being your own person!

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   nomsa4posted 12 years ago

   living a character that you`ll wish people remember you with, at times when we live our live as, we leave for people to tell us how were doing things and how we should leave, dress, walk, speak! i mean we spend most of our time pleasing people
   just take ur time to look at yourself in the mirror and as your self this is how you`ll want to be remembered as a person when your no longer, i know ive spend time letting people live my life and control me the way they wish, but i ve realized after on that this is not the live i wanna leave i just wish to enjoy and experience life for my self not for someone else, ever since i feel free from doing things to please others , i feel like new person who is led by God not people. i am my own person now thanks God

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      hI nomsa
      very good!
      it takes years to figure it out!!

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   Pearldiverposted 12 years ago

   Up until the last 2 sentences.... You projected that you had 'found' yourself as your own person.. which is something we each must do, to understand who we are as that person and how deep our independence and dependence on our self really is.
   Breaking free of the influences of others in regards to allowing them to 'control' or dictate to us, is a hard thing for many to do.. but as you rightfully pointed out... it is crucial to relinquish such ties, to enable us to know our self intimately.
   
   What you have neglected to include in your post is that Everything that influences us as an individual is based upon a Choice made.  So often people tend to overlook that very relevant point - for if they do accept it factually, then it means that ultimately the responsibility for the actions falls upon that person making the choice - You!  What that means is that other reasons, excuses and justifications are in fact irrelevant! 
   
   What I mean in regard to your stated circumstances is - that you made choices and got what may have been a predictable result - so you made new choices and changed the outcome, based on what could be described also as a potentially predictable result.  The greatest thing we have as people is our ability to make and remake our choices.... for ultimately our choices effect Everything that we do and what our potential outcomes are likely to be. 
   
   Choice... the moment you make a choice for yourself that removes any other external influence... you learn and you are on the path to being 'You' - your own person.
   
   Credit for that falls upon YOU - not God.  You merely chose to include God's influence on YOU! - By Choice!
   
   Now you are faced with choosing all the other steps that you will need to make in your life.
   
   I hope you think about what I have said here before you dismiss My Choice of words!

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      schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Nice work here
      teach me more
      good stuff said
      better than therapy
      LOl Lol LOL

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         Pearldiverposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks... I just say it as it is... without candy coating reality..
         
         Teach you more? 
         - I don't know if that's a good role for me in life...
         but this 'stuff' is what I write about here and maybe that's why I need therapy

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      Thelma Albertsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Very well said Pearldiver. I´m with you on this matter. Being your own person, you have to think what YOU want and what YOU need in your life without be influence by others.

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   Stacie Lposted 12 years ago

   When a person gets to the point of realizing that they are living for themselves and not doing what other want, is the time you are being your own person. That's probably the most difficult accomplishment.
   Society and family puts constraints and demands that form who we are and how we behave..many don't know this is happening for most of their life.
   So being your own person takes a lifetime to learn and maybe never.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 12 years ago

   The answers given about our choices resulting in what occurs in our lives is, of course, quite correct.  However, sometimes - and in the majority of instances, probably - people react rather than choose.  The reactions you could say come from our initial choices, choices which could have been forced on us because we were sort of 'between and rock and a hard place' or given a soft often of not suffering by going along with the wishes of an authortive figure such as a parent or teacher.  And so we made a choice and then another along the same lines and, 'voila!'  before we knew it, we were always reacting to that situation in that way.
   
   So one needs to be very aware of what one is doing.  The question of 'am I reacting,' or 'am I choosing anew' needs to be at the forefront of our minds far more than it usually is.
   
   I generalize here, because some reactions (such as hitting the brake pedal in your car) are not bad choices.  But, by and large, I would say that when we react, we are not being our own person, and when we act, we are.    So choose.  But be aware that you are choosing.  In that way your life should pan out more readily in the way you want it to.

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   Pearldiverposted 12 years ago

   @TT  thanks for adding the 're-act' factor to what I had said... you are quite right... it is indeed how many choose to act and does highlight a lack of acceptance that we are ultimately in the vast majority of cases, responsible for the outcomes in our lives, based on choices made!
   
   Thanks for endorsing the need for reality in our world

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