% or 2/3rds of the time! The irony is in America it is thought that women want to get married more often than men. I suspect for many of them the reality does not live up to the fairytale dream that was nurtured from childhood. The results of the survey also suggest that unhappily married men are more likely to cheat while unhappily married women are more likely to file for divorce. 
   Interestedly another report concluded divorced men tend to "re-marry" (sooner) than divorced women! Maybe it's a case of men realizing the perks of marriage after they committed the first time and women placing a higher value on their independence after having been married.
   Our society has always judged the success of a marriage by the number years it has lasted (on paper). An elderly woman who had been married for over 50 years was recently asked what her secret was for having such a long standing marriage. She said, "Baby, we just stayed together." LOL!
   My guess is a lot of the marriages from past generations especially when many women were much more dependent on men financially and the stigma of divorce was sought to be avoided...etc People just "stayed together" even if they were "unhappy", sexless, sleeping in separate rooms, or dating others on the side.  There are many "emotionally divorced" married couples.

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      tuteramandaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I tHINK THE KEY REASON IS THE SEX LIBERATION, MARRIAGE BASE ON TOW FACTOR,ONE IS THE MALE ''S POWER STRONGER THAN WOMEN ,ANOTHER IS THE sex lockup，while the sex liberation destroy both of it

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Here's some trivia you might be interested in:
      http://facts.randomhistory.com/divorce-facts.html
      Notice the best US marriages are in the Northeast, where people are more educated.  Apparently, ignorance is NOT bliss!

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Say Yes To Life, Are you saying you'd be better off moving from Hawaii to New Hampshire if you wanted to stay married? lol! Here's another stat, people with 2 legs get divorced more than people with one leg! Who knew?! :-)

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio - people in the northeastern US place great value in education, and they tend to marry later in life. They also are more likely to have a high standard of living.  In the south, which has the highest divorce rate, the opposite is true.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      tuteramanda, It's unlikely that sex liberation affects the divorce rate. If anything it may cause a delay in getting married to begin with. For those incline to cheat they have always found a way to do so.

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      tuteramandaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio ，sex liberation devalue the marriage,destroy the patriarchy ,if you experience several parterners,you husband or your wife just one of it,it may seems unimportant

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      tuteramanda, I disagree. Just because one has had multiple sex partners does not mean they see their spouse as just another one. People don't marry everyone they've had sex with! Their spouse must have been someone (special) to them!

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