Will the hurt and anger ever fade away after being neglected and mistreated as a

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   twig22bendposted 11 years ago

   Will the hurt and anger ever fade away after being neglected and mistreated as a child?
   
   When growing up as a child and always having the feeling that you were not liked in your household leaves you with multiple negative feelings about others.

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   ChristinSposted 11 years ago

   I grew up in such a household and I can relate and the truth is, it depends on what you put into your healing.  Some people don't heal because they just feel overwhelmed by what they experienced. Others get that spark that turns their anger around into something productive where they can throw that energy back into themselves and focus on healing. 
   
   I did eventually heal from all of it, but it took a lot of time and effort to build myself up. I spent a lot of time meditating, journaling and releasing all of the "old stuff" to make room for a new way of thinking and being.  I am very at peace with my life today and have made a conscious decision to no longer live in the past and I have self-esteem now that I never would have thought possible at earlier points in my life. 
   
   Ultimately, the mind is a powerful place and when we take charge of our thoughts and feelings and learn to manage them instead of allowing them to be in charge, it is possible to heal from all sorts of things.

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      twig22bendposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Healing is the most important factor. Being at peace with yourself is a beautiful thing to experience.
      Thank you for commenting.

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   Yes, it certainly does. We may feel that we have conquered it conscientiously, but subconsciously it will always be there. It controls a great deal of our personalities if we realize it or not.

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      twig22bendposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So true. It is so time consuming and takes an lot of effort to put " things" away. Some part of our personalities reflect our inner issue.
      
      Thank you so much for commenting.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are very welcome!

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   The hurt doesn't always fade away memories stay with the individual   and the  negative feelings is often triggered by something told in the household

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      twig22bendposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. A conversation with someone else can often cause these embedded negative feelings  to surface.

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   brakel2posted 11 years ago

   It will only go away through counseling when you bring everything out in the open. As long as you hold any of the feelings inside you they will never set you free. I just watched a movie Antwone Fisher which deals with a true story about this very subject.  I know a person like this and he gets angry and mean while other times he is nice. I wish he would get help. My heart aches for all abused children.

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      twig22bendposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with you brakeel2. Counseling would really help a person come to grips with their feelings.

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