Why can't everyone be kind to each other.

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   dianetrotterposted 10 years ago

   Why can't everyone be kind to each other.
   
   Kind hearts are the gardens; kind thoughts are the roots; kind words are the flowers; kind deeds are the fruits.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   Because Not everyone deserves kindness. Those that do, others are busy finding fault in.

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Cajunrooster, I accidentally deleted your answer when trying to comment.  I was not trying to be unkind.  If you will repost, I will be more careful.  I agree with you that we should be kind to each other.
      
      Peeps, how do you determine the undeserving

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      peeplesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I determine based on how they treat others. I live my life treating others how I would like to be treated until those people show they choose to treat others badly. rapist, abusers, and habitually rude people for example.

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      Express10posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      While I am an optimist, I am also a realist. I've been kind to many who made the effort to be mean or cruel for no reason. Perhaps kindness is best given to people who can at least exhibit it once in a while or pay it forward?

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   JThomp42posted 10 years ago

   Hello Diane,
   Oh, wouldn't that be amazing if everyone were kind. I think it really boils down to liking yourself first. If you don't like yourself, then who are you going to like? Probably not many. I think that is what it boils down to and their place in life. Merry Christmas!

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      J, I have personally witness a lot of projecting of anger and pain.  To be friended we must show ourselves friendly.

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree Diane.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Every mind is different. The mind moves in various moods and states from moment to moment. Everybody will not be happy all the time. Each person has their own experiences, perceptions and interpretations of humanity. It requires a conscious decision to be kind and remain happy when dealing with all kinds of strange behaviors and personalities in the world. Not everyone has that kind of philosophy or emotional self control. Those who understand will be at peace whether others are kind or not. It makes no difference what others do.

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You are wise Sri!

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   S Leretsehposted 10 years ago

   Sort of  like asking why has there always been the rich and the poor, and/or the privileged and underprivileged.  Some questions defy an answer.

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting answer.  Rich/poor and privileged/underprivileged has to do with resources.  I guess kindness is an intangible resource.

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   fastfretaposted 10 years ago

   Such beautiful words, oh, if it were only that easy! Unfortunately we're living in a world gone mad, a world of desensitization. In addition to that there are a plethora of other reasons, not the least of which, is that the family has broken down so dramatically that it seems beyond repair. I've written several hubs with various reasons, (my opinion).
   
   This answer could go on so long it could take on a life of it's own, so I'll bow out and let someone else weigh in. I've written several hubs with various reasons

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I just read about your home.  You speak with such grace, especially given what you have gone through.  Sounds like you are kind to everyone.

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   Genna Eastposted 10 years ago

   Beautiful thoughts, Diane.  I try to do at least one nice thing for someone every day.  I truly belive that kind hearts, thoughts, and deeds are the beginnings of something that are at the heart of humanity.  Can you imagine if we are in a situation where we have to speak to strangers, and we did so with a warm smile and polite words of kindess?  This simple act, alone, would do wonders. :-)

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   CreatePerfectionposted 10 years ago

   I think often about this, too.  I believe it is because most everyone is looking to gain advantage in every situation and many do not care how they do it.  Especially in societies where power and material wealth dominate the consciousness, people are easily able to justify any behavior to get what they want.

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I know the feeling Create!

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   sassygrrl32posted 10 years ago

   This is a good question. My personal opinion from own experiences and others I know boil down to alot of people are too busy deciding who to be kind to based on a set of rules they construct for themselves. Some people just forget that everyone is human and everyone has feelings. Some people don't care. It's sad but true.
   And of course some people are hateful and ornery and some people incorrectly believe they don't have to be nice to someone like that.
   We don't have the right to decide who deserves kindness and who doesn't.
   
   Peeples said it precisely, there are people out there that think they have the judges chair of deciding who deserves kindness, who deserves a helping hand, etc. No one has that right....Kindness should be automatic even when we have a rotten day and I always try to remember this.
   Kindness is viewed by some as weakness but it's not, it's a strength....

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      dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It is so true that some people take kindness for weakness and then they take advantage.

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    bravewarriorposted 10 years ago

    I think many people are insecure with who they are.  It may be because that's what's been brought upon them or they just don't see their worth as humans in this world, each having a special gift to offer from their souls.
    
    Most times people are unkind because they are intent on bringing others down to their level rather than help themselves rise.
    
    I've found unkindness is the result of insecurity even if the one mistreating others has stature and money.  That's not what the world is about.  Feeding your soul and that of others is why we were placed on this earth.  We are here to teach and give, not chastise and condemn or judge!

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       dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I love it brave!  How true!

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    PurvisBobbi44posted 10 years ago

    I try to live by the Golden Rule---I treat people like I want to be treated---with kindness and respect.
    
    Kindness is a seed planted in one's heart that only love can germinated it---sometimes you have to water it with more patience until it starts to grow.

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    pstraubie48posted 10 years ago

    That is the 64000 dollar question. What a lovely place this would be....absolutely. I love that...kind hearts--gardens/kind thought--roots/kind word--flowers....kind deeds---fruits...so powerful. I really think that a lot of people do not realize how powerful kindness is. It seems too easy, I guess. But kindness begets kindness. Great question.

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    edhanposted 10 years ago

    I missed those days in the 60's where everyone were kind hearted persons. I remembered though we are not living in beautiful houses and there were kampongs around my neighbourhood, we used to live peaceful and in harmony where we do not need to lock our doors and at times leaving it opened.
    
    People living in the same neighbourhood knew each others so well that we shared among ourselves and helped whenever needed.
    
    But now things had changed when life is all about competitions and everyone is struggling to keep afloat. These changes our attitudes towards each others and indeed a sad thing to see that technology advancement had cost us to be alienating each other without the closeness of comfort we used to have.

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       dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       No one needed keys.  Neighbors were very watchful.  You knew the names of everyone on the block.  I have lived i the same place for 10 1/2 years and know two of my neighbors.

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    Old Empresarioposted 10 years ago

    I always thought that correcting people who are wrong is a form of kindness.

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       dianetrotterposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       Old, it depends on the timing and the attitude.  Then there are those who don't want to be corrected!

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