My first love recently came back into my life and all my supressed feelings have

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   MrsNoumanposted 13 years ago

   My first love recently came back into my life and all my supressed feelings have come back but the
   
   problem is I am married.  There is no way I love my husband as much as I love him.  Temptation also plays a big roll in here.  I am trying so hard to refrain from seeing him and having contact with him but I am falling weak.  I have to talk with him everyday. I don't know what to do.  Should I just leave my husband and start a life with him or should I stay with my husband and not have any contacts with him.  My husband is really not a good guy and we have tons of problems including severe verbal abuse. Please help.

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   msorenssonposted 13 years ago

   You are married. He knows this. If he honors you, he will be the one to stay away.
   
   Running to another man will not solve your problem with your husband.
   
   This is only my opinion, and you have to honor that which is inside of you. Not the conditioning or society;s expectation of you, the one that is changeless, eternal, pure and perfect.  There are no right or wrong actions, only different paths.
   
   I hope you will find the answer within.

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   Syrusv37posted 13 years ago

   Do whatever you feel will make you happiest. No one wants to live with regrets. So don't make any and follow your heart to make the right decision. Only you know what's best for you. So do it.

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   Buffoonposted 13 years ago

   MrsNourman... how about divorcing your husband and getting a life. I mean, what's the point of staying with a husband who is not a good guy (your words) and whom you don't love as you love the other fellow (your words), and in a marriage with problems such as verbal abuse (your words).  I mean, listen to you!

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   cheapsk8chickposted 13 years ago

   There is a reason why you and your first love split, and whatever that problem was would certainly be a problem again.  We tend to romanticize our first loves, and like to forget all of the bad and the baggage that went along with it.

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   StephBarryposted 13 years ago

   You need to go and read this short story I wrote. http://www.associatedcontent.com/articl … etter.html
   Don't make no mistakes, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

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   barbergirl28posted 13 years ago

   This is what I think.... take the first love out of the situation. He has very little to do with your marriage. With him not being a deciding factor, that is when you need to take a good look at your marriage. I know personally my marriage has had its ups and downs. We invested in the Love Dare and it has some great advice and has immensely helped (You can also watch the movie!) So, after you look into that, you make a decision. Is your marriage worth it. It will take hard work. But remember, do not make the decision with your first love on your mind.
   
   The question really should be about your marriage and not involve your first love. He is probably initiating some memories from the past. It is normal to feel a little nostalgic. We all do. Those first loves will always hold a special place in our heart! But, it doesn't mean it is worth running off with him. If you do end up in divorce, give yourself time and go back on the dating scene. If you and your first love are meant to be... it will happen. But it shouldn't be the first relationship you jump into after you get divorced. Hope this helps!

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   reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

   FOLLOW your heart!  Period!!!  Abuse is not acceptable, there is no way that anyone can claim to love you and abuses you

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   Madeposted 12 years ago

   You have to decide yourself what's the best thing to do. What kind of life do you want to have in a few years from now? Don't live a life you'll regret when you are old. Good luck!

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    Smith Calvamposted 10 years ago

    You need to stop seing this person , if he is that important why did you get married in the first place ? you are married and that is the most important thing now. If you are finding it difficult to leave him then contact bonoluvspeltemple@gmail.com for help. And also to boost your husbands sexual life because i think that can alse be a problem leaving this person expecially when he is more active than your husband. For any kind of help contact bonoluvspeltemple@gmail.com.

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