Help me, please!

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   Daniel Carterposted 15 years ago

   Glad to see your post. It's sometimes just an hour at a time. Then the days get a little better, but it's such a slow process.

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   Zsuzsy Beeposted 15 years ago

   Just like Daniel said I'm glad to see a post here from you. Baby steps will get you to where you need to be.
   Giant grizzly bear sized Mom hug to you.
   Chin up...Zsuzsy

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   bpo-outsourcingposted 15 years ago

   Love is in the hub! Woot... I just finished reading this thread, I was here in HP two days ago but I wasn't able to come across this thread. Just now. Well anyways, I am having the hardest part of my life right now, too, but as I was reading this thread it somehow relieved me from the pain I'm going through...
   
   Thank you so much Pacal for posting this thread and to all of you guys out there who shared lots of very enlightening words of wisdom
   
   Take care everyone!

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      Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      It's good to hear that this thread helped you in some way or another. It helped me. All the warmth and loving words I've got apply to you too. If you have anything to get over you can count on these people.

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         bpo-outsourcingposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Yes, you're right there are beautiful people just around the corner. I was really feeling down this morning but when I read this thread I felt so much better because I learned that experiencing hardships is part of life and it's what makes us a better person.

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            Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Yes. When it happens you just start searching and searching and searching for an answer, a way out, a means to handle it. And when you find it, you find out where you have been wrong and how you can be a better person. In my case it's really about letting go for the sake of someone else and realizing that it's worth bearing any pain if that's the way she will be happy.
            
            And if you need help, please drop me a line.

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               Mrvoodooposted 15 years agoin reply to this

               And hard as it may be, that's what 'real' love is all about, well done you.
               
               Glad you're feeling a little better Pacal, be strong my friend.
               
               You know what I always say:
               
               Good times are gonna come.

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                  Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                  "It cant rain all the time."

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                     bloodnlatexposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                     I just looked outside and it sure is raining out here.

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                        Daniel Carterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                        And you are the proper pessimist we need.
                        
                        
                        Very cloudy here. Although the anger is breaking up a little.

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                        Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                        It will stop.
                        the sun is out here today
                        supposed to rain tomrrow, I think it will be your rain coming this way
                        but really, there are days of sun

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                           bloodnlatexposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                           Indeed, many days of sun.  Warm glorious sun.  Today just seems to be cold and rainy though.  It shall pass.

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   ralwusposted 15 years ago

   Anything else you need to get of your chests Pacal/haunty and probably texan too?

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      Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      No. Thank you. texan who?

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   poetlorraineposted 15 years ago

   just saw this thread, i have read your hub...... never be alone, this is sight is the best, it has beautiful people... willing to help.   But are you getting help by a Real person around you.  Do you live alone

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      Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I'm getting real help.

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   poetlorraineposted 15 years ago

   i am so glad to hear it, in a short while, the whole world will seem like a different place.... love you

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      Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      love you back

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   Helen Caterposted 15 years ago

   Pacal/Haunty I do hope you are OK and whoever you are we know you are a ood kind person so chin up.

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   wrenfrost56posted 15 years ago

   Oh P.V. that is so very sad, I am sorry I missed this thread when you first posted it. A broken heart is a very painful thing indeed, but know that in time it will pass. We are all here for you take care.

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   Daniel Carterposted 15 years ago

   Love is a pain.
   It's poison, toxin, misery, and a complete bother. Damnable stuff. Makes a Scrooge out of all of us.
   
   And, then, if I didn't have it, I wouldn't flourish, I wouldn't know happiness, or ecstasy, or joy, or ever truly get my blood pumping, my eyes wild with delight, and I'd have no reason to draw breath.
   
   No, I'm not loving again. I've said it a bazillion times. And then I cave in.
   
   So I love anyway. Learn to let go with the grace of an adult instead of the grief of a child. Learn to set love free instead of clutching it in a death grip for fear it will escape. Learn to be the love we so desperately seek. Learn to be the loving answer to the questions and problems that will always be.
   
   Damned awful, difficult stuff. Who needs it?!?!
   
   Me.
   You.
   
   It's been a tough month for many of us, it's been such hell for Pacal these past few days, and for the rest it's a reminder of past pain.
   
   What to do?
   Love you all.

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      tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

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    RKHenryposted 15 years ago

    Is everything alright?  I understand that it may not be, but alive at least???
    
    I hope.

