Were you bullied as a child and if so, did it make you stronger as a person or did it tear you down?
I dealt with both bullies in school and a verbally abusive father (bully) growing up. It seemed I was an emotional garbage dump for many people. As a child, it damaged me immensely, but as an adult, I took it and turned it around and ended up with a higher sense of self-worth than I thought possible. It tore me down, but I built myself back up ultimately and in some strange ways feel stronger because of it. Do you think most bullied kids end up ok? or do you think it harms most people their whole life?
I was bullied and I gotta say it did nothing to make me stronger or 'build character' as I was told it should as a kid. What built me up was people building me up, telling me they liked me for who I am and who accepted me just as I am. I think it can be dangerous for someone to be bullied, if they don't experience being treated in the opposite manner I think they can really come to believe they are not as good as the bully. Just my two cents
I agree and like you I had a couple of very positive people in my life to counteract a lot of it. Glad you had support and yes, bullying is dangerous no doubt. It sounds like u did overcome it - yay
As a teenager I actually had a friend and we got to chatting. Turns out she had been a bully in grade school, she wasn't my bully but she apologised as if she had been. She had been abused and had taken it out on others, and now felt bad herself.
Being tall as a kid (5'10" by the age of 12) I took a lot of bullying about my height and also just good natured teasing. Strangely enough I dealt pretty well with kids that were bullies but had a terrible time with unthinking adults as their comments definitely attacked my self esteem and hurt my feelings. Seems adults often don't give a lot of thought to remarks they make to kids and though aren't intentionally meant to be mean can be taken straight to a kid's heart. In my childhood days children did not "back-talk" adults so they just had to grin and bear whatever adults chose to say. Stronger? Perhaps -- so many things in one's life encourages strength and/or weakness and it's often hard to sort those two things out.
I sympathize with this! I was opposite, very tiny and didn't break 100 lbs til college. Adults always unintentionally made me feel "small" for more than just my stature! I agree adults have to be very careful because kids do take things to heart!
Christin S You are a born champion this word "bullied" make you Great writer and in my last words I follow you.
My only problem was my Father. When I was six I developed Asthma which seemed to upset my athletic, semi-pro baseball Father. He played ball till he was in his late twenties and then had to get a job. I would never be a great ball player and that was a disappointment to him. He tried and when I could not cut it he would get mad. When we painted the house he got mad and when he had a little too much to drink he got mad. Mostly verbal abuse but it got physical when he drank. Something happened to me during an operation when I was thirteen and some of me changed.
I became a daredevil, afraid of very little. As I got older it became dangerous but I calmed down a little in my thirties. I can never be sure what changed me, being Bullied or the operation, but one of the first things I did was clobber my Father after which he left me alone.
Stronger. I studied more in school which has helped very much. Also, I hardened myself a bit. My family calls me heartless because I make comments without putting emotions into words. Others believe I say these comments with conviction, while I am just making a comment of thought instead of feeling.
This is a long hub. I apologize but when considering the bullying I have faced as a kid and in pondering what i have learned from it or how it has effected my life I felt there was no other way to explain it properly without fully illustrating. If I... read more
i was bullied and it crushed me for a lot of years. I could never fit in, because I was always on the outside being left ou, abd yes it di tear me down I would look in the mirror each morning and say to myself -'there goes the High School drip'. It was a very lonely time.
It changed when I left home and went to college, where amazingly I fitted in and blossomed and went a bit wild.
I guess it has made me stronger - or maybe just made me more aware. I won't stand for anyone being bullied or left out now, and go out of my way to make sure this is so, and during the 15 years or so I have even screwed myself up to being confrontational when this has become necessary.
Bullying is a most insidious form of abuse and yes it really does shape the rest of your life
I totally relate to what you went through during the high school years. I never have understood how bullying is viewed as "normal" and a right of passage etc. It's cruel and uncalled for and I commend you for standing up to it.
I agree with you, many people are quick to say that what happens in our youth doesn't matter when we are adults. Unfortunately in most cases, they are wrong.
