Why do children from large families(6 or more children per family) tend to have

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   Why do children from large families(6 or more children per family) tend to have a very poor
   
   sense of self or little to no self-esteem, even to the point of being self-abnegating and not valuing themselves at all whereas children from small families(1-2 children per family) tend to possess high to very high self-esteem, even to the extent of valuing and respecting themselves? Please give detailed answers; you have even write a hub about it.
   
   

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   Biomedicalposted 8 years ago

   I know several very respected, very successful people from large families. Check your source on this. It seems wrong.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      They're not wrong. Children from large families DON'T receive adequate parental attention & love. They are raised not to consider themselves & to have a concept of self is selfish. They are treated not as individuals by their parents but as a

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      miriamyentraccmposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I also disagree. I was #5 of 6 children, and we were raised with lots of love. All of us had normal or higher self-esteems (egos).  Maybe you're generalizing about this, but this is not a cold hard fact.

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I have met large families too and I think the lack of attention thing happens in every size households I think you not only are stereo typing but also prejudice against large families.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I've never seen the lack of attention in small families at all. It's in large families that children DON'T receive any parental attention.They raise each other-I've seen this. This isn't stereotyping nor prejudice but the truth.

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      Biomedicalposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So... basically this was a statement (without any proof), and not a question at all. By any chance, are you an atheist? Where did you get this idea about children of large families? I was raised in a group of 5; my wife, 9. We both respect ourselves.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Children from large families are told that to have any sense of self is selfish.Individuality is discouraged in large families They're raised  as groups.They think & act in packs, not as individuals. I KNOW people from large families&read suc

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      Patty Inglish, MSposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I'm different. Of 10,000 families I counseled, 1/2 small families severely abused kids; we reported. Large families - half & half; 1/2 of families full of love, attention/educ/self-esteem bldg; 1/2 - negligent. Med. size - all over the map.

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   Stargrrlposted 8 years ago

   Probably because they only get a small piece of their parents, as they are one of many to be loved.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Children in large families don't receive that much love. Parents are too overwhelmed to devote needed time to their children. Children in large families RAISE themselves.  They receive very little or no love that's why they so needy as adults.

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   Alyssa Gripshoverposted 8 years ago

   I am #4 of 7 children. I won't say that I didn't get enough love from my parents, and I won't say that I couldn't use more either. I have been told that I have low self esteem. I think it comes from having to share EVERYTHING with your siblings. At first it was toys and food growing up. Then it was sharing your car, your money (some still have yet to pay me back!) Sharing your room, your advice and time, your privacy, the Bathroom! It's not so much that we don't respect ourselves, it's that we were sort of introduced into a lifestyle of 'this person might need it more' I think. I have a very strong bond with my siblings and I will do anything for them. That way of thinking is difficult to give up, even when they are not your relatives.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

   Simply dividing the same resources among a larger number of children reduces the assets for each child.
   
   For example, if you can afford to send one to Harvard, three to the state school, four to vocational school, manage to send eight to public school through high school.
   
   If you have the time to pamper and chaperone one or two kids, you can barely keep up with four so the activities are curtailed to the essentials, and with six or eight, you're lucky to have kids, house and clothes clean and everyone healthy.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Good, analytical answer.  It's just mathematics that the MORE children one has, the LESS there is PER child in time & resources.  Families of 6 & more children DON'T have the resources & attention. They are DISADVANTAGED in so many ways.

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