Most of your posts are invitations to a pity party, what do you want us to pity about you now ?
This is in mental health.
I am venting on several things bothering me
tons of it
can't go into it all................................................................................................................................................................Misery likes company
so if you are miserable I'd like to hear......................................and forget myself
Remember that movie, "Misery," based on the Stephen King book?
I have to leave the party early if any of that kind of Misery shows up...
One of the freakiest movies ever made!
How ya feeling so far, SGFR? What's in the Juke-Box tonight?
I never saw it, though I have heard of it. I want to watch it to find out.
I'm really ok. actually, i just need sympathy sometimes because I feel like no one cares and when I get it, it "heals"me.
I just happen to have alot of people in my life who I can't really avoid who consistently upset me and I just wish they would stop or leave.
I will always have ups and downs and I'm (well aware) that alot of waht I said made no sense (to you!!!) I didn't try to!!
but I thank you.
A little caring goes a long way with me .
...i'm needing some help too....thanks for the thread SGFR!
I'll bring the chips!!
I think sometimes it's okay to be heard when you're down. I just had a venting episode with a good friend that could have turned out really bad but venting and being heard helped. My friend understood and we very quickly worked stuff out... I'm sure I had a mini and solo pity party just prior to the little blow up lol I wish someone had brought ME some pop and chips to my pity party.
Being told to "shut up and chill" or "shut up and deal with stuff" is often a crappy way to support someone who is stressed, upset, having a down time...
We can always listen then be properly assertive, in my opinion, when we feel we have been supportive enough and no longer want to hear about the 'pity party.'
Again - I'll bring the chips... party on! I can only stay an hour tho'
...i'll clean up the chip crumbs later....cleaning always helps me feel better for some reason....
a good looking guy would be nice right about now
...i'll find one 4 u!...hold on a moment!
The floor is yours, schoolgirlforreal.
Vent to your heart's content.
Sometimes we just need to get it OUT!
ok mighty "MOM"
you might regret this! ok
my latest hub explains all of it
Alot of grief from my mom and dad-stress overload
I wish I had a cure for my illness
i hate being alone
I feel yucky
you will never know
I get angry alot
I don't like that
i stress so easily
My parent's have been sick a long time and it hurts to go on and on like that
I don't like my location of my apt, in boonies
want to be in love
need new friends/change
i can realx here in peace
no jerks or chauvinistic people
I don't like getting mad
need relaxing shower
life sux -(sometimes)
will it get better
suffering is my lot in life....................................................diagnosis
Like to talk on phone, need more friends who are night owls
need a beer. don't have any cause I don't drink much
ok, it's edited now.
I don't want to complain anymore.
now, doesn't it feel better than keeping that all bottled up inside. however, if it makes you feel better, i can give you some good advice a friend of mine once told me. to be truly happy, then you have to love yourself first. happiness comes from within, and by enjoying the little things in life. like this forum for instance. sure, we're not hanging out face to face right now but at least, it gives you a chance to unwind and relax. Maybe even joke around with your friends, and laugh your sadness into happiness.
I think I understand this response, Stevennix2001, but it brought some questions to mind...
(anyone can respond - it's just that SN2001's comments brought this to my attention)
Do you think we refuse to honour natural emotional processes like grief, depression, emotional pain - and try to force people away from these emotions and processes?
I am terrible for instantly trying to joke with someone who is feeling sad...trying to get better about this because I know sometimes people have to feel sad, grieve, etc...I still have trouble stopping myself from trying to coax someone, right away, into feeling a different way than they do...
i wasn't suggesting that at all. i was just trying to cheer up schoolgirl like you were. of course, i know it's natural to feel grief and sadness. who doesn't? that's part of life.
edit: sorry myth. misread your post. sorry. yeah, i can see what your saying, and your right. sometimes we all need a good cry sometimes. heck, i know me and brother did, as we had to watch our dog die earlier a few months back.
Man, emotions are so complicated lol
And then I decide to THINK MORE about them lol
What kinda freakin' party iz dis?
Sorry 'bout your dog, Stevennix2001.
..i get what you are saying...it depends on the situation...sometimes you just need to listen and be there...other times a distraction can help bring on the light for a moment or 2....a bit of break.