I as a young woman was bullied by a group of young boys in high school. Turns out they "liked" me but made my life hell. Anywhere from one to three of them would follow me on my walk to school and say nasty things to me and the numbers swelled to six or seven during school hours. It made me feel bad and unsafe. I am not an attention seeker and never have been. I ended up skipping two weeks of school during my senior year and nearly flunked out despite having a B average prior to that.
At home from my very earliest memories my mom would bully me and constantly threatened to beat me (when she wasn't doing so) so I had a double whammy and was quite the depressed introvert during all this. I can't say that I felt any stronger for any experience of being bullied unless I was in a position to fight fire with fire, which did eventually happen after I graduated from high school and was out on my own. That was a good feeling to "hasten" karma along for someone who needed to see that their wrongdoings have consequences.
My situation was much like kirstenblog's (How do you guys think up these names? I get tongue twisted just writing them out). My oldest (dyslexic-no they do not stutter), was bullied as well; he got stronger exactly like our friend kirstenblog.
In the following article, it gives insight from the other side.
The bullying I experienced as a child made me a better person for it, since I try to treat people like I want to be treated (we artists must have a target on our foreheads). It's the internet bullying that is so cruel, because people say things that they would never say to your face, and there are little to no repercussions for them.
Did it make me stonger? No. I eventually stood up for myself, but it today's schools I would of probably been suspended for protecting myself. Go figure.
There is an inner toughness about me.... Though of course being treated badly, by my father all my life takes it's toll.
I made a lot of excuses for him, and now after he has died i miss him.
it is so complicated, and though i felt i could answer this , as i write i realise, that even as a grandmother with eight grandchildren... in many ways i am still a little girl, trying to work it all out.
Do we ever stop feeling little, trying to work it all out? Somehow I don't think so, I guess growing up doesn't mean you stop being a kid, you just start being more then that.
My own mother goes through similar feelings with her mother who never bullied her, but bullied her two siblings mercilessly. She forgave her, but it still sits with her especially now that grandma is gone.
I was bullied for a few years when I was very young. At the time, it was devastating as the bullies were bigger and stronger. I felt there was no escape and there really wasn't. Fortunately, the worst bully moved and I was able to stand up against the others. Even though still smaller, I had developed a mighty anger that made them leave me alone. Now, as a teacher, I have absolutely no tolerance for bullying and I watch for it and I stop it quickly. I make time to teach students kindness and tolerance. I think it was an experience that has made me a better teacher, because I know personally the impact bullying can have on a person.
I was bullied a lot by classmates when I was in elementary school, both physically and emotionally. It damaged me but made me into a stronger person. One person had told me i would never make it through high school, never would get married and would probably be a waitress when I became an adult. Well I went on through graduate school, joined the army, work for a Fortune 500 company, am married with two teenage girls. As for this person-she is divorced, never went to college and (lol!) is a waitress. I am a stronger person who is able to speak up for myself and others.
by Cindy Vine 5 years ago
Do high school shootings happen as a result of teenagers being bullied and then having enough, drugs, violence on television or are they just psychopathic?
by Oscar 9 years ago
Hey guys, I'm a little angry today as I just had an argument with my parents about LGBTs. I was never very close with my parents because we are nearly complete opposites and believe in very different things (Not just this) but my parents being VERY religious -- my dad is muslim and my mom is...
by Kas 9 years ago
If your child is being bullied, how would you handle the situation?
by giselle2323 11 years ago
Do you believe that kids bullying kids is a bigger issue now than when you were a kid?
by mamatwolf 11 years ago
As many of us already know since probably the dawn of time, we've had a bully in our lives somewhere @ sometime. So, why is it that we as parents and educators can't seem to stop this huge dilemma that keeps occurring in our schools?I remember while growing up that I was bullied once or twice. My...
by Marissa 10 years ago
What are some ways to prevent or stop bullying?
Copyright © 2022 Maven Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website. HubPages® is a registered trademark of Maven Coalition, Inc. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. Maven Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers to this website may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|