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The person that you absolutley LOVE smokes and your allergic to nicotine. What d

  1. selene383 profile image60
    selene383posted 6 years ago

    The person that you absolutley LOVE smokes and your allergic to nicotine. What do you do?


  2. RTalloni profile image90
    RTalloniposted 6 years ago

    What you do is find out if they really care about you--and as a matter of fact, if they care about themselves, which is a very important factor to consider.   This person's attitude about smoking is a reflection of their attitudes about life in general.  Check it out while you still have a chance to do so.  Be wary of "promises."

  3. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 6 years ago

    My friend didnt smoke,his wife did.
    He told her when he kisses her it is like kissing ashtray.
    She stopped immediately.

  4. wilbury4 profile image71
    wilbury4posted 6 years ago

    Throw in an ultimatum... Either the cigs go or I go!!!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    People who enter into relationships "knowing" full well a person's habits in advance are on a power trip when they issue ultimatums. If one is allergic to smoke why would you date a smoker? The same goes for anyone allergic to cats or dislikes children....etc These are all things you know about yourself before you enter into a relationship.

    Playing "bait and switch" or waiting to win someone over emotionally with the intention of pushing them to change is a cruel and devious act. Most often it leads to frustation on your part and resentment on the part of your mate. You're better off finding someone that "IS" already the person you want to be with!

    You have cheated this person out of finding someone who would love them as they are! You have also wasted your time, energy, and emotions on someone who has a habit you find impossible to live with! I'm not sure why anyone would put themself in that situation.

  6. capncrunch profile image77
    capncrunchposted 6 years ago

    As a person who has been in relationships with smokers, I can appreciate your dilemma.  Smoking, I've seen can be a very hard habit to break.  I've been lied to about quitting only to find out later.  I think everyone would rather the truth. 

    But, I kinda agree with some of the other answers here.  As long as a person associates more pain with quitting than they do with continuing, it will be a struggle.

  7. arb profile image80
    arbposted 6 years ago

    How do you fall in love with someone your allergic too? (Smoker)  It's like being allergic to hair and getting a dog.
    Sorry, allergy's are miserable. Obviously, if smoking is more important than ( the allergic other ) then there are bigger problems in the relationship than smoke.

  8. visitmaniac profile image61
    visitmaniacposted 6 years ago

    Try those new electronic cigarettes maybe?
    But to be honest no one should smoke

  9. wychic profile image92
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    I am extremely allergic to nicotine -- it causes me to break out in rashes, fluid starts filling my lungs, and my throat closes up. My husband, whom I do absolutely love, smokes. He always smokes outside, has a specific jacket he always wears when he smokes which he removes as soon as he comes back inside, and he washes his hands and face immediately after he gets back in. If someone cares enough to take some extra precautions, it works just fine.