Bride faked cancer to get gifts - what do you think?

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   elayne001posted 12 years ago

   http://gothamist.com/2010/09/08/bride_a … to_sco.php
   
   It is sad when you have to fake illness to make your dreams come true.  She should pay it all back as far as I am concerned - what say ye?

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      klarawieckposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Talk about wanting attention! Geeeez!

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      saleheensblogposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      oh God, heinous dream is never a dream

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      IntimatEvolutionposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      What?  Oh my goodness, I would not want to be in the path of her soon to come Karma. 
      
      Nope.  That's beyond awful.

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         theherbivorehippiposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         That's what I'm thinking!  That's like calling into work sick when you're not......then you always get sick.  hmmmmm...faking cancer is just asking for it.
         
         Horrible thing to do!

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      pennyauctionvieweposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is just "sick". This person needs psychiatric help. Maybe her cancer claims trigger her need to receive counselling for her mental illness.

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   Ivorwenposted 12 years ago

   It is really, really pathetic!  I can't imagine doing such, but I know those who have done similar. 
   
   Should she pay things back?  I have a feeling she will, in one way or another, even if those who gave do not receive payment.

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      sofsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      She is sick , it is true, but in her mind.

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   china manposted 12 years ago

   It is not uncommon for people to fake something to get what they want or get attention.  That this gils seems to have gone a bit far is onlythat, a bit far.  I am only surprised she didn't capitalise by making it a miracle recovery and posting it in the forums as 'proof' of kristian miracle that has turned her into a born again liar.

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   ksha16posted 12 years ago

   Lol yeah hehe

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   privateye2500posted 12 years ago

   What do I think?  I think that is one really sick chick!

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   Kathryn LJposted 12 years ago

   I think she should be made to help out in an oncology unit for 6 months.  That should give her enough time to ponder on faking cancer.

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      Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      yeah, volunteering in a children's oncology unit just might set her straight.

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      h.a.borcichposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      This would be very fitting.

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   elayne001posted 12 years ago

   here is an update regarding the bride - she is reaping the consequences of her own decisions:
   
   http://gothamist.com/2010/09/09/angry_m … er_can.php

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   susanlangposted 12 years ago

   So sad when I hear these things. Big hug to the people she hurt.

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   alternate poetposted 12 years ago

   Funny - when someone says they have cancer to get attention and then is found to be lying, all the christians consider what her punishment should be and comment on her morality.  When a christian fakes cancer and later does not - all the christians praise it as a miracle !

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      TamCorposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Ever heard of the saying "Like a broken record?"...
      
      

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         alternate poetposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Ever heard of the saying "if the cap fits wear it" ?

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            TamCorposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Considering that that is NOT what this thread is about...that's beside the point.

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               alternate poetposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               I think this is what this thread is all about, sanctimonious condemnation of someone so desperate for attention that they go to extremes, by the same list of christians that post sanctimonious threads about how they gave some paltry 20 dollars to someone who needed it and go into spasms of self indulgent self praise.  Someone needs to point out that this girl is a victim and also needs support and help not heartless condemnation.  You may not understand your own bible where it tells you explicitly to do this?

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                  Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  I see where you're coming from.  Here's the thing - Even Christians have faults, no matter how many try to convince you otherwise. 
                  
                  This particular 'bride' committed fraud, which is a crime, and punishment is warranted.  Just because this girl/'bride' can also be seen as a victim doesn't mean she should walk away without paying for her crime.  The question is, what payment is justified in this case?

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                  quotationsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  If she is a victim, then who isn't? The problem that with labeling users and frauds like her victims is that it excuses their behavior. Her actions are nothing short of theft: she would not received these gifts except for her deceit.
                  
                  I find it odd, too, that you would find it morally reprehensible for someone to do a good deed like donating $20, while you seem to regard her theft and deceit as proof that she is a victim. What about the people she stole from? What about the fiance and family whom tormented with worry over her condition? Arent they the true victims?
                  
