Do mums get regular pats on the back for their hard work?

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  1. deanjc1970 profile image61
    deanjc1970posted 13 years ago

    I dont think so!!
    I really couldnt do what my wife and mother of 5 does!
    We need to thanks our mums and wives, or better halves regularly
    what do you think?

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      awesome, Dean! while most of raising children is its own reward, it is still nice to know that our sacrifice and hard work is important and valued. women do a lot of unseen, unappreciated things. men do as well. everyone likes to know that others are aware of and appreciate their contributions. kudos for posting this~ smile

  2. Lady Rose profile image64
    Lady Roseposted 13 years ago

    Mothers are amazing creatures that can tirelessly work most of the day and part of the night, as they keep thinking and praying about what to do to improve their homes and families. They all need our sincere appreciation and love. Take them out for dinner, give them a free day a week! They deserve it.

    1. deanjc1970 profile image61
      deanjc1970posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      so true! they are what makes the world go round! thanks lady rose

  3. Marie-Renee profile image80
    Marie-Reneeposted 13 years ago

    I don't think so...when I was younger I took it for granted, it was only later that I realized that not all moms are alike and appreciated my mom for all her efforts...and now that I am a mom myself I sometimes feel taken for granted...and I certainly hope one of these days my son will realize my worth as a mom too...

    1. deanjc1970 profile image61
      deanjc1970posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Marie Renee, yes you are right! My wife says when you become a mum you enter the "slave trade"lol! . Your son would already appreciate you he just may not have thought yet to tell you. He will in time.

  4. Faybe Bay profile image65
    Faybe Bayposted 13 years ago

    NO! That's why mums get cranky.

    1. deanjc1970 profile image61
      deanjc1970posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Too true! Thanks Faybe Bay! Thats why as a man I am bringing this up as its a big overlooked issue!

    2. Beth100 profile image71
      Beth100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      lol  so true!  But, I'm lucky.  I get many thanks -- verbal, nights off, nights out, poetry, cards and hugs, hugs, kisses and more hugs.  Tonnes of love to let me know that I'm appreciated -- even when I am cranky!  lol

  5. Rafini profile image70
    Rafiniposted 13 years ago

    Moms get a pat on the back whenever they see their child smile, accomplish a goal, achieve a dream, succeed at life. 

    An honest and appreciative Thank You doesn't come often enough.

    1. Wolfenfemale profile image61
      Wolfenfemaleposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      All of a sudden a pat on the back is required????   What a twisted statement.  How about...I done good?????  My babes, are well bred, conscious and moral. 
      They charish life.  All life.  Created or grown.  They show respect, they show a softness that humanity has lost.  They love  with kindness and they love with sincerity.
      Screw the pat on the back!!!!  No payment is more devine than knowing you.........DONE GOOD!!!!!!!

  6. Lisa HW profile image63
    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I don't even think a lot of them need a pat on the back.  It would just be nice for them to know that someone else has a clue about what they do do.

  7. cindyvine profile image72
    cindyvineposted 13 years ago

    I'd rather get money than a pat on the back

  8. Ohma profile image60
    Ohmaposted 13 years ago

    Knowing that I have done a good job at raising bright, happy, carrying, children is nice but it is nicer when someone else sees it too.

  9. Aya Katz profile image82
    Aya Katzposted 13 years ago

    If you're a mother and your small children take you for granted, take that as a compliment! It means you are consistent and can be counted on to be there for them! A little kid who doesn't take his mother for granted is a child who has reason to believe that he may be abandoned.

    1. Lisa HW profile image63
      Lisa HWposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Aya, I've often thought of that even when it comes to older kids.  It's not so much that they really take their mother for granted "across the board", but sometimes it can be surprising that they'll just take one thing or another for granted, when it comes to knowing they can count on their mother.  It's something I've talked with my sister about; and we've both come to the same conclusion you have.  There's something kind of nice about knowing how sure they are that you'll come through for them.     There's a difference between a little being taken for granted and being walked all over, though.  smile

  10. the pink umbrella profile image75
    the pink umbrellaposted 13 years ago

    haha sometimes i dont feel like im getting that pat on the back, or any sign of appreciation, but when im lazy and i dont clean up from the day before, my son has trouble navigating around the mess he/we made, and steps on cookie crums, or things on the floor that shouldn't be. So it reminds me that its worth the effort. Also, i usually give myself the pat on the back i need. I like everything in order, and to sit here at the end of the night and feel like everything is clean and where it should be, thats all the pat i need sometimes. But the hubby could say thanks for cleaning up more often...i wouldnt discourage that!

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    logic,commonsenseposted 13 years ago

    I think on the butt might be better! smile

    1. Beth100 profile image71
      Beth100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      is that a "guy thing"?  lol

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        logic,commonsenseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        don't know about that, but I so not pat guys on the butt! smile

        1. Beth100 profile image71
          Beth100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          you don't play sports?  like soccer, football, rugby, hockey and the such?  I can't help but notice how much they love to slap each other's butts... lol

          1. profile image60
            logic,commonsenseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Not professionally!

            1. Beth100 profile image71
              Beth100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

              which part?  playing sports or butt patting?  lol

              1. profile image60
                logic,commonsenseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                Either!   smile

                1. Beth100 profile image71
                  Beth100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  lol  lol

  12. dotty1 profile image59
    dotty1posted 13 years ago

    we are the unsung heros for our children...we sacrifice things for ourselves...we do the best we can..but is that not what we shud be??.. As a single mum of three I swear there are times when my head feels as if will explode.....mum can u fix, i want, where is, why not....continually is quite brain my "I count to five hundred" poem u will surely relate matter how stressfull..we wouldnt change it would we???????????...well perhaps just for a week or four hahaha... I would like to for a short time be a fly on my wall or in my childrens brain to see how they feel about me as their mum?.......I worry all the time about wether they will have good memories when they are old, or will they look back and think I was a grump? I used to stress out if they had not had a boiled egg for breakfast...and this was while working ten hours a day and trying to be Wonder single woman....arghhhh. Even today I feel Im great when they have a boiled egg before school X

  13. myyrosas profile image70
    myyrosasposted 13 years ago

    Im a mother of three, not single but sometimes It feels like it. Pat on the back? Most certainly not, but when my kids remember to do the right thing when im not there, thats a pat for me. When my kids share, and love each other as my greatest wish , thats a pat for me. And when they are sleeping safe at night without any troubles thats a pat for me. Dotty1 says it best we sacrifice everything for our children our life if need be, and God knows that, thats why we are the carriers of his creation. We women are the most complex creatures, we are able to do a thousand things at that same time, we are fierceful like a tornado ripping across those who dare come into our family, and yet we are as tender as cotten when it comes to our children, we smile in the face of fear and carry courage at our side for our children. I don't need a pat on the back, God gives it to me when i look into my kids eyes and through their actions  I know ive done a good job !

  14. profile image54
    motherswhoworkposted 12 years ago

    Well done for acknowledging the hard work your wife does. How much do you help out at home...seriously? Because parenthood is a two-person thing.


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