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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   Why is it totally irresponsible, foolhardy, & inane for a socioeconomically affluent
   
   girl w/promise & a bright future ahead of her to be friends with, let alone date,or become involved with a boy from a poor socioeconomic background?Let's face it,socioeconomically affluent people mainly mingle & interface w/their own kind as socioeconomically poorer people mingle & interace w/their own kind. In fact,wealthier parents strongly advise their children not to have friendships/relationships w/poorer children for quite sound reasons as poorer children usually have NOTHING to offer positively to their children & can be DETRIMENTAL to them in terms of lifestyle & future prospects!
   
   

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   Kiss andTalesposted 8 years ago

   What if this person had a poor background at a young age raised by poor people
   Yet he comes into money by being a genius inventor,
   Now if he does not disclose his past ! Then what?

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There is one to a million chance that a poor boy becomes highly successful. Let's get real here.  Poor/impoverished boys become poor/impoverished men-who WANTS that!

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Now you are exaggerating ! There are many successful people that came from poor backgrounds, and yet that is what made them be more successful ! Examples are the rich  entertainment  Industry. Many are millionaires ,how does this apply to them?

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that's USED to be but now the majority of people who become rich are from solidly middle to upper middle class background.  Poor children these days seldom become rich. They're more likely to.......remain poor.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You have said some good points GM, and as a perant and grand perant I would only want the best for my young Adults also, but we must remember
      Money may buy convenience ,but money can not buy the heart of real love!

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Love is totally inconsequential. It does not put food on the table, pay for medical bills, education, & for the future.  Money is more than so-called convenience. It means power, influence, & all the IMPORTANT things of life.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      the love Of God growed the food. That we put on our tables ,that love also created all the we need to survive on this planet that money can not produce, gold and silver are just tools that man turned into resources!
      Love is what is keeping us alive.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   I agree most (mature) women do tend to date or want to be with men who are either already successful or on a fast track to success.
   Nevertheless there will always be an element of rebellion when it comes to teens and young adults following their parent's wishes.
   Quite a few women would rather be with a poor "bad boy" Brad Pitt look alike than with a "nerdy successful" Bill Gates look alike.
   Having said that young people are more believing in "romantic love" than many older folks. If the poor guy loves her and treats her better than rich exes she may elect to go with love knowing she'll always have access to her parent's wealth if needed. In fact her hope may be that her parents come to love him as well once they get to know him and his values. Everything is on a case by case circumstance.
   History is filled with many instances of people "marrying into wealth". Granted it's usually (women) who do this!

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes,not only mature but intelligent women tend to be w/successful or potentially successful men.Smart teenagers tend to do this also.When I was a teenager,I would only want to date upper middle or rich boys/young men.  I would NEVER EVER date POOR!

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You are probably the exception! Most young women are attracted to "hot looking guys" regardless of their parent's income. As a teen guy I always knew I was going away to college so I didn't treat high school as if I were looking for my "soul-mate"

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      In high school & college, boyfriends were the last thing on my mind.  I concentrated on my studies and besides, I had a STRICT West Indian father, need I say MORE....He believed that dating should be when one is in his/her 20s & marriage in o

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   Of course, it is unwise for a socioeconomically affluent girl with a bright future to date a boy from a socioeconomically poor background.  More than unwise, it is socioeconomically deadly.  First of all, his goals will in the overwhelming majority of cases, will diametrically opposite of hers.  She will attend college, even postgraduate &/or professional schools while he will be contend to just finish high school & then work at a low level service job, as a laborer, or in a blue collar job, mostly dead end positions with no prospect of advancement.   Her interests will also be opposite to his,  She most likely is well travelled & cultured, having attended plays, operas, & other cultural activities whereas he only hung around in the streets, not venturing beyond his immediate neighborhood. 
   
