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   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Take the time ro read Vidya's excellent article that gives us solutions when we feel we are being taken fore granted.
   
   https://hubpages.com/health/When-you-fe … he-Problem

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   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Feeling like you are being taken foe granted is awful I think this is an excellent article Vidya. I like the solutions you included in this article.

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   surovi99posted 2 years ago

   If someone feels s/he is taken for granted and it threatens their peace of mind, they should leave immediately and move on. The majority of the options for the above problem you give are familiar to me and I have written a lot of the points in self-help articles on another platform. Nevertheless, your solutions were a reminder and I enjoyed going through them, Vidya.
   
   Thank you Pamela for highlighting her work.

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      Pamela99posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Your comments are so true Rosina. Sometimes we have to move on. Thank you for your comments.

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   vidsagsterposted 2 years ago

   Thanks Pamela for the encouraging comments and sharing the link to my article. It hurts a lot when one strives to do good to others always  and the efforts are not appreciated or acknowledged. Have a blessed week ahead.

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   vidsagsterposted 2 years ago

   Hi Rosina. You are absolutely right. It is better to move on than stay in a relationship in which one has to give always and not get appreciation for it. It wears one out, mentally, physically and emotionally.  Have a great week ahead, stay blessed.

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   Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years ago

   Vidya...
   This is a great topic and article.
   
   People often take advantage of others.
   
   I've had it happen to me and quite honestly I know that feeling of wanting to run away.
   
   I used to just not answer my phone or my door. 
   Now I am sometimes rude...but I simply tell them I cannot help them.
   
   Trust me...you can't continue to just let people walk over you as your article points out.
   
   Don't feel guilty about letting others down.   You need to put yourself first.
   
   If they decide to no longer be in your life...then they weren't there to begin with so you are better off.
   
   Others need to learn.  Let them fail.  Let them do it all over again  & eventually they will start helping themselves.
   
   Just don't allow people to use you.
   
   Finding new hobbies & lije minded people is great advice.

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   vidsagsterposted 2 years ago

   Thanks Brenda for the insightful comments. Yes Brenda, I have also experienced it and so it rang a bell when l saw my friend distressed. If we let people take advantage of us, they will walk all over us. We need to learn to say no and take care of our own health first. Writing and interacting with friends like you on Hubpages have certainly helped me.Have a great day stay blessed.

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years ago

   Hello Vidya Ji!
   It’s an important topic and you have provided some useful suggestions to those who may find themselves in such situations.
   When we look around, it’s quite common to find such people in family and friends, who are taken for granted. Even if they realise that they are trapped in such a situation, they are not able to take any step to come out of this. They want help, and advise from their well wishers. But, I believe that they have to stand for themselves, as no other person can help in such cases.
   Understanding your own self worth and dignity is important, so that no one takes advantage of your goodness. Being good and helpful towards others is appreciable, but getting exploited for the same, should not be acceptable.
   Thank you for sharing this excellent article.
   Thank you Pamela for highlighting this in the forum.

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   Misbah786posted 2 years ago

   Vidya, you have chosen a great topic and created an excellent article. I can really relate to this; I am generally quite friendly to others, and I am the type of person who can easily trust people after being hurt by them. I frequently feel bad for myself that I should not sacrifice my own identity for the benefit of those who don't care about me. Still, it hurts so much to give to others and help them while receiving no appreciation in return. Many times, I feel helpless when I feel that none of my kind acts or helpful nature is fruitful; instead, it sometimes gives me the idea that I should escape somewhere, where no one can find me, in the hope that they will realize what they've been doing wrong, but I think even that is futile.
   
   These cold behaviors by others have made me a stoic; I've stopped communicating my feelings, even my needs with them because I know they won't care. When someone cannot understand your words or emotions, I believe it is best to remain silent; certainly, it hurts, but at least your self-respect is preserved. In the end, it is all of our good actions that we will take with us from this world, and it is only for our good deeds that others will remember us once we leave this world. This brings me peace. Who on this world has come to live forever?
   
   Sometimes people unintentionally wound other people’s soul, I think it is because they become so selfish and egoistic that their selfishness blinds them to the needs and desires of others. It's unfortunate, but it happens. Whenever I am saddened by the actions of others, I leave it to God; I don't need a reward from others because I know they will fail, and even if they do try to repay me, I may not feel satisfied enough. There are magnificent rewards in the hereafter for our good deeds; this feeling calms me and stops the bad feelings that keep me from doing good to others.
   
   Lastly, God knows my heart, and it should constantly be bathed with the water of Love and Light. This is more essential than anything else.
   
   Sorry for the lengthy comment. Thank you very much for this lovely article, and thanks to Pamela for sharing it with us.
   
   Blessings and Love to both of you!

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    RozlinMohsinposted 2 years ago

    Well-written article on a very good topic, Vidya. I really like whatever you have written. I agree all your points, that you have included to help to move on in case taken granted. This article is helpful too. Thank you for writing on such a great topic. Some people on planet really needs to learn this.

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