I feel like having a pity party

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

   Anyone else?

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      Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      aw don't be sad schoolgirl.  get glad. besides, life is way too short to be sad. 

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   alternate poetposted 12 years ago

   Most of your posts are invitations to a pity party, what do you want us to pity about you now ?

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      This is in mental health.
      I am venting on several things bothering me
      Stress
      tons of it
      family
      can't go into it all................................................................................................................................................................Misery likes company
      so if you are miserable I'd like to hear......................................and forget myself
      k?

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         mythbusterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Remember that movie, "Misery," based on the Stephen King book?
         
         I have to leave the party early if any of that kind of Misery shows up...
         
         One of the freakiest movies ever made!
         
         
         
         How ya feeling so far, SGFR?  What's in the Juke-Box tonight?

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I never saw it, though I have heard of it. I want to watch it to find out.
            
            
            
            I'm really ok. actually, i just need sympathy sometimes because I feel like no one cares and when I get it, it "heals"me.
            
            I just happen to have alot of people in my life who I can't really avoid who consistently upset me and I just wish they would stop or leave.
            
            I will always have ups and downs and I'm (well aware) that alot of waht I said made no sense (to you!!!) I didn't try to!!
            but I thank you.
            
            A little caring goes a long way with me .

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

   ...i'm needing some help too....thanks for the thread SGFR!
   
   

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      

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   mythbusterposted 12 years ago

   I'll bring the chips!!
   
   I think sometimes it's okay to be heard when you're down. I just had a venting episode with a good friend that could have turned out really bad but venting and being heard helped. My friend understood and we very quickly worked stuff out... I'm sure I had a mini and solo pity party just prior to the little blow up  lol I wish someone had brought ME some pop and chips to my pity party.
   
   Being told to "shut up and chill" or "shut up and deal with stuff" is often a crappy way to support someone who is stressed, upset, having a down time...
   
   We can always listen then be properly assertive, in my opinion, when we feel we have been supportive enough and no longer want to hear about the 'pity party.'
   
   Again - I'll bring the chips... party on! I can only stay an hour tho'
   
   

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      lol
      I agree, we are the same

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

   ...i'll clean up the chip crumbs later....cleaning always helps me feel better for some reason....
   
   

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      a good looking guy would be nice right about now

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         SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         ...i'll find one 4 u!...hold on a moment!

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            SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            ...how about a cowboy for a change...you know to shake things up a bit...
            
            

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            nice!

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               adrienne2posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Yes very nice indeed!

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      Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It looks like some kinky sex thang.

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         Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         hey friendly, whats up?

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   Mighty Momposted 12 years ago

   The floor is yours, schoolgirlforreal.
   Vent to your heart's content.
   Sometimes we just need to get it OUT!

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      ok mighty "MOM"
      you might regret this! ok
      my latest hub explains all of it
      
      
      Alot of grief from my mom and dad-stress overload
      I wish I had a cure for my illness
      
      i hate being alone
      I feel yucky
      you will never know
      I get angry alot
      I don't like that
      i stress so easily
      mind hurts
      sad
      upset
      My parent's have been sick a long time and it hurts to go on and on like that
      I don't like my location of my apt, in boonies
      I'm shy
      want to be in love
      need new friends/change
      family is
      mean
      nosy
      
      but
      i can realx here in peace
      no jerks or chauvinistic people
      
      I don't like getting mad
      
      mind hurts
      
      need relaxing shower
      
      relax
      
      massage
      
      
      life sux -(sometimes)
      
      will it get better
      
      
      suffering is my lot in life....................................................diagnosis
      
      
      need cure
      
      
      Like to talk on phone, need more friends who are night owls
      
      
      
      need a beer. don't have any cause I don't drink much
      
      
      ok, it's edited now.
      
      
      I don't want to complain anymore.

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      told ya Mighty Mom!

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   Stevennix2001posted 12 years ago

   now, doesn't it feel better than keeping that all bottled up inside.  however, if it makes you feel better, i can give you some good advice a friend of mine once told me.  to be truly happy, then you have to love yourself first.  happiness comes from within, and by enjoying the little things in life.  like this forum for instance.  sure, we're not hanging out face to face right now but at least, it gives you a chance to unwind and relax.  Maybe even joke around with your friends, and laugh your sadness into happiness.

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      mythbusterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think I understand this response, Stevennix2001, but it brought some questions to mind...
      
      (anyone can respond - it's just that SN2001's comments brought this to my attention)
      
      Do you think we refuse to honour natural emotional processes like grief, depression, emotional pain - and try to force people away from these emotions and processes?
      
      I am terrible for instantly trying to joke with someone who is feeling sad...trying to get better about this because I know sometimes people have to feel sad, grieve, etc...I still have trouble stopping myself from trying to coax someone, right away, into feeling a different way than they do...

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         Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         i wasn't suggesting that at all. i was just trying to cheer up schoolgirl like you were.  of course, i know it's natural to feel grief and sadness.  who doesn't?  that's part of life. 
         
         edit:  sorry myth.  misread your post.  sorry.  yeah, i can see what your saying, and your right. sometimes we all need a good cry sometimes. heck, i know me and brother did, as we had to watch our dog die earlier a few months back.

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            mythbusterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Man, emotions are so complicated lol
            
            And then I decide to THINK MORE about them lol
            
            What kinda freakin' party iz dis?
            
            Sorry 'bout your dog, Stevennix2001.
            
            *pitypartyhugz*

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               Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               thanks myth. i appreciate that.  hopefully your not too hard on yourself.  i do that a lot sometimes, as i can sometimes be my own worst enemy.

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         SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         ..i get what you are saying...it depends on the situation...sometimes you just need to listen and be there...other times a distraction can help bring on the light for a moment or 2....a bit of break.