   The poor boy has nothing constructive nor viable for the socioeconomically affluent girl.  He is most likely to be uncultured, not exposed to intellectual activities, is more interested in the more rudimentary human needs than the higher human needs, has no plans nor goals for the future, but is concerned with only immediate gratification.   The poor boy also wants to reduce the socioeconomically affluent girl to the lowest socioeconomic denominator possible.  He will not comprehend nor appreciate her higher goals, he may even denigrate them, further instructing her to be satisfied with nothing like he is. 
   
   God forbid, if the affluent girl gets into a deleterious situation(read between the lines), the poor boy cannot help her get out of the situation. One can make an apt analogy: a socioeconomically affluent girl going with a socioeconomically poor boy is like a person with a genius level intellect going with a person who is classified as an imbecile.  It is a relationship that is an exercise in utter futility. It is a relationship without any future. No intelligent socioeconomically affluent girl would even look at a socioeconomically poor boy, let alone be friends with, date, or have a relationship with him. Socioeconomically affluent girls usually are friends with & date socioeconomically affluent boys who have a future as bright as they do. Socioeconomically poor boys have no future & if they do, it can be described as lower purgatorial to quite hellish.Such boys are the boys to avoid unless the girl is socioeconomically poor for the latter girl has little choice in the dating/relationship arena as no socioeconomically affluent boy would want a poor girl!

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "no socioeconomically affluent boy would want a poor girl!"
      Rich men marry women who are poor/ lower middle class more often then you would imagine. If a woman is (very attractive and intelligent) she won't have a problem finding a successful man

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   Nadia Ribaduposted 8 years ago

   Are you asking others whether or not they agree that it is irresponsible (among other descriptions you mentioned) for a girl from an affluent background to associate or involve herself with someone who isn't, or are you stating it as fact or as a rhetorical question, as a situation that should not be?  I'm somewhat confused.  Regardless, it's a very snobbish position to take that ANYONE, whether teen-aged or not, should decline friendships or relationships based on social status.  I think it would be better to base friendships and relationships on things such as moral conduct, education (which, admittedly, can be indicative of social class), and interests, not on something as shallow as how much money one has or hasn't.  I would be concerned if my daughter associated with a felon or former felon; I would not be concerned if he was poorer than she, though I would prefer that he would be the sort of fellow who'd be WORKING on not being poor on HIS strength, not my daughter's.  Still the question is a reminder that classism can be as detrimental to society as racism and many of the other "isms" with which we're struggling to eradicate.

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      Nadia Ribaduposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Further, does LOVE factor anywhere in this scenario?  Apparently not!

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Why would your daughter make the choice of a felon!  That is saying if!  Why would her heart make a choice, if is not money then what els ?

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      Nadia Ribaduposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Kiss and Tales - She might be unaware that he's a felon until she finds out and has become emotionally invested in him.  Then, disassociating with him would be a hard choice to make, his past as a felon notwithstanding.

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I agree Nadia ,that was  what I meant about getting emotionally envolved 
      That emotion is love !  So love can play a part in these choices.

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   Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years ago

   Ann Landers wrote in her dictionary that when rich people marry poor people, the poor person usually causes trouble.  The obvious reason is that the poor person is more likely to be a gold digger.  However, in my personal experience, I've found it's not how much money the person has, but the person's attitude towards it.
   Though I'm not really poor, I've never had much money.  My ex, on the other hand, inherited several hundred thousand dollars from his father.  He is one of the worst money managers I've ever known.  He racked up huge credit card debts buying junk, and refused to pay them; thus, he lost the cards.  He made a down payment on a condo that almost went into foreclosure twice.  He established several companies that didn't fly.  Last I knew, he had some success with one, which he sold, and now works for it as a consultant.
   Meanwhile, he criticized me for making a point of always paying my bills on time, squirreling away pennies for trips, and staying at youth hostels instead of fancy hotels.  The reason I didn't marry him is because I most likely would have been saddled with some of his debt.
   Some people who grew up rich are spoiled, not understanding where money comes from. That also happens with people who land good jobs upon graduation; they figure they never have to save, because there's always another paycheck.  It is those who have struggled who better understand the value of money.

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