I think the hardest thing for me, as a woman, in my nearly 45 years of professional life and the women's movement has been the endless need to be vigilant and self-protective.
I have trained men who were then promoted over me. I was the first woman on talk radio in my state and the men did not embrace me (especially when my ratings topped theirs.) I was the head of RI Planned Parenthood for a decade, and its top lobbyist in my state legislature: representing the abortion issue is never easy and you are always battling men who will never be pregnant so they can never understand women's choices at a gut level.
So I learned never to totally let my guard down. The fact that after so many years in the women's movement I am still writing about the need for women to be treated with respect and equality is, frankly, exhausting and a bit discouraging. But I do it for my daughter and granddaughter that they may never have to toil in the same vineyards I have.