Why do people give up their dreams?

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  1. Debby Bruck profile image66
    Debby Bruckposted 13 years ago

    Why do people give up their dreams?

    As we get older do we get disappointed or feel jaded?


  2. Christian McPhate profile image61
    Christian McPhateposted 13 years ago

    I think that they set irrational expectations when it comes to their dreams. Maybe, they feel like they cannot reach their dreams, or maybe, just maybe, they do not understand that a person has to take baby steps to reach their dreams.

    If a person feels jaded or disappointed, it is only because he or she didn't reach his or her expectations. If we constantly revise our dreams, taking into account that life is full of curve balls, then we will be happier individuals and less jaded.

  3. apache13 profile image60
    apache13posted 13 years ago

    because people are not able to wait for anything they want it right now and society is to blame for making this a push button world. If people would slow down and realize things take time they would have more faith in the things they themselves can produce. It is our nature to dream but today one little discouragement and they throw it all away.

  4. Ruchira profile image74
    Ruchiraposted 13 years ago

    I don't think people give up their dreams as they grow older. It is just that the path leading to it becomes a little twisted and long and full of hurdles and that makes them drift away from their dreams.

    But, faith and confidence in oneself can make one go back to what we dreamt of as kids.

  5. Lisa HW profile image62
    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I think lots of times people don't so much give up on dreams, as outgrow them.  What's important to us at one time in life isn't all that important in some other time.  Other than that, I suppose lack of money (or unwillingness to take some financial risk) to pursue their dream is probably also a common reason.

    I don't necessarily think it's because people get disappointed or jaded.  A good, solid, dream can last a lifetime, and not everyone who gets older jaded or allows himself to be affected by disappointment.

    For a lot of people, getting older equals personal growth; and personal growth can involve a change of priorities.  Then, too, there are people who don't have a dream when they're young and discover they do once they're older and more solid about what they want in life.

  6. neeleshkulkarni profile image39
    neeleshkulkarniposted 13 years ago

    when they start the business of living they start making small compromises just to stay afloat since living for a dream requires many sacrifices to be made.With each compromise they tell themsleves they WILL ultimately come back to their dream but as they walk away slowly they come to a point when they realise they have come too far to go back.
    at that point they can either make a clean break with the present summoning up all the energy at their disposal to do so or they just decide to abandon the dream and walk on.
    let us face it- most of us just don;t have the courage and strength needed to live our dreams.so we just blame external circumstances, other people,responsibilities or all things but our weakness and just abandon and walk on.

  7. Stina Caxe profile image81
    Stina Caxeposted 13 years ago

    Life is a self-renewing process.  It's more like a circle than a straight line that leads to a dream or accomplishment.  You start out with a dream or a plan, you may or may not accomplish your dream.  If you accomplish your dream then you move on and if you do not then eventually you modify your dream or plan.  Either way this ends up leading into a transition phase where you form new goals and purposes and figure out what you need to do to achieve them.  Finally you have come full circle and are ready for a new beginning. 

    So basically, yes there comes a point where you feel disappointed if your dreams do not come true, but that is when you need to heal yourself and change those dreams up a bit, be realistic.

  8. xxscord profile image62
    xxscordposted 13 years ago

    the number one reason people give up on there dreams are the nay sayers ,the practical people in there life.  so when your dream becomes alittle tough, instead of  words of encouragement !  you get i told you so.  you must over look these  people and march to the beat of your own drum

  9. BobbiRant profile image60
    BobbiRantposted 13 years ago

    Sometimes people find it hard to take critical remarks, or they allow others to sway them.  Sometimes people do not give up on the dream, but come back to it and accomplish it later on in life, like me.  Great question.

  10. abhishek.genius profile image59
    abhishek.geniusposted 13 years ago

    Strong dreams are never abated. Though our conscious mind overlooks or sometimes even forgets them, but they are still alive in the sub-conscious mind (the part of mind that is always working and the infinite source of intelligence). We tend to give up such dreams on account of discouraging friend-circle, society and negativity that surrounds us.

  11. Ashantina profile image61
    Ashantinaposted 13 years ago

    I believe its because of one or all of three things:

    1. Lack of Self Belief
    2. Comfort zone [and laziness]
    3. Fear of Self

  12. LillyGrillzit profile image77
    LillyGrillzitposted 13 years ago

    Excellent question!

    In childhood our "dreams" can be planted by others attempting to force a destiny. Sometimes "dreams" are instilled by false premises; like via advertisements. There are times dreams are sacrificed for a greater good, although it need not be forever. Real dreams never die, they just go into a coma for stabilization.

    We can choose to live in disappointment, or let delays jade us, but that is a choice. Letting all dreams die, is the path to hopelessness. Realizing it is for a very short time in the scope of things, helps us to carry on, and regain dreams and hope.

  13. Apostle Jack profile image59
    Apostle Jackposted 13 years ago

    It was meant to be.We do what we do here on earth and then its time to count sheep.Falling short is a normal thing its how long you stay down that really matters,and how you perform after you get up.

    We are in "SPIRITUAL" warfare, whereas, the intellect is paramount.