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       Daniel Carterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Yes, RK, Pacal/Haunty is still haunting us.
       
       Presently we are smearing healing balm all over each other because he reminds us of how human we all are and are glad we are all surviving this love bullshit together.
       

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          Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

          dude, love bullshit
          THE best f'ing thing I have heard in months!!! gotta go check if I re-fanned you yet!!!

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             Daniel Carterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Here I thought I'd fanned you, double checked because I'm feigning senility, and so now we're good. Like it mucho.
             

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          RKHenryposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Good, let's keep it that way!

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    poetlorraineposted 15 years ago

    all you need is love

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       Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       this breaks my heart, but seriously..no
       you need sooooo much more then love
       for like, a marriage. or one on one "real time" relationship...
       call me sissy if ya want but I got all the love in the world to give....
       nobody wants it...
       you need, trust, honesty, loyalty, forgiveness, understanding...
       and when these things dont work, love is what keeps ya going. 

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          poetlorraineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          hey what do you mean nobody wants your love, i do.......

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             Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

             aww,
             you got it girlie, your right up there in my top 5!!!
             I was trying  to somehow explain the difference between the fact that here you get some cyber hugs, and home its a little different?

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                poetlorraineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                both necessary but can be deeper here, and in the moment, and you can walk away if you dont agree.....

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                   Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   Oh, I agree...
                   its why I keep getting in trouble...

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                      poetlorraineposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      we are two of a kind ha ha

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                bloodnlatexposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                I'll give you all of the cyber hugs you want!

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                   Justine76posted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   aww, I know. You got one or two also.
                   thanks.
                   I just meant, you got to talk out loud in real life to your other person...
                   cyber hugs can help in a pinch BELIVE ME!!! but...to keep going on you need a bit more then "love".
                   crap. Im getting in trouble agian, I can tell
                   
                   peace out girl scouts. have  good one!!

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                      bloodnlatexposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      Who are you calling a girl scout?  I'm all man lady!  LOL

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          Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Justine - This is SO TRUE!!! Thanks for speaking my mind. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. People have to be willing to take it.
          
          B also knows the difference between virtual hugs and 'real' ones. She left me a comment saying that she hopes I get some of the latter too.

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    ralwusposted 15 years ago

    Hello RK, good to see you.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    Pacallllll........is ok to feel sad and helpless...just feel it
    
    then look at yourself in the mirrow and say this..
    
    I feel like crap ,I never wanted this...then also say...I am a good person , good things WILL happen to good people...I will take small steps every hour til this passes ( And it will !!)..
    
    You are so worth everything good!! Hang in ..an hour , then another ...until its one day ,
    
    We will care about you ,until you can do it for yourself

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       Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       this is just what I'm doing, Eaglekiwi.
       
       And I'm also looking for a means to sustain my life without having to cleave to it minute after minute.
       
       Thank you.

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          Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          I am sure you will chose well my friend

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          Daniel Carterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Just so glad to see your smiling avatar, my friend.
          Sending lots of good vibes your way.
          
          It truly, truly does get better. I think I broke through the anger last night myself. It's just so difficult to get to *acceptance* of what is, without incredible fear. But we can get there.
          

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             Pacal Votanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Congrats on that, Dan. That's a big thing. It must be hard times for you too. It would be wonderful if we could get over past hurts together. Just deal with them once and for all.
             
             This guy, terenceyap, has a hub called Live Well, Be Happy. It kind of calmed me down and exercising his suggestions one after the other seems to be working for me. I'm sure you know these things very well. For me, it was just a very good reminder. Take a glimpse at it if you wish and the videos especially.

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    steph7777posted 15 years ago

    i am new here. I just wanted to say that i am glad that Pacal is still alive and with us. take it from someone who believes in God and has still tried to kill themselves over twenty three times. I am still here. Finally on the right meds and I never; well, unless I am off meds, think about it as an option no matter what happens.
    
    Love is a bitch when it dissipates after giving your soul to someone. I know. I am still stuck on the last one. But, in God's universe. there are so many of us out here to help you and to be empathetic. that is what life is about.
    
    love and God Bless you
    
    steph

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    Pacal Votanposted 15 years ago

    creativeone - Thank you. No crying for God's help. I have to do this myself.
    
    And I'm sorry. There are maybe 2 people in this world who would miss me some. The rest of them would never even find out I am gone.
    
    steph - I love you.

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