How do YOU deal with petty individuals?

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  1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
    Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks ago

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    You know, the type to go around touting falsehood as truth, misrepresenting context willfully, and omitting anything that could make themselves look bad.

    Personally I like to analyze the Freudian slips, fragile egos, past traumas, and ongoing repeat offenses throughout the years they make it all public so as not to make the same mistakes they do frequently. Where one individual leads the way with mistakes, I get to follow not repeating the same mishaps.

    1. Credence2 profile image80
      Credence2posted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

      That's  easy, you have a prime example in the President of the United States of supreme pettiness.

      1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
        Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

        Or any other politician for that matter hahahaha! But I was thinking more along the lines of how do others deal with petty people in their daily lives?

    2. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

      Ignore them.  Disassociate from them.  Life is too short to interface w/petty people.   Better yet, put such people in their place, don't let petty people own you.

    3. Credence2 profile image80
      Credence2posted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

      Petty, small minded people are ones to avoid if all possible. People that hold grudges interminably, people who dislike others for no apparent reason, cheapskates.

      If I am forced to work with them, I look for "their handle", petty people are generally weak and insecure people that when you stoke their ego, you can get them off of your case. Their vulnerability is that they can be easily manipulated. Just pull the lever.

      Much like how Colonel Hogan manipulated Colonel Klink in the old sitcom "Hogan's Heroes".

      1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
        Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

        In stroking their ego, ignoring personal benefit, aren't you just making them a bigger issue for individuals who are weaker or otherwise ignorant? Is personal comfort more important than solving the root of the issues or is solving the root of the issue more important than your own comfort?

        I ask because it would seem there are more gullible and weak individuals in the world, the type to give petty individuals a pedestal (such as any politician) rather than force them forward into reality collectively.

        1. Credence2 profile image80
          Credence2posted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

          I can't change people like this, Kyler.

          I am doing what I can to avoid contact with such people, I can't rehabilitate them. As for personal comfort verses the root of the issue, unless it involves a spouse or someone that I cannot avoid, I would go with former rather than the latter.

          1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
            Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

            Makes sense, and I would never want to rehabilitate anyone myself, only make it so that there were consequences for people acting petty outside of the pain their own ego causes them. Basically, I wondered if you wanted to speculate on viable choices for deterrence of petty behavior.

            1. Credence2 profile image80
              Credence2posted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

              The one sure way is calling people out on it, on the spot.

              We had, some 23 years ago, a passing of a workmate from cancer. Another lady on her staff said that she would not attend the funeral wake only because she believed that the deceased did not warrant the promotion she had received.

              I said, "for Pete's sake, you take your pettiness to the grave when it is a time to be safely magnanimous in your attitude"?

              I tell a workmate that if you can't tip more than 50 cents at a luncheon restaurant, I won't go to lunch with you as you embarrass me.

              1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
                Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

                I see what you mean and I think I fully understand your perspective in the matter. Perhaps fighting back is best left to the point where it will carry the most weight, or when I am directly in control of the situation. Vagueness or veiled wit with biting connotations in order to fight petty people tends to only make myself seem petty to every other person observing and offend where it does not intend to.

                Your answers have given me much to think on.

                1. DrMark1961 profile image95
                  DrMark1961posted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

                  There are people that need constructive criticism in the forums. https://hubpages.com/community/forum/34 … -bsharan12
                  Was all of that just talk or are you really planning on helping?

  2. Live to Learn profile image79
    Live to Learnposted 3 weeks ago

    It depends. Socially? I avoid them. At work? If they work for me I pretend not to notice and treat them like every other person on the team, if directed at me. I call them out for there pettiness if directed at others. I  do the same for those who are of equal rank. If they are someone I work for I look for the opportunity to report to someone else, honestly pointing the pettiness out when, or if, the opportunity is right.

    1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
      Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

      It's an interesting approach to call people out, because whenever I have done so in the past it tended to cause me more damage than solve the problem of the other people being petty. Petty people often cry out for help as they strike you, so when people pay attention they only notice you defending yourself. Then in reporting it you become known as the type of person to report others and the necessity of the report is left to subjectivity. Very interesting it seems to work for you though, I wish I could have the same success with such tactics.

      1. Live to Learn profile image79
        Live to Learnposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

        I don't report people, just give the individual what I see as an honest assessment. But, you are right. Oftentimes if you call it out you are perceived as the problem.

    2. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

      Exactly.    Don't let petty people own you.   Petty people are toxic, immature individuals who have been damaged by life either emotionally, mentally, psychologically, or even psychically.   Petty people are negative people.  Petty people are negatively attracted to those who are better than they are.  People who are better either educationally, mentally, socioeconomically, etc. attracted all sorts of negative people which include petty people.   Petty people are inwardly miserable or they wouldn't be petty.  Petty people need to develop their own lives.

      1. Kyler J Falk profile image85
        Kyler J Falkposted 3 weeks agoin reply to this

        That is how I view it as well. Recently had a hubber here come and try to give me advice, I compared his perspective to mine while also scrutinizing every detail of his advice that didn't contain the facts, then he wrote an entire article about it trying to cover his own faults and create them within me by lying. I just wondered if people had a better way to deal with it than sitting back and chuckling or trying to fight the petty person's delusions.

        I was always taught, "Protect your reputation, your reputation is your life," but I always found that meant abstaining from action more than it meant taking action against those trying to besmirch your name.

 
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