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         yes, mythbuster
         I agree 100%
         alot of times girlfriends fill this role
         some men don't
         some do
         but grieving -yes
         else it can lead to anger
         then too much crying
         
         it can be a real challenge to like yourself enough to find supportive friends and stuff (bf) -when you grew up w/out it.
         thx for your comment

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            actually, to be honest, i have a real problem in liking myself
            
            could be my upbringing
            
            any advice?

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               Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               well there's this one person i met on here named beth100.  she gave me some great advice about learning to like yourself over time.  like anytime your about to say or think something negative about yourself like loser or something like that.  you stop yourself before you say that negative word, and take a deep breath.  after that, replace that word with something positive like winner or something like that.  after a while of doing that, it really starts to work.

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree
      I don't usually do this thou cause many people would not understand
      You are really nice

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         Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         aw its okay.  we all get stressed out sometimes.  after all, we're only human.  besides, if anything bothers you, it's never good to keep it bottled up inside of you like that. trust me, i should know.  just remember you'll always have friends here on hubpages if you need us.

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            schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            well it goes on for me.
            Most of the men in my life are not very supportive
            When I grew up I didn't know how to make friends with kids at school
            I think because my dad was anti social
            so I felt less than them
            
            I think I need to marry a therapist!
            
            I'm afraid to complain because it goes deep and will go on and on
            and I might wear people out
            but truthfully talking here helps more than going to therapy.

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               Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               well, im sorry to hear that.
               
               if it makes you feel better, i know exactly how you feel. growing up as kid, i didn't have any friends either.  sure, i've always had acquaintances, but nobody i could ever call friends in real life. it's a bit of a longer story than that, but that's the gist of it. 
               
               im sorry to hear you had to go through that though.  however, it seems like you have a lot of friends here though.  sure, we may not be talking face to face, but any kind of social interaction is good to build up confidence and self esteem.

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                  schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  true I have friends in real life too, most are older than me by chance
                  I have three really close friends and others and acquaintances
                  I'm always looking for new ones too, as I am always changing
                  thx

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                     Stevennix2001posted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     yw. anytime.  just remember, that no matter how hard life can get, it can always be worse.  plus, im sure you have a lot more things going for yourself than you probably give yourself credit for.  trust me, i do that too sometimes, but you shouldn't be too hard on yourself.

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                        schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        It's amazing looking back today.  I have been feeling really good!
                        but it is nice to have you guys when I'm down, just like I'd be there for you.
                        xo

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   mythbusterposted 12 years ago

   Sometimes life just sux... especially when looking at past relationships, missed things or things I think I missed from childhood...when I get feeling this way, someone kicks me in the arse before long and says, "You'll just have to parent yourself."
   
   I usually realize the wisdom in this... have a good cry for a little while then prepare to...
   
   Ground my sorry arse
   
   
   
   Just for a coupla days, that's all.

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   mythbusterposted 12 years ago

   Oh Shyt... I passed out on y'all at the pityparty... did I behave myself?
   
   
   
   sgfr HOW ARE YOU?
   
   *hugs*

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      hey I was reading your post  above this one, and I totally know what you mean about 'pareting yourself'
      
      Hang in there!
      
      mythbuster- I agree a good drink always helps

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         btw, I'm following you now, think some good tales or stories will keep me intersted

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            mythbusterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Hey schoolgirlforreal,
            
            Thanks for the follow... glad you're feeling better...
            
            I'd appreciate some requests if you have any. I'm sort of running out of ideas for writing (or, working on other projects, too but would like to get back to legends, urban myth, etc if you have any requests).

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    wordscribe43posted 12 years ago

    Hope things are looking up for you today, sgfr! 
    
    Mythbuster, I have some pretty embarrassing pix of you from last night, all passed out in the chips and dip. 

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       schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       thx wordscribe43--I feel great!

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    mythbusterposted 12 years ago

    Oh Nooooooooooooo. Chips okay - but not the dip again lol

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    wordscribe43posted 12 years ago

    The issues mainly revolved around the three layer bean dip.  I'm so sorry. 
    
    Double-dipping was the least of our concerns.

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    mythbusterposted 12 years ago

    Oh for pete'sssssssssssssake. DANG I asked people not to put the bean dip near me after I ate those brownies lmao.
    
    Great - real funny guys lmao
    
    How much do I gotta pay THIS TIME for the roll of film? Who has it???
    
    haha

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    wordscribe43posted 12 years ago

    
    
    Does this ring a bell?

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    mythbusterposted 12 years ago

    *roaring with laughter*
    
    Got so pity-party blitzed that I don't even recognize m'self. Yep, I need that film back and all the current prints... how much?
    
    *reaching into pocket* I need those asap k? lmao

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    wordscribe43posted 12 years ago

    Last I heard stevennix has 'em. 

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       schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I can get them......don't worry

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    sofsposted 12 years ago

    I hope the pity party is over and now you are feeling blessed.!!
    
    Cheer up!!

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    mega1posted 12 years ago

    hey, a pity party!  one of those quasi-oxymoronic things.  I used to think I'd get happy by avoiding bad feelings, but now I know you just have to work through it however you can and get to the other side where happiness may or may not be waiting - hopefully not sinking into despair, but trying to avoid just makes it grow like the elephant in the room.  Sometimes I just think about the feelings, not what made them, and let them pass on through.  Would drink a coke now, but its bedtime and I'd be up all night wondering why I did that, on top of everything else.  Music?  that could be the antidote.  Poetry until the hurt has been exorcised - Leonard Cohen, for some stupid reason always gets me through it - you know - "there's a crack in everything, that's how the light get in"

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