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Im a good loking 35 year old gay white male looking for a serious relationship.H

  1. leeoosterhoudt profile image49
    leeoosterhoudtposted 8 years ago

    Im a good loking 35 year old gay white male looking for a serious relationship.How do you find that?

    Im a good looking, very masc giu. im a male model and every guy I meet wants sex right away with no commitment. I dont want that, I want to love someone & shre my like with him. Anu ideas on how and where I could find this. Im getting frustrated.

  2. HappyHer profile image59
    HappyHerposted 8 years ago

    It's the curse of beauty.  I'm sure there is someone out there for you though.  Try getting involved in some worthy cause that might have the type of people you are looking for and don't date anyone there right away, or even let them know you are "looking" - just get to know everyone as friends first and see if something will grow from there.  Good luck sweetie.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    Can't share a specific idea, but I can say, stick to what is your desire and you will find it when you least expect it.  You have to live as well as know when to freely let down your hair.  Don't get caught up with your WANTS.  Time always tells a tale in due time, try bonding, spending quality time, just doing things that dont necessarily require committment or have any strings attached.  Two mature adults cn always meet each other half way.  Enjoy each others company and something unexpected can always blossom from innocence.

  4. hinckles koma profile image64
    hinckles komaposted 8 years ago

    How do i find what exactly?  I dont understand what you wrote at all sorry what is your ques?

  5. squarepot profile image51
    squarepotposted 8 years ago

    It took me a while to find the perfect guy, I have never been happier than I am now.

    Hang in there I am sure you will find what you are looking for soon enough.

    Gay dating sites is a good place to start although you will have to trawl through a lot of frogs to find what you are looking for.
    Then of course there is always the scene.

    Good luck in your search and hope you find what you are looking for.

  6. Sheilaputang profile image56
    Sheilaputangposted 8 years ago

    Where are you finding these guys? I mean are you hanging out at cruising spots, bars, and online? If you are then you need to look at new venues.. Or do you just sit at your house? Also are you the only one that finds yourself good looking? Or have others told you the same? Are they woman or men?

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    wellfedwriterposted 8 years ago

    I spent most of my adult life looking for a partner. Unfortunately, I was of the mindset that if they sleep with you for two or more months that they honestly loved you. Wrong. That was in my 20s. Then things changed. I started to look for men around my own age, with whom I hopefully had shared interests. Intellectuals, I found, were dull. They were always captivated by the elegance of their arguments and left no room for constructive criticism or growth. It became a matter of hopping from one smart guy's bed to another. That was in my 30s. Then I thought I really would like to meet a guy like me. A regular Joe, creative, smart, funny, and a bit of a geek. However, I figured since we are all unique, the chance of running into someone like me was pretty slim. I stopped looking. That was in my 40s. I'm still in my 40s, and when I really wasn't looking at all, I mean it seriously wasn't anywhere near the  top of my awareness, it happened. I was on gay.com and having pretty regular horny talk with someone for a few weeks. We both just wanted a regular fuck buddy, or so each of us thought. We met and we had a great time. To make a long story short, both of us were looking for something completely different, potential  partners were never in the  picture at all. Then one day it kind of hit us both. WOW! We've been living together for close to a year now. While neither one of us hears violins and fireworks when we kiss, we do experience a profound sense of contentment and belonging to something bigger that each of us could be alone. For once in my life I feel safe, content, and needed. I feel blessed.

  8. lokelani profile image53
    lokelaniposted 8 years ago

    Stop looking and let it come to you..... I did

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    vanarkeposted 7 years ago

    Travelling can be a good cure.. Just book a gay vacation, or a gay cruise.. You will have a great choice of guys to meet..

  10. Violet Flame profile image73
    Violet Flameposted 7 years ago

    Find You, first and foremost. Love you deeply and truly. And BANG! That's when LOVE will find you.

  11. iolastar profile image53
    iolastarposted 7 years ago

    When you're looking for love sometimes it's hard to find. When you're easy on the eyes finding love can be harder. I would suggest that you stop looking. Really, stop looking. Continue with your daily activities and when you least expect it he'll show up.

    I met some great guys doing regular stuff like grocery shopping, working out, and getting light bulbs at Target. I wasn't looking for romance when I went to those places because if I was I would've at least worn makeup!  Again, don't look for it.

  12. kunle profile image39
    kunleposted 7 years ago

    Men what is going? Looking for love? Same sex? I am not judging may be i am just old fashion. that is why it is strange to me.

  13. brimancandy profile image81
    brimancandyposted 7 years ago

    I agree with a lot of the comments here, when it comes to looking for romance. I have found that looking too hard leads to a lot of frustration, especially when you do find someone you are very attracted to, only to find out that all he wants is sex.

    The worst places to look for romance is in a Gay bar or online.
    Most guys that do that are just looking for a sex partner. I once chatted with a nice looking guy who wanted to meet, and after we arranged it, he says, oh by the way I will only be available for 20 minutes, then you have to go. DING! DING! Quickie alert! So, I told him to forget it. Meeting someone in a bar is actually better than trying to meet on-line because a lot of guys lie about their age online, or use a fake picture just to get someone to meet them, then they are either but ugly or 100 years old. Been there done that.

    I found a new outlet a couple years ago, and that is Gay camping. Not only will you meet lots of gay men, if you go enough you will make a whole circle of new friends, who might even have someone you might want to meet. It's like a big gay picnic, and everyone is welcome.

    If you don't have a gay campground near you, check around for other gay activites like a gay bowling league. But, if all you have is the local gay bar, or one near by, keep trying there.
    Maybe go on days when it's not so busy, you will be surprised on who you might find there. But, don't go with the mindset that you are going to meet someone, try to have as much fun as you can, and maybe someone will find you.

    My current partner and I have been together for 20 years. We met in a bar on a slow night. So, you never know.

  14. PinoyWitch profile image86
    PinoyWitchposted 16 months ago

    My advice, stop looking for The One, Be The One. Try to channel everything you want in a person, but still be yourself. Kindness, Maturity or whatever. I'm not saying that you don't have any of that but if your looks are in the way, just remember that it's not gonna last forever. Someone, someday will eventually find you for You. And as I recently learned, Love yourself first, the rest will fall into place.  Hope this helps.