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   Arthur Fontesposted 14 years ago

   What are your priorities.  Do you spend as much time as you would like to with your family.  Do you have to work to maintain a certain lifestyle?  Would a less demanding lifestyle and more time with the family give you a happier life?

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      rmshdcposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you need to have balanced priorities.
      
      of course family is first.  but to have good family life you need to work.  therefore you need to balance the priorities accordingly.
      
      you need to spend quality time the family rather than quantity of time (duration of the time).

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         Arthur Fontesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         If you could  diminish your need to work would you?  Would you give up material interests to have a better home life?  If you lost your job would you double the amount of hours worked to maintain an income level?

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         cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         took the words right out of my mouth.

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      alexandriaruthkposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      balancing like mothers should do, thats why many people are into online now to try to earn too,

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      AdsenseStrategiesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Well seeing as I'm living in my parents' basement... (that was a joke)

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         creepyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         sure it was

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   Arthur Fontesposted 14 years ago

   This is a question I pose for research for a hub.  I am stuck in a fiction story and I am trying to gain some insights into layoffs.  Sorry for the redundancy I will try to phrase the question correctly.
   
   If you have a nice home two cars boats motorcycles all kinds of property based on debt would you liquidate your property or work more to keep it?  Even if this meant having a lot less time to spend with your child?

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      liquidate, definitely.

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         creepyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         i had a liquidate once she passed out

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      TheGlassSpiderposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ahh, that's a very specific question.
      
      If I could I would sell whatever property (with the exception of one home) that I could offload either at a profit or without having to make payments on it anymore. I would keep  my home and my car. If the bills were still too expensive; I would consider a part-time job with the thought of downsizing homes soon. But if I had children...I wouldn't take on so much work that I could never raise them-that's called neglect.

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   TheGlassSpiderposted 14 years ago

   I don't have children (and am not expecting any...ever), so this question is a little different for me. I have a significant other who hasn't worked in three years and who is overly dependent on me and everyone else in his family.
   
   I like my career: I work with children, I teach, I'm a student, I'm a freelancer, and I care for an elderly gentleman here at home...I am GLAD to have had the opportunity recently to double the time I spend working JUST to make ends meet--believe me, I'm not maintaining any kind of fancy  lifestyle--unless it's hillbilly chic. I would double my work again if I had the time, energy, and opportunity...because I'm working to get away from my roommates and S.O. who, after four years of my hard work, loyalty, devotion, and money have revealed themselves to be nothing more than disrespectful misogynistic moochers. Sometimes I'm glad to have a job to do just to get out of the house and not see their faces.
   
   My priority right now, as selfish as it sounds, is me and getting the f*@# out of here.

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   Arthur Fontesposted 14 years ago

   TheGlassSpider  In your situation I would do the same.  There is nothing wrong with hard work I actually encourage it.  If you have a goal then I wish you all the luck in attaining it.

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      TheGlassSpiderposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you; I'll need it I'm working on brainstorming for hubs here (and developing a readership...gotta learn all this SEO stuff, thank goodness ppl here are very helpful), and got a book editing deal a couple of weeks ago that should last a couple of months (it's a LOOOONG book), and I LOVE editing for other people.
      
      If I can get some small, but regular, residual income going on here....and can keep the freelancing going....I might get out of here this year

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   Arthur Fontesposted 14 years ago

   Thanks guys for the responses the answers are pretty much what I thought.  I really appreciate the input.  My main character is going to have a lot of issues to deal with I hope I can count on your input in the future.

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   hellomooposted 14 years ago

   I think it is important to have balance in your life. I found it hard staying at home as a stay at home mom when I first had my kids. I love my kids but I also loved what I did for a living. Money was not the first issue, my sanity was. Staying home can be isolating and it is easy to lose a sense of identity. I love staying home now (after a year and a half I have gotten to like it) because I have found other outlets such as writing online, and met a great bunch of moms in a similar situation.

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   The Ropeposted 14 years ago

   I learned ...  family.  Keeping the "stuff" and the "wants" and the assumed "needs" to a minimum is tough but all important.

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