What would you do if an old school bully turns up?
And starts causing /trying to cause problems again?
Bully is a dangerous behavior to any person. If an old school bully turns up trying to cause problems again after you think everything was over, remind him or her to stop. If he persist report him to the authority.
Do not take law into your hand no matter what you believe or the extend of the provocation. Taking law into your hand may cause more harm than good. It is not about you, therefore do not take it personal. It is not also about the person, do the right thing and stay ahead of the game. Have your plan to stay ahead and practice it many times. It is important to prepare for the action before it occur. Be familiar with potential bully behavior and keep your cool. Refuse to play the victim card and be brave.
Educate yourself about bully and why people suddenly become bully and enjoy bullying others. Education is key to understanding strange behavior or others.
Stay quite and refused to be upset. Don't allow your happiness to be in the hand of another. Ignore the bully and pretend not to hear him or her. Stay ahead mentally without taking laws into your hand.
Document the action by the bully and your reaction for legal purposes and witnesses. In some State bullying is illegal. But only the authority can take action against the perpetrator. Be smart. Attack him or her with silence but report incident to the authority always. Name your witness. Be consistent.
Oh my. What I would LIKE to do in this situation and what I know is RIGHT to do are two very different things.
I was bullied all the time in elementary and middle school. People pretty much left me alone in high school, but the damage had already been done. Those kids were so mean to my sisters and I.
Several of my former bullies have actually genuinely apologized to me. One even admitted that the reason he was so nasty to me was because he had a crush on me.
I suppose it depends on the bully. Generally, I think I would just revel in the success I created for myself WITHOUT torturing any hapless souls along the way.
I would act like I never knew them then they would seem crazy and would get embarrassed and stop. People who get off on bullying others have a huge self-esteem issue inside of them. They never felt good enough so to make others feel worse makes them feel some what better about themselves. I know someone who does this as she's 20 years old! She feels so bad about herself that in order to feel good she has to start drama and make people feel bad.
That would depend entirely upon the situation. If the bully is being physically threatening, then I would take legal action against the bully. We are adults, and thankfully, there are consequences for our actions.
If the bully is saying really hurtful things, that are not in a semi humorous tone, then I might ignore the bully completely, like he/she does not exist. Or I might say something rude back, like "Does it really still make you feel better about yourself to put others down? I thought you might have grown out of it by now!".
Some people don't know how to interact with other people without being rude. If that is the case for your bully, then I would use some playful banter to build rapport. Some people actually LIKE IT when you are rude to them! I don't understand it, but I even have some close friends that are like that. When I try to be sweet, or caring in any way, they get angry and mean. But when I am bantering with them, they look at me with adoration. It's totally bizarre!
It helps to know why someone does the things they do. But you don't have to have a complete understanding of what motivates someone in order to interact with them, or build rapport.
Try to think of interacting with the bully as an experiment. That will take away a lot of the personalization of the situation. You are the scientist, trying to figure out what makes this weird creature tick - what is it that you can do to make this creature behave differently? And then have fun with it! Just make sure that you don't get caught up in the fun of it and turn into a bully yourself...
by Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago
What should be the penalty for school bullies?School bullies should be expelled from schools and placed in juvenile detention or prison. They deserve no clemency nor reeducation whatsoever. If a "child" is old enough to bully another, he/she should be criminalized.
by Maria Janta-Cooper 3 years ago
Bullying. Why would someone who is self-confident bully others?I think it doesn’t make any sense. Does it mean that bullies have a poor self-esteem? They feel that, when they bully their victim they would gain a better self-image. Why they don’t know that, through bullying, they’re damaging...
by glmclendon 6 years ago
Is a bully really hiding his/her fear?Yes No
by mamatwolf 7 years ago
As many of us already know since probably the dawn of time, we've had a bully in our lives somewhere @ sometime. So, why is it that we as parents and educators can't seem to stop this huge dilemma that keeps occurring in our schools?I remember while growing up that I was bullied once or twice. My...
by singleaple 9 months ago
Do you think a name and shame website of school bullies - would be a good idea or not ?Should school bullies be made to pay for what they did later in life or not ?
by Jessie Watson 10 months ago
A couple weeks ago there was a local news report somewhere in the U.S. where a 10-year-old boy was suspended from riding the bus to school for bullying other children. His father decided to make him run to school (just under 2 miles) every morning for a week following closely behind in his pick-up...
Copyright © 2019 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|