I agree 100%
alot of times girlfriends fill this role
some men don't
but grieving -yes
else it can lead to anger
then too much crying
it can be a real challenge to like yourself enough to find supportive friends and stuff (bf) -when you grew up w/out it.
thx for your comment
actually, to be honest, i have a real problem in liking myself
could be my upbringing
well there's this one person i met on here named beth100. she gave me some great advice about learning to like yourself over time. like anytime your about to say or think something negative about yourself like loser or something like that. you stop yourself before you say that negative word, and take a deep breath. after that, replace that word with something positive like winner or something like that. after a while of doing that, it really starts to work.
I don't usually do this thou cause many people would not understand
You are really nice
aw its okay. we all get stressed out sometimes. after all, we're only human. besides, if anything bothers you, it's never good to keep it bottled up inside of you like that. trust me, i should know. just remember you'll always have friends here on hubpages if you need us.
well it goes on for me.
Most of the men in my life are not very supportive
When I grew up I didn't know how to make friends with kids at school
I think because my dad was anti social
so I felt less than them
I think I need to marry a therapist!
I'm afraid to complain because it goes deep and will go on and on
and I might wear people out
but truthfully talking here helps more than going to therapy.
well, im sorry to hear that.
if it makes you feel better, i know exactly how you feel. growing up as kid, i didn't have any friends either. sure, i've always had acquaintances, but nobody i could ever call friends in real life. it's a bit of a longer story than that, but that's the gist of it.
im sorry to hear you had to go through that though. however, it seems like you have a lot of friends here though. sure, we may not be talking face to face, but any kind of social interaction is good to build up confidence and self esteem.
true I have friends in real life too, most are older than me by chance
I have three really close friends and others and acquaintances
I'm always looking for new ones too, as I am always changing
yw. anytime. just remember, that no matter how hard life can get, it can always be worse. plus, im sure you have a lot more things going for yourself than you probably give yourself credit for. trust me, i do that too sometimes, but you shouldn't be too hard on yourself.
Sometimes life just sux... especially when looking at past relationships, missed things or things I think I missed from childhood...when I get feeling this way, someone kicks me in the arse before long and says, "You'll just have to parent yourself."
I usually realize the wisdom in this... have a good cry for a little while then prepare to...
Ground my sorry arse
Just for a coupla days, that's all.
Oh Shyt... I passed out on y'all at the pityparty... did I behave myself?
sgfr HOW ARE YOU?
hey I was reading your post above this one, and I totally know what you mean about 'pareting yourself'
Hang in there!
mythbuster- I agree a good drink always helps
btw, I'm following you now, think some good tales or stories will keep me intersted
Thanks for the follow... glad you're feeling better...
I'd appreciate some requests if you have any. I'm sort of running out of ideas for writing (or, working on other projects, too but would like to get back to legends, urban myth, etc if you have any requests).
Hope things are looking up for you today, sgfr!
Mythbuster, I have some pretty embarrassing pix of you from last night, all passed out in the chips and dip.
The issues mainly revolved around the three layer bean dip. I'm so sorry.
Double-dipping was the least of our concerns.
Oh for pete'sssssssssssssake. DANG I asked people not to put the bean dip near me after I ate those brownies lmao.
Great - real funny guys lmao
How much do I gotta pay THIS TIME for the roll of film? Who has it???
*roaring with laughter*
Got so pity-party blitzed that I don't even recognize m'self. Yep, I need that film back and all the current prints... how much?
*reaching into pocket* I need those asap k? lmao
I hope the pity party is over and now you are feeling blessed.!!
hey, a pity party! one of those quasi-oxymoronic things. I used to think I'd get happy by avoiding bad feelings, but now I know you just have to work through it however you can and get to the other side where happiness may or may not be waiting - hopefully not sinking into despair, but trying to avoid just makes it grow like the elephant in the room. Sometimes I just think about the feelings, not what made them, and let them pass on through. Would drink a coke now, but its bedtime and I'd be up all night wondering why I did that, on top of everything else. Music? that could be the antidote. Poetry until the hurt has been exorcised - Leonard Cohen, for some stupid reason always gets me through it - you know - "there's a crack in everything, that's how the light get in"
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