The guy I've been on and off with for the past four years just decided he's not

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   AyeBaybayposted 13 years ago

   The guy I've been on and off with for the past four years just decided he's not having sex...
   
   anymore. But he still calls me every day just to hang out. He doesn't want sex, (and I have tried to get him to do it) so what gives? Why all of a sudden is he wanting the friends thing? Its like we went backwards.

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   Veronicaposted 13 years ago

   The guy I've been on and off with for the past four years just decided he's not having... anymore. But he still calls me every day just to hang out. He doesn't want [the physical relationship] (and I have tried to get him to do it) so what gives?... read more

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   lostdogrwdposted 13 years ago

   he got a woman that he planning on getting with. he still like you but he in love with this other woman and just don,t want to cheat on her. or he going to make you become HIS WOMAN for you going to put yourself there as his woman.

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   Hogan Quickposted 13 years ago

   He found someone else and he feels guilty about it, and that is why he is no longer interested in sex, but he still wants to see you.  I am sorry to be so direct but that is the truth.  For some reason men find a girl that they think might be the one and even though he was having relations with you when he met her, in his mind he thinks that by stopping having sex with you now and starting "pure" with the other one, that everything will work out great.  In reality, it could all blow up in his face.  You will know if and when he wants to have sex again.  Good luck.

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   darrylcrawfordposted 13 years ago

   To be blunt he may have started a relationship with someone else. Honestly men don't do that for no reason since sex is on our mind often. Men have feelings but not as deep as women do. Men who do that tend to place some sort of value in you so they won't just completely brush you off  however to keep one in the friend zone just in case things don't go well with their other interest is not cool being as though you both have been in a 4 year relationship. 
   
   It isn't fair when men do this (or anyone for that matter) because you're always looked at as the runner up/second choice/if all else fails I'll settle for.......
   
   If you love them unconditionally it's your choice whether you want to hang in there for a while and see what happens or just cut to the chase and ask them are they seeing someone else. Being in and out of a relationship isn't the  end of the world. It means that things are smooth at times and rough other times . Everyone has those good and rough times.
   
   HINT: We have to really appreciate the good times so much that when bad times comes (and they will come however it will not stay long) one can sing/dance/remind oneself in the rain about the good times. Dwelling on the good times will attract more of the same.
   
   However if they can't be honest with you, move on but don't hold a grudge against them. Be the wiser one. love them from afar. Don't let anyone steal your time and joy. Maybe you deserve someone better. Preferably someone who can tell you how they feel about you (which lines up with his actions) and not leave one hanging and guessing.

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   Rainbowsprinklesposted 13 years ago

   people will give you all sorts of advice here and i was thinking of doing the same thing but a part of this story is missing. the part is this, have you asked him why he doesnt want sex anymore?before you jump into conclusions and assume he wants to put you in the friends zone,ask him why he doesnt want to do it anymore.true he could be doing it with someone else and he doesnt want to cheat on his new girlfriend or he could have decided to stop because he wants to start all over with you taking things slowly and getting to really know you. he might also be doing it for religious reasons and maybe he wants to stop doing it for that reason.
   solution to your problem,ASK him dear.only then will you know whats what

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