Why Do Women Find It Difficult To Ask A Guy Point Blank If He Is Attracted To He

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  1. ngureco profile image79
    ngurecoposted 12 years ago

    Why Do Women Find It Difficult To Ask A Guy Point Blank If He Is Attracted To Her?

  2. stricktlydating profile image85
    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    I have no problem asking a man I'm interested in this question, I think it's a really sexy question to ask.  But if a woman is finding it hard to ask a man this question it would be when she is afraid of rejection.

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    Whiteiris42posted 12 years ago

    Women may find it difficult to be so forthright as to put someone on the spot, especially when a negative answer would require quick thinking to produce an artful response or require the respondent to reply with outright rudeness in return. Also, its much more fun to find out in more subtle ways.

  4. Senojism profile image60
    Senojismposted 12 years ago

    Why not , they should and get a true answer instead of wondering.

  5. retellect profile image68
    retellectposted 12 years ago

    Women hate rejection. If she finds it difficult to ask a guy point blank if he finds her attractive then she must have some attraction to him. She always knows that the possibility is there of him saying "no" which can really hurt her. I think most women flirt to get a reaction, if he flirts back then she knows that he finds her attractive. Much easier than asking point blank!

  6. Edgeymon profile image59
    Edgeymonposted 12 years ago

    I think this is more down to the individual really. Though to be perfectly honest it's one of those questions that you want to know the answer to but at the same time are afraid of what you'll hear.

  7. dabeaner profile image60
    dabeanerposted 12 years ago

    Most women are even more insecure than men.

    There is a saying "Never ask a question you may not like the answer to."  Maybe they are heeding that.  Too bad they don't remember that when they ask about whether "does that dress look good on ..."

    Now, ladies, if you want some educational material that will obviate the necessity for asking that question, rent the movie "Legally Blonde".

  8. believeinhim profile image60
    believeinhimposted 12 years ago

    I wouldn't ask that question. He wouldn't have asked you out if he wasn't attracted.

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    blong72posted 12 years ago

    I thought women already had a sixth sense about this anyway? Just ask him, if hes hesitating at all then maybe hes not. If a woman asked me this question and I def was attracted to her I would be honest and tell her. Depends also on how many dates etc you have been on. Some guys dont want to give up the power and tell you hes all interested and attracted to you yet. Just go with your womanly instinct.

  10. karycter profile image60
    karycterposted 12 years ago

    Women need love to be happy.  A woman doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love her.  If a guy pursues a woman, she will feel more loved.  Nothing hurts more than to not feel loved.  If a woman hears that a man doesn't find her attractive, it will hurt.  Also, guys can feel awkward or put on the defensive if asked point blank.  Most women are smart enough to drop hints so that the man can pursue if he wants to.

  11. chellehernandez profile image60
    chellehernandezposted 12 years ago

    Difficult in a sense that such has not been the norm, tradition and culture for some... 

    In our country, Filipinas tend to be conservative at first - it is a mind controlling thing over the real desire.  However, once commitment has been made, we tend to give it all and show our affection too much - now the heart rules over the mind.

    There should be balance though...

  12. scentualhealing profile image59
    scentualhealingposted 12 years ago

    Why should we have to?
    I mean like it should be obvious or not.

    You should have sooo many fish in the sea
    to choose from it shouldnt matter.

    Life is too short to sit in waiting.

    So  if he wants to get next to you he ought to make his presence and feelings known
    or move the hell on already. 
    Cos' you sure the hell will.

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    Dog On A Missionposted 12 years ago

    Two reasons. First, he might lie. Second, it might be taken as a declaration of interest in him.

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    Vina Maeposted 12 years ago

    2+2=4. do the math!    Body language  is a  MUST  for mating practices or anything else after 12 years of age. Don't know BL?
    Learn it!   Body Language is a proven deterrent for hurt and scars in most cases.  Don't ask questions that you can figure for yourself.here ,  as Questions for a man seem to scream a different message from what a female intends  it to be.      A male
    says, "Oh, she's coming on too strong for this union". while a female just wants facts. Most men have the "you 're  pursuing me"
    complex" The man does not want to be "caught". The old adage says, "make him chase you until you 'catch' him!"is still "in vogue". ha

  15. Shealy Healy profile image60
    Shealy Healyposted 12 years ago

    This is easy-a woman might find it difficult to ask a guy point blank if he is attracted to her-because she is afraid to hear the answer to that question or even worse she most likely already knows the answer to the question.

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    dracaslairposted 12 years ago

    well i was raised the guy makes the first move.the guy is to call you or vist you.girls are not to chase the guy.that make you look to easy.

  17. lostdogrwd profile image60
    lostdogrwdposted 12 years ago

    rejection. and it the same with men so it not a woman thing. even when men put money up to get a woman they do it so the woman would not reject them.

  18. the pink umbrella profile image71
    the pink umbrellaposted 12 years ago

    your generalizing women here. Its ok, though, many people do that with gender. Listen people, There are only 2 genders an a zillion people in the world. You cant say "women do this" or "men do that." Its not fair to lump someone in a catagorie when there are only 2 catagories to choose from. I myself have never had difficulty asking a man anything when it comes to attraction.

  19. davidwagar profile image60
    davidwagarposted 12 years ago

    because this is a tradition that boy will always ask this first not a girl

  20. dashingscorpio profile image84
    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    This sounds more like a question a "girl"  in Jr. High might ask and not an actual woman. Men generally will only ask you out if they're attracted to you. We don't go around asking just anyone out to spend our hard earned money on.

  21. mdlawyer profile image45
    mdlawyerposted 11 years ago

    May be it is in the nature's or creater's scheme that it is women who are to be chased and not the other way round. This aspect can be seen among most of the birds and animals also.

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    Johanna Bakerposted 11 years ago

    Because she does not want to hear the answer if it means that he will tell her he is not really, so she fears being rejected. Another thing is women know that a guy has trouble sorting through his feelings and if she asks him before he is ready to give a true answer then it can put him off the relationship and her. He does not want to be with someone who makes him feel uncomfortable and this type of question can make him feel that way.Most women know this intuitively.

  23. C.V.Rajan profile image61
    C.V.Rajanposted 11 years ago

    Simply because she cannot face a honest answer if the guy speaks the truth and says no!


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