What big failure in your life do you remember the most and what did you learn fr

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   AnnaCiaposted 12 years ago

   What big failure in your life do you remember the most and what did you learn from it?

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   padmendraposted 12 years ago

   Failures are many and they are as important as success in your life because every failure prepares you for the success coming towards.
   
   I have learnt from every failure of mine something or the other. However. there are few which always guide me while taking decision as it may be said that those failures taught me the true colors of life and showed me the correct path and I feel I have become capable enough at least to take a  correct judgement most of the time..
   
   My biggest mistake of life was trust. Trusting somebody is not bad but trusting blindly even after knowing that this might be harmful has become a fatal of my life. So now I take proper precautions and try my level best before becoming intimate to them or rather trusting them on anything.

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   Laurasmotherposted 12 years ago

   The answer is very simple for me:
   
   I have trust in people. Now I will trust in me.

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   ahorsebackposted 12 years ago

   In all honesty  for me its the failure of being the best  father I could have been .  My marriage got in the way !

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   sherrituckposted 12 years ago

   I picked the wrong opportunity at the wrong time in my life.  I have learned that a major key to success is picking the right opportunity at the right time.  I am praying for the wisdom to know the difference.

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   Emanate Presenceposted 12 years ago

   AnnaCia, there can only be 'failure' and 'success' when we have fixed ideas of how things 'should' be, when we insist on labelling, judging and comparing. All three (in quotes) are illusions.
   
   While in the truest sense I have had neither failure nor success, in moments of giving in to the illusion it is easy to feel regrets. Regrets of course are not useful on the path of conscious evolution. Still I would entertain thoughts of how I would do things differently based on the learning, the evolution that has taken place.
   
   As a seeker of truth and God from an early age, I kept saying, "let me know the truth, whatever it takes, however difficult it may be to accept." That banged me around a few corners but the growth in authenticity was worth the price.
   
   Some things I would do differently (which is what I have learned) is gain emotional maturity - thereby reducing my dependence on others for my sense of well-being - and take on more self-responsibility earlier in life, be more sensitive and empathetic towards others, recognize my own authority rather than put authority outside myself, and stay more constantly in my center through whatever comes.

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   SidKempposted 12 years ago

   About 20 years ago, I invested in a friend's business. He was so sure that a short-term loan would get him through to product delivery, and he could pay me back.
   
   He was fooling himself, and he fooled me, as well. he paid back partially, many years later.
   
   I was very angry for two or three years. But, every time I felt angry, I stopped and said, "I wrote the check." If I had never loaned the money, I never would have lost it. So, I was at least partially responsible.
   
   Realizing that I am responsible for what I choose or allow has helped me eliminate anger from my personality. An expensive lesson, but a worthwhile one!

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      Born2care2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It seems the price was worth the lesson. Wisdom, fully learned isn't cheap, just exceptionally rewarding. My guess is you have benefited in ways you may not even yet realize.
      Thanks for the enlightening story!

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      SidKempposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      My soul seems to think wisdom is worth the price. I've learned a lot of lessons that have hit the pocketbook pretty hard!

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   Born2care2001posted 12 years ago

   my greatest failure is also my greatest success. The failure: I didn't learn who I was early enough to help myself or others navigate living. The success: I learned who I was right on time; learning in soon enough to help those placed in my life and I couldn't possibly have been successful at that without the failure!
   Great question!

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   Escobanaposted 12 years ago

   I feel there is a certain excitement to failure in life. It would be one of the titles of my book even! One I will write one day...
   
   My biggest failure was to deny the part inside of me that could make my life heaven or hell. After six stubborn years I dedicated my life to everything I could possibly do, to cope with Bipolar Disorder.
   
   Not just cope but live a meaningful life. I succeeded only because I failed so many times in the beginning making me aware of the dangers that creep into your life by ignoring this complex illness.
   
   Failure broke me down and build me back up at the same time.

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    AnnaCiaposted 12 years ago

    Thank you all for answering my question.  This will stay open for more answers.  Have a great day or night.

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