  14. Keith Worth profile image60
    Keith Worthposted 13 years ago

    In my experience, dreams aren't really ever formally given up so much as pushed aside, procrastinated and otherwise delayed until they simply fade.

    For most dreaming is simply wishful thinking. Sure we all have the potential to live our dreams (within mortal limitations), but thinking whimsically about things is a lot easier than putting in the effort it takes to achieve them.

    Dreaming is easy and takes almost no time or effort. Doing is much harder and more demanding of time and energy.

  15. Ellen Page profile image60
    Ellen Pageposted 13 years ago

    I think dreams are given up out of fear of one kind or another.  It may be fear of unknown, fear of failure, fear to disappoint others.  As we get older we have more to lose and stepping out to accomplish any dream we have includes risk.  It is a natural thing to want to preserve security rather than risk that security for a possibility of a good outcome.  Children tend not to think this way and hence they have fewer inhibitions and more imagination. The dreams we have as kids seem rediculous to the adult mindset of "preserve and protect".

  16. profile image0
    fordieposted 13 years ago

    Life is a distraction. Dreams require a very singular approach.

    Another angle on this would be to look at the few have managed to follow their dreams. Mostly these are people we call 'Great'.

    We need more, so shouldn't education encourage this.

  17. Just My Thought profile image60
    Just My Thoughtposted 13 years ago

    As people grows older , the objectives of life becomes different .

  18. FaithDream profile image78
    FaithDreamposted 13 years ago

    I think people give up on their dreams because they lose hope. After a series of setbacks, one begins to get discouraged. Thinking they will never reach their full potential they begin to lose hope.
    The "naysayers" in their life may encourage that as well. Dropping loads of misbelief on their dreams, they lose the passion.
    With all that said, if you have someone in your corner to encourage and love you, as you get older you realize that your dreams can be a possibility. You begin to believe in yourself. I believe that wisdom comes with age.
    Great question.

  19. 100percenttruth profile image60
    100percenttruthposted 13 years ago

    I have wanted to work for the Walt Disney Corporation my whole life. About 3 months ago  I found out that I had received a paid internship with them. Anyways, I was told  by my father that he did not want me moving to Florida. He wasn't ready for me to go. I declined the internship and now regret that I did. I was supposed to be in Florida today. I think many people give up their dreams so that they can make other people happy. Even adult give up their dreams because they are more focused on their kids and put their families before what they truly want (not that there is anything wrong with that). From now on I know I am never going to put anything before my dreams now. You only live once.

  20. optimistic angel profile image61
    optimistic angelposted 13 years ago

    They find a better dream or their dream was to hard to achieve.

  21. profile image0
    Rouillieposted 13 years ago

    Crazy, I suppose.  I can't imagine why anyone would do that.

  22. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 13 years ago

    Sometimes our dreams change or our goals change.  But most often, I think we get busy raising our families and get used to putting ourselves, our likes, dislikes and dreams on the back burner.

  23. ahmiz profile image59
    ahmizposted 13 years ago

    I think some people do get jaded as they get older. Responsibilities and reality overwhelm them, and they begin to think their dreams were, "childish", "unrealistic" or "naive", and they feel they are now wiser, having experienced real life. A little bit of child-like naivety is probably good to help accomplish your dreams.

  24. accofranco profile image77
    accofrancoposted 13 years ago

    I am about finishing a novel with title similar to this question: Dieing with your dreams. some times peoples dreams die away out of life unforseen occurrences. some have dreamed to be millionaires for example, but along the hurdle of life, they lost out for one reason unknown to them...so they didnt give up on their dream rather they died with their dream. in my own understanding, no reasonable man or woman give up his  dream...it is rather the dream that became a mission impossible that made it look like they gave up.

  25. Jangaplanet profile image60
    Jangaplanetposted 13 years ago

    I believe that most times we have opon our lip a " i love you" in wich we never utter, and buried in an ocean of our imaginary problems, and of pride, and unecessary fear , to wich lets us lose our own personal prosperity, and the understanding of whom we truly are, and of the beauty that stands facing us. All what would be needed is the courage to express our deepest feeling, to comunicate our most precious desires, to simply follow our heart, and ask ourselves that perhaps happiness is not behind that corner, but alot more closer than we had anticipated. And when we don'r express these human tendencies ,we eventually become bitter and angry and give up on our dreams.Has time passes on by, we simply forget we ever had a dream.

  26. Darrell Roberts profile image71
    Darrell Robertsposted 12 years ago

    People get tired and are not willing to struggle and for their dreams.  It is not easy 6 billion people in the world with so many dreams.  Who really wants to help another accomplish their dream if it will cost them a portion of thier dream.  You have to mentally, spiritually and some times physically fight for your dreams or it will remain a dream.

  27. Yumna Siddique profile image61
    Yumna Siddiqueposted 5 years ago

    as we are young we feel charm in any designation post place or any thing else. but when the time arrives to accomplish it we comes to know how much hard work and struggle is needed to get it. mostly people think that it is to difficult for them to obtain  it and they give up. they don't have self confidence.


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