Do you think that a person who does not agree with same sex marriage is homophobic?
I know a few gay couples, who refuse to get married because of their christian beliefs; as contradicting as it may sound or seem, it doesn't change who they are. There can be people who dont agree with the same sex marriage, and still have friends who are involved in same sex relationships. Point is, we believe what we believe. We shouldnt let it stop us from living our lives, or risking the possibility of friendship because of a mind you cannot open. Know what I mean? I think this can be a yes and a no.
I don't think someone is homophobic based only on their view of marriage. I am asking this question because of something I read.
I didn't think you thought that-lol, I like to think that sometimes all questions are general. Usually based on things we see, hear--or are influenced by. But I really think this is a yes and a no.
I don't think that there is a 1-on-1 relationship between those who oppose same-sex marriage and those who are homophobic..... There is LIKELY some overlap, but - even if there is - what difference does it make?????
Agreement is based on principles, fear is irrational. Some people are more prone to fear in the face of issues, others work hard to be logical. Some people present themselves in a way that causes fear in others, and some people are pleasant in the midst of the most controversial circumstances. Given this diversity in temperament, it is possible to disagree with someone without fearing them. I disagree with plenty of people who I don't fear at all.
I like this--but I really dont see how you answered her question?...
Reading between the lines, Miles is saying you can disagree with same sex marriage without fearing/hating homosexuals.
No doubt some are, though homophobes are few and far between, rarer than homogynists, who are scarcer than misogynists or androgynists, of both of whom there are not large numbers. A great many people oppose homosexual marriage, far more than fall into all those categories combined. They do so out of all kinds of reasons. Homophobia as a motive of disagreement with the concept of same sex marriage is one so minute it disappears in the numbers.
Perhaps you should include footnotes with this answer.
Attikos: "Cute" submittal... but sufficiently transparent so that anyone can see that you are trying to be "cute"....and that really doesn't advance the discussion, does it?????
Actually, ackman, there's a good deal to the line of reasoning, if you can get past my cute figure, and your presuppositions.
I wonder why this question is showing up on my feed. Nothing against the answers, which have been thoughtful.
This issue troubles me.
Usually I have no trouble figuring out where I stand on an issue, but although I have no question that I am as far from being a homophobe as is possible, gay marriage troubles me. Maybe not troubles, it just doesn;t feel right. A good (male)friend of mine is married to another man, and we frequently go out to dnner and he seems to find it amusing that I get squirmy when he calls him his husband,
Despite my own uncertainty though, I find that I have negative feelings about those who vociferously oppose gay marriage. I suspect is because those who most vigorously oppose ir often do strike me as homophobes.
I think they don't have enough going on in their own lives to be so concerned with what someone else is doing. There are so many other things that could be protested that would really help a lot of people. Gay Marriage is NOT one of them. Who cares and why? Find something more productive to do is what I suggest to those fearful subjects.
Some people who disagree may be however, I don't automatically think that people who disagree with same sex marriage are homophobic. Many people in this world have different beliefs, life experiences, or have been raised with one idea of marriage.
Their disagreement on this issue doesn't make them wrong or right. Their opinion is theirs and doesn't necessarily make them homophobic.
No. A phobia is an irrational or excessive fear. People who disagree with same-sex marriage do not have a fear of homosexuals or homosexuality. They just hold to a different belief system and moral code.
Homophobia is by definition an irrational fear of homosexual. All people who do not agree with same sex marriage do not have this irrational fear. There are many reasons for not agreeing with same sex marriage. They are people just like the rest of us. So the answer to your question is 'NO'.
What's really important, though, is we have to define what "irrational" is. Other nations who embraced this type of thing soon fell because of the collapse of their moral structure. 'm fearful that we might repeat their mistakes. Am I irrational?
Actually, the answer to that question is in the eye of the beholder. Many believe that individuals who are opposed to same-sex marriage are "homophobic" and others believe that is not necessarily so.
Personally, I am strictly opposed to same-sex marriage; however, I am not "homophobic" -- and that is because I do not have a phobia of "homosexuals," nor am I prejudiced towards them.
No. What I "fear" is what's coming next. The fact that we even entertain such ideas is scary. Same sex marriage? In twenty years, will it be that a group of people have proven animals have the ability to love and therefore it is only right that I be allowed to marry my dog? When people return to God and his written word, such topics will go the route of other historic ignorant practices. Unfortunately, few will seek God's truth and will continue to live to please Satan.
IMHO, Those who do not agree with same sex marriage are NOT necessarily homophobic.
Does this make those who are against same-sex marriage hateful human beings, were brought up wrong or had horrible parents?
Not necessarily. It just means that they have a different opinion than those who do support same sex marriage.
People are different, that is all.
No. However, I think many of them are afraid it threatens the validity of their own heterosexual marriage. Not the legal part, but the strength of their relationship as a couple. Can you imagine ones relationship being on shaky ground and realizing a couple in a same sex marriage have a much stronger foundation, understanding and future than yours? That would be the ultimate humility and some can't face that . That's why many are against same sex marriage, but won't admit it.
I once had to think about this fishy feeling. Believe it or not, my best friend was a gay; and I never knew it until he told me, which was a long ago. I must have been like a child then, always tripping in Good Mood. But since then, I always have a fear that each fellow I meat, be it a stranger as I don’t have any friends, may possibly be ‘A Homo’. And being a Homophobic, I always trip in my mind, anytime.
Personally, I don’t like the idea of ‘Same Sex Marriage’. I believe it’s fishy and an illiterate thing to do. And also, I am ‘Homophobic’. And if in my power, then I would want to be the first person to ask for stopping this madness, and be decent.
On the contrary, Vice-versa is true, too. However, I think that a person who does not agree with Same Sex Marriage may sometimes be homophobic, or else he is just standing against it as he is standing against violence.
Life is a trip, itself!
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