                  Your values seem upside down. Moreover, your own logic is contradictory: you say that Christians are sanctimonious and morally wrong for condemning what this woman did (though I think that all major religions would find her actions wrong, not just Christians) and yet you engage in the same "sin" that you condemn, by then judging Christians for judging her. If being judgmental is wrong, then start with yourself.

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                     Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     quotations - you brought up a point that slipped my mind:
                     
                     Excusing the behavior of a 'perceived victim' does not change the fact that the behavior was a choice.

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                  Hauntyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  I second this. For one thing, you people don't see the whole picture. You only know the possibly very twisted story that the media presented. For another, how is this any if your business? This hate campaign against someone you don't know is just as sick. My opinion.

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      h.a.borcichposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      For the record, I made my comment as someone who is fighting advanced cancer. That it was unchristian of me, I am only human.
      Cancer is a serious life threatening issue for some, so is faith. I guess to some nothing is sacred.

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         Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

           ((((hugs))))

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    richtwfposted 12 years ago

    She must be seriously out of her tree if she had to stoop to that level to do that. I feel sorry for her family having to endure the embarrassment.

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    schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

    disgusting and dishonest, how can she live with herself!

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    Home Girlposted 12 years ago

    Being greedy and stupid, and immoral does not make her a victim, give me a break!

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    Tammy Lposted 12 years ago

    Faking a devistating and serious illness like cancer (regardless of form) is not as obvious as faking other illnesses like a cold.  What did she do? Did she shave her head and say it was a result of the chemotherapy?  In any event, assuming she truly was faking (I'm not a doctor so I can't say she did or she did not indeed fake the disease), she apparently does not realize what cancer (in any form) does to a person and his or her friends and relatives.  Hopefully her conscience will convince her of anything wrong she may or may not have done.

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    DigitalWorkshopposted 12 years ago

    I've had a close relative die from cancer and there are no words to express my feelings about someone who'd fake such a serious illness. What it does to body and soul cannot be imagined by someone who hasn't been through the experience. I can just say shame on her, shame...

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    princess gposted 12 years ago

    I think that's pitiful and disgusting for her to do that

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    nlthomasposted 12 years ago

    Oh wow, and she has a kid too? That's terrible. I'm sorry, but without offering some form of proof and just picking out a random doctor in a random hospital ... they need to land her in jail. Make her pay the full expense for her wedding and do community service. There's no reason for that at all.

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    Happyboomernurseposted 12 years ago

    There was a teenaged couple in Delaware that got married when the bride was told she had terminal cancer. Many vendors and community members made donations so that the bride could have the wedding of her dreams. Unfortunately, the bride did die shortly after the wedding.
    The really sad part about hearing this current story of a bride who faked having cancer is that vendors and people in the community will be less likely to help couples facing real cancer diagnoses in the future.

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    Klenaposted 12 years ago

    That's absolutely shocking, and a real disgrace. To come out with those sorts of lies to your husband, family - and what about her child? I can't help but wonder if the child was told that "mummy was sick."
    
    Echoing many of the above comments, I believe that one way or another she will have to pay all the kindness back whether with jail time, monitary compensation or through the laws of karma.

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    Helpful Hannaposted 12 years ago

    People who want everything deserve nothing.  She should be ashamed!

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    Daniels24posted 12 years ago

    embarassing...

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    rulalenskaposted 12 years ago

    Who is the man who was marrying her?!?

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    jsevenposted 12 years ago

    I'm speechless. Everything has pretty much been said, but I will let God be her final judge.

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    sharing the skyposted 12 years ago

    It's unfortunate and very concerning to hear about. While I do feel badly for the deceived gift givers (and her husband-to-be and family members), I also feel badly for this woman; how is her mental health? what would drive her to choose such actions? and how will she deal with the aftermath of this situation? If she's done this to gain attention or love, has this behavior crossed over into areas of her life? I feel she must apologize or right her wrongs however, I also feel that this is clearly a sign of something deeper that needs to be addressed.

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    Daffy Duckposted 12 years ago

    There is no way I would continue to be a friend to someone like that much less marry her.  I would break it off immediately because I couldn't trust her.

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