Do You think People are out to get you?

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   days leaperposted 13 years ago

   If you do, should you automatically see a psychiatrist because you believe it is a delusion, or others do, or is there some truth in it possibly at all???

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      sofsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      why would you consider yourself so important that people out there are out to get you??

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         days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Though we are speaking generally about any-one, I hope:
         Why would 'you' think 'I' am thinking I am so important, and that therefore somehow must be the reason...  Or 2.  Why are 'you' thinking 'i' am so unimportant that people wouldn't possibly consider there being any gain from this so called "getting me"?

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            sofsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I did get it that you are speaking in a general sense.. my question was also not pointed at you.. actually it should have been .. why should anyone consider themselves so important that the world is after them..
            I mean people are busy with their own drama in life to actually be all out to get someone.. unless there is something really wrong..
            I would consider someone paranoid if they felt that the whole world is out to get them.. unrealistic and irrational fear..  first symptom of a psychiatric condition.. Once in a while some people do feel that way.. especially when they are depressed ,.. but if it continues over a period of time .. time to meet the psychiatrist
            No  offense meant there.. I guess  you know it

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               days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I agree, there is a definite condition.  And if one too many strangers give a side ways look too many one can wonder.
               My second point from your excellent reply is with the term "people", why does it commonly lead to the assumption this means "every-one" ie.  "the whole world", could it just be a generalisation but forgetting what must be important describing words "some -people", "a lot of people -recently/over certain time etc.", "various people" or in certain pklaces... etc.  We, and psychiatrists, health professionals seem to universally take the word -including other words- to mean one specific thing.  Yet for instance some-one had a minor complaint about me once; a symptom of my illness but the way the staff member described this one or perhaps it was two ... was "people ..." and it seemed like the whole world!

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         jansplaceposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I work with someone who is so stressful.  She thinks that every time you close the manager's office door to have a private conversation you are talking about her and she gets into a real paddy. 
         
         Several times I've told her to stop it because no one is talking about her.  It's like walking on egg shells the whole time.  I know she drinks and I put that down to part and parcel of her bizare behaviour, I just feel she has no self confidence and it is very sad.

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            healinghands1668posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            What you described in my mind resembles social phobia--an extreme fear of being negatively judged. I have felt the same fear whenever I've seen my supervisor's door close, or seen coworkers whispering and been unable to hear what they say. A part of me is sure that they're talking about me and how ugly/stupid/awkward I am.
            
            What helps me is to be reminded that people do actually like me. Doing something kind for this woman might really lift her spirits.

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      earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think you wanted the religious or politics forums.

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         days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         why???

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            earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            The natural homes of paranoia here are those two forums.

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               sofsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Lol and you are there all the time Earnest OMG

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                  days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  LOL.  fantastic!  -oh, I mean that Sofs wrote above at exactly the same time as I wrote the 21000+ ...   totally unrelated really.

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               days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               OK.  My second choice was philosophy but With over 21,000+ posts, I guess you know better than I.  I have however got what I want from it here I think, so will defer it to you should you wish to gage the religion and politics community.

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      Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      In general, maybe a person should ask himself if he could be wrong.  Paranoid personality disorder involves thinking everyone is out to get you, among other mental-health conditions).  Then again, sometimes people really are out to get someone.       Then, too, sometimes people who aren't particularly "out to get you" act in ways that can make you feel like they sure are (even if you know they care about you).  So,  I guess it really depends on the people, on whether it's EVERYONE you think is out to get you (or just a few close relatives/friends/co-workers).  Maybe that's key:  If you generally get along with most people outside a particular circle, and if you generally don't think absolutely everyone you run into is out to get you; maybe that's one measure of whether it's you or something someone close to you is doing/saying.   
      
      (Sometimes people who care about you can have some pretty misguided ideas, approaches, beliefs, and inability to know when to draw the line on themselves - so it isn't always "you".  I guess one other way to get a reading for yourself (about whether you should see a psychiatrist) is to look in legitimate reference material about paranoid personality disorder, and paranoia (two different conditions); and ask yourself if you have any of the other difficulties shown as symptoms.
      
      Another point is that there is such a thing as "gas lighting", which (you may know) is when one person mistreats or wants to control another, and aims to make that other person feel as if he's the one who's "imagining things" about how the control freak/psychological abuser is behaving.   (So look up "gas lighting" too.  That term came from a movie made years ago.)
      
      If you think someone like the bus driver, mail man, or your dentist are out to get you - that's a completely different thing (and seeing someone is probably a good idea).   

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         days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         very balanced ande well developed answer,  Thank You.  And Yes as Psychology student was aware of "gas lighting" but under a different term.  Thanks again!

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   recommend1posted 13 years ago

   As man is the biggest predator of man - a constant watchful eye over your shoulder is to be advised.  And the psychiatrist is usually just another financial predator.

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      days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      good point

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   klarawieckposted 13 years ago

   Yessss... I hear voices... and I know they're coming for me... but I'm better than Buffy. I can handle it!

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      days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      excellent!   Humour, I think...

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         klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         ...you think. Do you?

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            days leaperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I think therefore I am!  :p:

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